"I wish people warned us about having more children"

[Propercrimboselecta]

Didn't know what else to put as the title, but we have received this advice from quite a few people now...
We have one child and have always said we would like two. We have plenty of time for others and aren't giving serious consideration to another any time soon (we have both said in maybe 4/5 years), but at the moment we do enjoy how things are with having one.

When discussing with others (when everyone asks if we have plans for others) everyone seems to say the same thing - I wish people warned us how hard it would be having more than one, we wouldn't have had more if we knew, etc.

I was just wondering how other people felt about this? I'm not sure if it relates more to people that have had 2 under 2 etc.

My parents had three kids, one & two close together, then me - five years after that.
I ended up not being close to them at all, by their choice and it hurt.
So my cousin and I, 9 months apart, became extremely close - I wouldn’t have it any other way.
A couple of years ago the eldest child in my family died - and now the middle one resents my closeness with my cousin.
JFC

Sunnyrainshowers
I'm so pleased to hear that! At the rate they are going though, I won't last another year. Not sure whether it will be the stress or the wine that gets me first 😂😂

@Tiny2018 🍷🍷🍷🍷here you go then hang in there

I haven’t found it any harder having two kids as opposed to one BUT the thing I have found difficult (I can’t really regret it because it couldn’t have happened any quicker due to changes in relationships) is to have them so far apart (6 years). If I could have my time again and could have had them closer I absolutely would have done. The age gap means that they don’t play together nicely, they are interested in completely different things, when we go for days out they are generally tailored to the interests of one child and not both because there is very little that entertains two children of such different ages etc. My advice to you based on my own situation is if you are in a position to have another one do it sooner rather than later.