To be utterly disgusted by "DDLG"?

[BumbleBeeeeeee]

On a Facebook mum group, someone started a thread about kinks. No problem with kinky things whatsoever, do whatever you want in your own home. But someone mentioned the acronym DDLG which was explained to mean "daddy dom/little girl". Ie female/"sub" pretending to be a child in the bedroom. Talk of sticker books and colouring in and pretending to be a certain age, more often than not toddler/preschool age.
That mothers can do this and happily have kids with men who want to fuck them while they're pretending to be children is absolutely vile and shocking.
It cant just be me?!

Once you start posting about it in a FB group, making YouTube videos about it etc, it’s not in the privacy of your own bedroom. You’re then presenting childlike behaviour as sexually exciting to other people.

As long as no children are involved, I feel it is very much up to consenting adults to do what they want in their own private spaces.

It's not in their own private space though. It's on Facebook.

Jinx ^^

It's 'just' a kink/role play. I don't think there's a link between it and being an actual paedo.

What do you class as an "actual peado?" Do you think they're not a paedophile until they actually abuse a child? By defintion a paedophile is someone who is sexually attracted to children. If they're roleplaying scenarios involving children then chances are they are a paedophile.

This is the on Mumsnet, not fb.

YANBU, it's creepy. A lot of these people have no boundaries. Tumblr is full of them. You'll get people posting totally innocuous pics of toys and then some bloody little will pop up going 'DADDY DADDY I WANT ONE' and she and her Daddy will start roleplaying, never mind whether other posters consent to being involved.

Also, I don't get the appeal of having someone act like a toddler. Gross.

That’s absolutely grim.

It also shows the nonsensical nature of the internet that people demand trigger warnings for everything, except apparently for people role playing child sexual abuse, because it would be kink shaming to claim that was triggering.

Fantasising about having sex with a child should be illegal. Now im not talking about teenage schoolgirl blurred lines stuff.
Acting out, thinking about, fantasising about a toddler having sex should not be okay in anyones book. Im off to live with the martians.

I think it’s just another sad element of the misogyny we live in tbh.

My DP (aka feminist ally) pointed out when we went shopping how female mannequins have tiny bodies like young teens/children and how Victoria’s Secret is designed like teen girls bedroom. It’s really gross when you start noticing it.

It’s nothing new. For a long time men have preferred their women (Girls) young. I’m just tired of noticing new facets of misogyny and how it hasn’t gone away yet.

My friends parents just split because he had an affair on sugar daddy website.

I wouldn’t even know where to begin to fight it but it’s a vein that runs very deep in our society.

I’m also in the FB group and was horrified by the amount of personal sexual information people have been sharing in there tonight.... Surely adults understand how social media works?

@TheHappyHerbivore sorry but that made me laugh 😂😂

@BohemianDream

Fantasising about having sex with a child should be illegal. Now im not talking about teenage schoolgirl blurred lines stuff. Acting out, thinking about, fantasising about a toddler having sex should not be okay in anyones book. Im off to live with the martians.

No, it shouldn't.

Not because it's not disgusting, but because no-one can police what anyone thinks.

It doesn't matter what kind of awful things people have in their heads - as long as they stay there, it's not a crime.

I am not bothered by what they do in the bedroom.

I am bothered by this pseudo-child-abuse seeming so normal to the woman that she's chatting about it on FB using acronyms she supposedly assumes everyone else knows too. It smacks of having lost touch with reality. It smacks of thinking well, obviously all men are sexually excited by eroticised toddlers, this isn't unusual. which is a concern for different obvious reasons.

I think I know what fb group this is, honestly so many people in that group have no discretion or post something judging other parents then get irate when they are called out on it (eg "I just don't understand how other mothers don't want to pick their child up from school").. I've actually left the group as it's toxic, so I'd the on topic one ran by the breastapo (and I say that as breastfeeding mother who fed both my babies for 18 months each).

As for the "fetish" it's totally creepy I agree.

I've seen this fb post. Why people are openly admitting to some of the things they do in private (or not in some cases) is beyond me. Imagine your boss/neighbour/family seeing what your 'kinks' are.

I'm well aware that it is not a crime. Theres certainly a lot worse that goes on unpunished by the law. People seem to be a bunch of peado-apologists. The world is run by men, many of whom are sick bastards.

sorry, i was trying to reply to someone there i should go to bed.

Sounds like Facebook has gotten much weirder since I left.

I am bothered by this pseudo-child-abuse seeming so normal to the woman that she's chatting about it on FB using acronyms she supposedly assumes everyone else knows too. It smacks of having lost touch with reality. It smacks of thinking well, obviously all men are sexually excited by eroticised toddlers, this isn't unusual. which is a concern for different obvious reasons

I agree with this, we need to stop normalising shit like this.

It’s probably a fake profile. People like this spend a lot of time in groups to try and make this type of thing more normal.

@Dinosaurpooped

It’s probably a fake profile. People like this spend a lot of time in groups to try and make this type of thing more normal.

So many women are responding defending it. The post has 700+ comments! Probably a 50/50 split of defending and disagreeing. OP is getting particularly defensive and goady now, calling herself "daddy's little princess" and everyone who disagrees is a "kink shamer". Nauseating.

The normalisation of it all is irksome.

There's also a lot of talk of CNC which I have learned is "consensual non-consent" ie letting your partner pretend to rape you and pretending to want them to stop.

A man who is able to continue having sex with a woman who is actively trying to look upset and asking them to stop seems like a dangerous man indeed.

Lots of talk of how "genuine doms" are respectful and have boundaries/limits etc - fine, but if this is so normalised and inexperienced/opportunist men who really are rapists/pedos etc try to get involved and take advantage, it all feels very dangerous and unsettling.

I fear for my daughters.

@Lockheart

You cannot be serious. Thought police indeed.

As long as everyone involved is of legal age and consenting then of course you can't police what people enjoy sexually, just because you personally find it distasteful.

Similarly people are allowed to fantasise about whatever and whoever they like - things that go on in someone's head are not illegal, no matter how immoral they would be if acted out in real life.

I would be in line to be sued by quite a number of men for unauthorised use of their image...

There’s a huge difference between fantasizing about a famous handsome film star or sports personality and fantasizing about a child. I’d be very concerned about someone who needed their partner to look and behave like a child in order to feel sexually attracted to them. How would you feel if this person was fantasizing about your child?

Acting out, thinking about, fantasising about a toddler having sex should not be okay in anyones book. Im off to live with the martians.

Yep

There's also a lot of talk of CNC which I have learned is "consensual non-consent" ie letting your partner pretend to rape you and pretending to want them to stop. A man who is able to continue having sex with a woman who is actively trying to look upset and asking them to stop seems like a dangerous man indeed.

And yep.