Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

[whatshardknock]

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

@whatshardknock

I think his reply was rude & weird.

He's on holiday with his adult daughter & his parents...& will spend the entire time drunk?

Why did you split up in January?

I think he's enjoying having you at his beck & call, but given how unsure of yourself all this is making you, I really don't think he's good for you.

@helloitsmeyetagain

If I am on holiday the phone stays off or at home, and nearest and dearest have the hotel phone number in case of emergencies.

Wow. That's a very retro way of 'using' a phone.

No. My mobile is always on silent or in another room anyway so it doesn't intrude on my life. And I'd probably be quite touched that anyone cared about my holiday anyway.

@whatshardknock

I feel like Monica off friends when she's trying to be "breezy" with Richard

But Richard wasn't the right one for her, if you let go of this you might find your chandler. He's not the one for you, OP- he really isn't

Not really. People can text whenever they want but you don't have to reply, it's not like a phone call/face time. I normally just ignore messages on holiday.

Yes it’s annoying you’re being clingy and needy. Pack it in

@GimmePie

You sound terribly needy and borderline stalkerish.

Let him enjoy his holiday. He’s an ex ffs, move on.

This.

I detest too many questions from anybody. Feels like I'm being grilled. And you can tell when somebody is just trying to string out a conversation. There are natural pauses and ends to text conversations, just like verbal ones. Observe them and use them. His reply does sound a bit off but it was his first night of holiday. It's expected that hits attention is elsewhere. He'll avoid texting you at all if you just jump on every one and try to develop it into a big dialogue

I'm just going to wait it out till he texts me next.
If it's not till he gets home then so be it.
Me blowing up his phone every day is not going to make him think I'm not clingy is it.

I texted a friend of mine the other day to 'end' a text conversation by saying I was taking my son shoe shopping. I have her chat muted or my phone would be pinging all the time. When I looked a few hours later there were SIX messages about kids shoes, including send me pics of all the options they bring out and the ones you choose

Anyone constantly texting me would do my head in, but I'll happily just mute them or ignore.

@Thesheerrelief what's wrong with that ? Surely she was just trying to be helpful.
I would probably do that without thinking I was being annoying

If you can't see what is wrong with that, OP you may need more help than we first thought 😆

You'd ask someone who was busy shoe shopping for a toddler to send pics of all the options? That's OTT in my opinion. I don't have the time or energy for that. What's the point of it? I was going to choose one that DS liked and I liked, no point sending options to anyone else Why would I need anyone's help with that? It's unnecessary and yes, it's annoying

It also felt like she felt my attention should be on her when I just wanted to get the shoe shopping done. It's overly involved and that's why the chat is muted.

@Thesheerrelief oh sorry I read that wrong.
I thought you meant you had asked her what shoes to buy and she sent you pics of ones she liked.
Ok that is ott and a bit weird

Okay, that makes more sense! I just vanish when conversations get a bit tiresome like that. She used to send messages asking if I were okay but I'd reply later to say I'd been busy. I can't sustain ongoing dialogue all day long - or send pics of all the shoe options for a 2.5 year old!

[quote whatshardknock]@Muggedoffa he's an ex,now we are speaking again (it's a strange set up )[/quote]
OP you're sounding too needy.

Let him have his holiday and arrange to meet up after he returns - if he's an ex you're trying to rekindle a relationship with, the last thing he needs is to be crowded. And in honestly any relationship that's "a strange set up" is aka dysfunctional.

Do you have your own social life?
I can highly recommend cultivating your own interests, so you focus attention on other things than texting someone who is themselves off having fun. Take a leaf out of his book and be independent!

Yeah I do.
I'm actually in London at the min meeting friends.
Although today I've been alone since 1pm so back in hotel room now.
I'm here for 2 more nights till Saturday.
I should be enjoying myself.
I spend too much time worrying about no texts I forget to have fun.

Now you’ve spotted what you’re doing, OP, don’t waste another minute of your time in London with friends. If you’re going to be on your own for any of it, plan something a bit different to do, even if it’s just a walk to a new area. Its great you have something of your own to focus on.

Why are you twisting yourself in knots desperately trying to mould yourself into the perfect image of what he wants and desperately trying to moderate your behaviour, your mood, your contact or anything else you can think of because he "gets scared off"

Fuck sake why are you working so hard?
Why are you wasting so so much energy?

Don't you think the minimum you deserve is someone you can be yourself around and wants you just the way you are?
Who shows you without you begging or scraping for attention that he wants to be in touch with you and is interested in being in a relationship?

Why did you break up the first time?

Yes it would annoy me. I miss the days of no phones when a holiday meant you didn’t hear from anyone for the whole time.

Yes that would annoy me. He's on holiday with his family.

Got to the V&A. Or Covent Garden. Or get a river taxi Or go for a run in Hyde park. Stop fussing over some man you don't know.