Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

[whatshardknock]

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

Depends if you've messaged him again since last night?

Love, he is NOT into you. Stop this and find someone who is

No I haven't messaged since last night

@whatshardknock

Ok ..how do I stop looking clingy ? Have I done too much damage ?

Yes, to be honest.

If you're trying not to "look" a certain way or trying to "play it cool" then you aren't acting naturally and being yourself. Therefore can't be in a relationship where you are genuinely yourself instead of an unhealthy dynamic where one party has to be less available and chase the other.

I used to do the stuff you are instinctively doing in my early 20s. I'm 33 now and realise it doesn't work - it sounds like you and him may be a little older than me. Don't you want to be in an authentic relationship with so someone? Instead of chasing an ex who can't be arsed to message on holiday and sends formal "I cannot answer that question currently" messages?

I HATE being bothered when I'm out and about because I'm an introvert and it feels intrusive, but when I'm in a happy relationship I either don't feel that way about them checking in (because I love them and they get me) or they leave me to it because I'm cool alone.

He doesn't want the level of communication or tone of communication you do. That means you aren't a good match. You aren't compatible.

Why do you want to be with someone you are having to "play it cool" for and game play?

My husband's sister used to do this. She never bothers with us unless she wants something anyway but when we go away it's like she has to insert herself into it because she doesn't like missing out. She would text constantly or ask to facetime.

He's told her to stop (much more nicely than I would have) and she doesn't do it anymore. Either that or she still does it and he just doesn't tell me.

Oh OP just stop
You are going to tie yourself up in knots over someone you haven’t seen in 8 months.

If you have to play games to get someone’s attention it isn’t a healthy relationship.
Don’t text him, put your phone down & maybe spend some time on yourself. Why do you feel the need to do this dance for him?

Oh dear god. Being in touch too much pushes him away? This is not going to turn into happy ever after, OP. Time to move on. Gather up your dignity and get on with your life.

I apologise if this sounds rude but I wouldn’t know how to respond to your texts.

Don’t forget the suncream!
ok

Hope you’re getting a good tan!
thanks

See what I mean? What do you say to those texts? It’s drivel. I cba to jab away at my phone to respond to drivel...maybe he thinks like me?

I always wonder what is being said when people are constantly texting other people...now I know. This is why I’m not texty.

In answer to your question...yes. It would annoy me.

@Oopsiedaisyy but he’s NOT her boyfriend!! He’s her EX!

OP...you’re just not listening are you 🤷‍♀️

@GinWithRosie none so deaf as those that don't want to hear

You can stop looking clingy by stopping being clingy.

He is not into you. Stop chasing. Stop trying to win him back. Stop. Just stop.

You are firmly in the future cringe zone.

[quote whatshardknock]@Sparklesocks does it look clingy if I just ask how he's day is?
A breezy message.
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Yes! Put your phone down!

But she's obviously trying to get back with him and thus hoping for gf status

How is he meant to know it's breezy 🤣

I know just how you feel OP but you must leave him alone!! And find someone nicer!

STOP OP!

Don't message him, don't ask him questions, don't think about him. Don't let him live rent-free in your head at all.

You're embarrassing yourself and bugging him and he's probably eye-rolling every time you message him.

Do not message him. Don't be breezy. Don't try and initiate a chat. Let him come to you, if he's interested.

Men aren't an endangered species.

He hardly sounds like a prince OP

Stop messaging him, it makes you sound desperately needy. That's not a good look. And it gives him room to fuck about with your head too.

I feel like Monica off friends when she's trying to be "breezy" with Richard

OP where are you?

A responsible MNer needs to come round and wrestle your phone off you

Is it ever a good idea to go back?
You broke up for a reason - either he didn't lke you enough or you didn't like him enough.
You are in danger of becoming his emergency shag.
Is that what you want?

why havent you met yet?
do you live far away?

If I am on holiday the phone stays off or at home, and nearest and dearest have the hotel phone number in case of emergencies.

It does all sound a bit millennial and teenspeak. But if he has a 20yo dd then you must be in your 40s at least?!