Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

[whatshardknock]

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

I’m not sure what most others are saying as I only read first few. Not being nasty but you are coming across as slightly stalker-ish. It’s not just love interests but friendships can also feel like this. Even if you are just being friendly It is so bloody annoying.

I’ll give u an example - I met this lovely girl at baby club and whenever we would go on holiday she would text me silly random, pointless things. It gets too much. I didn’t want to be rude so kept replying back to her. In the end I would dread seeing her name pop up on my screen. Other friends I would be excited as they would text once in a while as they knew I was on holiday but her messages started grating on me. My advice let him miss you.

Also don’t be encouraged by him replying as he’s probably just being polite. Even my DH would say “gosh is it (name) again?). If you’re on holiday you don’t want to be bothered by anyone.

Yes I think you should do something you enjoy and try to forget about him while he's away.

He didn't just reply tho he did start another conversation and then text me again.
Although I agree I don't want to appear stalkerish ..and it's like we are still together.

he did start another conversation and then text me again.

I used to do this to my “friend” I mentioned before. I would feel guilty as I was maybe short with her and then I would message her out of guilt. Seriously just don’t text people when they’re on holiday.

@whatshardknock

What about a "hope your getting a good tan " Or "don't forget the sun cream"?

No that sounds really annoying. Let him enjoy his holiday.

@whatshardknock

He didn't just reply tho he did start another conversation and then text me again. Although I agree I don't want to appear stalkerish ..and it's like we are still together.

@whatshardknock it's not like you're still together. It's August. You haven't seen him since January. A few texts when he's bored is not a relationship. He's not seeing you= he's not interested in you. It really is that simple. He's a grown man. MOVE. ON.

I actually stopped talking to her as it got too much. Even when I was shopping she would text “seen anything nice hun? Xx”.

It is very annoying. I think some people love texting but others like me don’t.

Did he say "I can't answer right now" or " I can't answer THAT right now" because to me that's 2 completely different texts- id take the second to mean he hadn't had a chance to enjoy it yet.

I genuinely thought you were both really young (him going away with parents/children/getting drunk/playing stupid ‘text mind games’ etc). But no...turns out you’re middle aged 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Man alive! Seriously fucked up behaviour...find your dignity OP, really!!

Of course not

I just wouldn't reply all the time if busy

Are u lonely at the moment? Maybe that’s why u feel like contacting him. Please don’t x

He's old enough to have a 20 year old daughter but spends all day on holiday drunk with his mum and dad? Why on earth are you even texting him?

Sorry just re read he said
"I'm not available to answer that question right about now"

"I'm not available to answer that question right about now"

That’s not an automated answer in my opinion. He has written it! Please don’t write anything else now. He’s trying to have fun with his family. His daughter is probably asking who keeps texting him so you’re probably putting him in awkward position.

I would just leave him to it unless he instigates and you reply. Nobody wants to look clingy. I certainly don’t like being glued to my phone when I’m relaxing, part of a holiday is escaping home.

Yes it would annoy me. If the person on holiday messaged me first I would respond but I wouldn't dream of bothering someone with inane shite if they were on holiday. I save that for normal life.

@Annonn31t I've only text him once,then he kept the conversation going,sending pics /videos etc
I won't text now till he texts me.

@Sparklesocks does it look clingy if I just ask how he's day is?
A breezy message.

He's seen somebody at the resort that he fancies.

No OP. Don't text him!

Yes. Clingy and would produce an eye roll probably.
Just live your life lol

Just don't text him! Anything you send will look cling

Ok ..how do I stop looking clingy ?
Have I done too much damage ?

When I'm away, or he is, my bf and I text each other, can't imagine not. But... We both know we'll be busier so may not be around as much.

Nice to get a "missing you" too