Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

[whatshardknock]

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

I text my friends pretty much every day regardless of where any of us are in the world. It would genuinely never occur to me to change my texting habits when I’m on holiday or when someone else is on holiday, though if one of my friends was away and didn’t respond I wouldn’t think anything of it.

Work texts are completely different.

No , don't send those just leave it till he contacts you. It would annoy me too. But I ignore all phone related stuff on holiday.

But I definitely wouldn’t text an ex!

I try too hard don't I.
A lot of the time I start the conversation.
I think he's got into the habit of expecting it will always be me chatting first.
There is times he starts the conversation but mostly me.
We broke up because he was immature,he never took responsibility for anything and nothing was he's fault.

Those traits of his won't have changed since January. And they are all really unattractive!

I think he's got into the habit of expecting it will always be me chatting first
Sounds more like he doesnt think about you unless you message him. He just isnt interested.
But also, he sounds bloody awful. Why are you interested in him?

@Gingerfish91

Yes it would annoy me. I miss the days of no phones when a holiday meant you didn’t hear from anyone for the whole time.

Exactly. I frequently turn off my phone for days on end It's fantastic being free of the burden of having to deal with things that are quite frankly a distraction.

People nowadays have a constant incessant need to stay connected, it's a nervous tic. I don't mean purposefully leaving a phone on to receive a call for a reason, it's just the random time-wasting stuff that saps mental energy.

Time to

....focus on your own needs, @whatshardknock - it's positive that you're away meeting friends. As suggested upthread, get out, see things make your own experiences and then if you do want to catch up with this guy, you'll be showing him you have a life of your own.

The fact you say he is immature spells red flags though. Meet someone who takes responsibility and initiative- do better for yourself!

Don’t text him, leave it.

Enjoy london & find someone new, you deserve to be happy.

@whatshardknock

I try too hard don't I. A lot of the time I start the conversation. I think he's got into the habit of expecting it will always be me chatting first. There is times he starts the conversation but mostly me. We broke up because he was immature,he never took responsibility for anything and nothing was he's fault.

I just think you don't realise that you deserve better. If you did you would see past the emotions (those ones that cloud everything!) because your worth for yourself would force you to see that the way he treated you before is below the minimum you should expect or deserve.

The man you are describing is not someone you should be so interested in imo.

That man will never make a teammate or an equal partnership, he will leave you consistently frustrated because he won't work with you!

Enjoy London and you're friends!

I don’t think you should get annoyed about it. Everyone is ‘connected’, a lot of people are at home unable to go anywhere / see many people so are probably messaging more than usual. I’d either ignore the messages until you get back (‘hi, sorry for the late reply, I was trying to switch off’ etc) or reply a few days later (implying you’re not always on your phone). Not anything to get annoyed about

If you have to pretend to feel different than you do, or be less ‘clingy’ maybe you are he are not a good match, you need someone you can be yourself with to be happy.

I wouldn’t bother texting again. The last time this happened to me I was with someone who wasn’t as into me as I him. We went out for 6 months and I ended it when he ignored me for an entire weekend when I was starting a new job. He wasn’t bothered. Since then I have only ever texted people as a reply to them.

It would depend on who it was and how often they texted. I have an acquaintance who bombards me with needy texts and emails most days. I ignore most of them, they still keep coming. I suppose I could block them, but I feel sorry for them and I’d feel guilty.

I’d lay off the texts for now OP. He’ll contact you if he wants to,

It wouldn’t annoy me! Ignore your phone it it annoys you.

Every day, yes it would most definitely annoy me. Maybe on arrival and once during holiday. Unless for whatever reason I was away from my son then that would be acceptable.

I have a relative who does this and it really annoys me. What’s the weather like?........ What are you doing today?........ Here’s a photo of the weather here?........ What are you doing tonight?......... I just find it really stressful to have ping, ping, ping at various points in the day.

I occasionally put the phone on silent, but I like to keep it on most of in case there’s a problem with a family member who had been very ill over the past few years.

I just feel that it’s an intrusion, but this is probably a generational thing.

You’re in London. Join Bumble NOW. You don’t need to meet anyone (although I met some lovely people there) but it massively takes your mind off the misery of this.

I’ve been there. Perks you up no end. And you can have nice conversations and shut down the ones which aren’t. Gives you some control which you maybe need lovely?

Also completely separately, I booked the national gallery yesterday for a wander round and was brilliant. Easy peasy to do, gallery almost empty and a great hour. X

I’d ignore it.. I prefer to go to places where they don’t have WiFi I love putting the phone away getting and getting the book out.

See I would loathe it if a new man I was seeing text me every day, but I hate that anyway, holiday or not as I'm a grumpy introvert! If he's initiating chat too though (and it sounds equal) then I don't see the issue..not sure why he had a chat with you then said "I can't discuss that right now". Bit weird. He could've said, "I'm busy or with friends, chat later" or something less dramatic/curt sounding.

@whatshardknock you're not being unreasonable at all!!! You're on holiday for your own reasons not to satisfy someone's else's needy behaviour... I remember my bf's now DH sister in law (brother's wife) kept messaging me daily when we were away asking if "we were having fun"... drove me crazy just seeing the messages

My neighbour texted every day, often more than once, to see if her cat was coping...

We broke up because he was immature,he never took responsibility for anything and nothing was he's fault.. Yes, I can see why you want him back ...

Why have the phone switched on if you're on holiday and don't want disturbing.