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To feel ignored on MN?

175 replies

StrawberryMartini · 04/10/2007 07:41

See thread here.

My advice wasn't even agreed with - just completely ignored and the same advice given twice. Do I have to pass some sort of test before anyone acknowledges my posts here?

Not the first time either!

OP posts:
SSSandy2 · 04/10/2007 08:55

I've read a lot of threads like this one, saying the same thing. It happens all the time. Just take it in your stride. Maybe your advice was read by someone else(not the OP) who heeded it and found it helpful.

I'm afraid that's MN.

Lulumama · 04/10/2007 08:55

it is not that your advice means nothing

very often, advice is duplicated

if nothing was duplicated most threads here would be about 5 posts long

BandofMutantMonsters · 04/10/2007 08:57

Don't take it personally.

Hunker posted the same advice as me last night and I said so, and she said, oh yeah, I hadn't read your post. So it could be someone had read the OP and not the rest of the posts. Sometimes if I'm in a hurry I only read op's posts, or even JUST the first one.

SSSandy2 · 04/10/2007 08:57

actually strawberry what I find worse is when someone HAS read your advice and comes on correcting it.

Those posts really hack me off and I don't care at ALL whether they are justified. They are SO annoying.

And anyway strawberry you are far too polite for MN still, I think you may need to sharpen your claws a little

Sheherazadethegoat · 04/10/2007 08:58

don't take it personally - UNLESS teh op comes on straight after your post and BUMPS it - good god that annoys me.

lou33 · 04/10/2007 09:00

zippi's niche area isnt that hard tho, she just tells everyone to say yes if in doubt.

Sheherazadethegoat · 04/10/2007 09:01

oh, i want a niche!

zippitippitoes · 04/10/2007 09:05

the advantage of my niche is that i don't have to get drawn in to arguments and because it's not that popylar i'm free to post utter crap all the rest of the time

BandofMutantMonsters · 04/10/2007 09:06

Ah but Sheraz, sometimes you don't see the post til you've posted again, if you forget to refresh.

Lulumama · 04/10/2007 09:06

i like you zippi, you always post excellent advice

Sheherazadethegoat · 04/10/2007 09:07

bomm - what about the ones who bump TWICE. i shall not be moved - this is the only thing that pisses me off on mumsnet.

lou33 · 04/10/2007 09:07

zippi is one of the funniest posters on here, imo

BandofMutantMonsters · 04/10/2007 09:09

Well then that is just rude really.

You can easily bump the thread with an acknoledgement and thanks after all. If the advice wasn't quite what you wanted or you are after lots of different opinions.

BandofMutantMonsters · 04/10/2007 09:09

apologies for crap spelling btw

Sheherazadethegoat · 04/10/2007 09:10

bump

flowerybeanbag · 04/10/2007 09:10

Strawberry it happens to all of us. Most of my posts on MN are giving advice in my niche area. Most people are very good at acknowledging/thanking but to start with and even recently as well, some people don't even acknowledge it.
But stick around on your area and as zippi says, soon people will start waiting/asking for you, people ask for me now which is lovely

lou33 · 04/10/2007 09:11

i dont have a niche

is it nice having a niche?

Sheherazadethegoat · 04/10/2007 09:12

maybe there should be a 'come and state your niche' thread and then we would know to ask for advice.

ruddynorah · 04/10/2007 09:13

sometimes a poster comes along, reads what someone else puts then wants to elaborate or give their own example of it. imagine a mum is struggling with bf so one poster says you need more skin to skin, put to breast as often as possible. then nothing... the OP will be thinking yes but what does everyone else think? and sometimes posts most certainly DO need to be corrected. this is one of the most read parenting forums on t'internet. you can't have faux information floating about for any old person to read. you can't just leave it there unchallenged to be POLITE.

KristinaM · 04/10/2007 09:13

strawberry D - soemtimes what happens if that you open a thread, think of what you woudl like to post and then type it. by teh time you do that , others have cross posted with you. especially if you dont type fast, or you are going away from the Pc to do other things. i think thats what happened with teh original thread.

i have often coem back to teh PC after seeing to kids, not refreshed teh thread and posted, only to see that teh discussion has moved on

honestly i dont think its anything personal

ruddynorah · 04/10/2007 09:14

also, with something like bf, i think people want the answers from people they recognise, so it will take a while before your posts are associated with a regular 'expert.'

lou33 · 04/10/2007 09:14

i think i will just follow zippi about and comment on her posts

i could be good at that

MorticiasMother · 04/10/2007 09:15

Well I did a thread ages ago about whether 7 was too young to be a latch-key kid. Most popular thread I ever did that one! I found myself though constantly popping in to acknowledge all those who had posted something. Even when I had made a decision there were still those who posted in reply to the OP and had not read the rest, and if I got asked one question once, well...............! But I was grateful that so many people had taken the time to reply and so I felt it only polite to acknowledge them and answer the same question 10 times over. I think if you start a thread you have a responsibility to those who then post on it.

See strawberryMartini, you've started this popular thread and opened up a good debate about Mumsnet etiquette!

MorticiasMother · 04/10/2007 09:17

I also find it quite telling that when you change your name you find yourself getting ignored quite a lot. I never thought Mumsnet would be quite so cliquey, but it's a real eye-opener when you change names. I do feel for newbies. My sister said the very same thing when she posted on a Multiple Births thread - her post was completely ignored and it really narked her and put her off posting anymore.

I do think there are some ignorant swines on Mumsnet, just as there are everywhere unfortunately.

BandofMutantMonsters · 04/10/2007 09:19

MN etiquette is quite tricky sometimes.

and pmsl at sheraz's bump. I know it's not Sheraz btw, but it's funnier that way imo and I am too lazy to write the whole lot