To leave DD(11) home all day?

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DD is 11, nearly 12, just starting secondary school. Very well behaved and sensible. She likes having an hour or so to herself when I go out shopping, walk the dog etc but has never been left longer than that.

Her Dad has just got a job after many years unemployed, I work in a school and go back 3 days before DD starts her new school, there's no way in hell I can take the first 3 days of term off and he won't ask about time off because of his job being new (he started this week).

DD would be on her own from about 7.30am to 6pm for 3 days running. Her dad insists that'll be fine, I don't like the idea, but I know I can be a bit anxious about things and now I can't work out if it's ok or not.

So wibu to leave her home alone that long?

I'll confess I'm always (even now) a bit iffy about mine having a bath when alone in the house. This is mainly because my mum's cousin sadly drowned in the bath (probably due to undiagnosed epilepsy).

However I've never outright forbidden it, just asked them to have a shower instead which seems to make my mind a little easier.

My ds would be completely mortified if I got a neighbour to look in on him! He knows to seek help if necessary but randoms popping in would be awful

Jojobar, does this mean you wouldn't have a bath yourself unless someone is there to look after you? Surely you would be equally at risk?

I would leave my12 year old for max 2 hours, just about to trial this one day a week and I feel nervous about it!
I think she will be bored and lonely. Are there no friends you could ask a favour of?

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@Infullbloom, sorry but that is shocking and bordering on negligence. Leaving an 11 year old home alone all day 4 days a week is just not right at all

Oh don't be ridiculous, neglect . I'm home by 3, he wasn't getting up until around 10, have several good friends in the street working from home including my ndn and grandparents 5 minute walk away who he was free to visit whenever he wanted and often did for lunch before going out to play with his friends, yep poor neglected child. Perhaps leaving my job and making us homeless would have been a better option?

I was left home at 11 til the early hours (was an emergency) I remember it so well, I cooked myself a huge bowl of tuna past and watched Rain man , top gun and Cocktail. My parents left me with a huge German Shepherd dog who loved me . She would have killed anyone who tried to get in the house 😂

@corythatwas

Jojobar, does this mean you wouldn't have a bath yourself unless someone is there to look after you? Surely you would be equally at risk?

Cory, yes I always avoid baths if I'm home alone (not normally an issue as I'm a shower person, and I'm very rarely at home on my own anymore nowadays!). I think it was so drummed into me as a child/teenager that it's ingrained. Tbh it almost doesn't occur to me to have a bath if I'm on my own.

It's fine. I've left a very responsible Ds2 from 9-3. He loved it!

I did similar with the DDs - there are 2 of them so not quite the same but they were 11 and 12, very sensible and managed fine. I wouldn’t do it for extended periods just because they’d spend all their time on their phones but 3 days is fine if she is happy with it of course.