Shitty partner - ruining sleepover?

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'Dad' decides it would be funny to spray a shit scented spray all over sons sleeping bag and tent that he snd three friends are sleeping in tonight. They are 14. Have i lost a sense of humour or is this a shitty thing to do? Son and friends have not seen each other for six months snd just getting back into the swing of socialising ahead of starting back at school in two weeks.
Also his voice has broken recently and tonight his dad keeps saying he sounds 'gay'.
Am i super sensitive or is he just a complete prick?

He’s a prick.

He sounds awful. Why is he doing this?!

Absolute prick

No you are not super sensitive, he is a complete prick.
I didn’t even know such a spray existed, why has he even got it?
But more importantly what part of this guy thinks it’s acceptable to say that to his son? The gay comment should never be used as an insult and your son must already be feeling self conscious with his voice.
Does this man have any redeeming features? So far he is sounding like a colossal arsehole.

He sounds awful and very immature. How has your son reacted to the spray? Really hope it hasn't ruined his evening. It would be so embarrassing for a teenager to have a dad behaving in that way.

Is your partner always so homophobic? Have you challenged him on this?

Probably thinks its funny. Just that 99% of people don't. Of course these people are wrong and he thinks he is right and meanwhile I am left living with an idiot.

I wouldn't be happy with him using gay as an insult. The spraying would also seriously piss me off. He's a prick

Fucking hell. There should be exams before are allowed to have children.

Before people

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Not many redeeming features really. He pulls in a wage and is handy around the house.
Just completely had enough. Really had enough

Thank you all so far. I really doubt my sanity at times which is why I posted here. I don't have many to confide in and I just am staggered by his antisocial nature.

What a prick. Also aerosols and sprays in general can ruin the waterproofing on a tent.

So not only has he acted like an idiot and purposely ruined a sleepver, hes also homophobic and subjects his own son to homophobia.

How long are you going to have him around your son for, causing him damage?
What have you said to him about it?

Mookie88
Told him it pisses me off and not to do it. He told me thats how he is and hes not changing .
Fml

tell him to move out and not change his shitty juvenile behaviour elsewhere?

Sounds like he has a lot of issues. Your poor DS.

If he is how he is and he's not changing then I'm sure he won't mind packing his bags and fucking off, since you just are how you are and that's what you want.

Sounds like you're pretty done with this and ready to move on. Good for you OP.

Agree it is really not good. The Gay insult is worrying enough but making fun of his teenage son at that stage in his development can do some real damage to his self esteem.

I've seen the fart spray, which I thought was for under 8s.

Show him the door, you need an adult not an adult shaped juvenile in a decent relationship

He's a prick. Nasty, not a very dad thing to do.

It's hard enough raising kids who ARE actually kids. No one needs an extra one, an adult who should know better.

The usage of 'gay' as an insult is horrible.

If the wage he brings in and being handy are worth it too you, fine. But I'd rather learn to do my own DIY and work full time and support myself and my children than put up with such childishness and homophobia.

Elsewyre
Yes you're right, although its all over the bedding and pretty overpowering in a small space. Not harmful just fucking embarrassing

Elsewyre
I love a joke n stuff which is why i wondered if i am taking it too far but its the jokey stuff like ricky gervais where really its bullying masquerading as comedy

Poor boy, I couldn’t be with someone that thought embarrassing my child was acceptable.
He sounds like someone who uses ‘its only banter’ when other people are the butt of his jokes,