Shitty partner - ruining sleepover?

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'Dad' decides it would be funny to spray a shit scented spray all over sons sleeping bag and tent that he snd three friends are sleeping in tonight. They are 14. Have i lost a sense of humour or is this a shitty thing to do? Son and friends have not seen each other for six months snd just getting back into the swing of socialising ahead of starting back at school in two weeks.
Also his voice has broken recently and tonight his dad keeps saying he sounds 'gay'.
Am i super sensitive or is he just a complete prick?

What a wanker

You should def use the spray on him as he leaves for work

Wow.

That is mortifying for your 14 year old son.

The homophobic comment is totally unacceptable. He will be damaging your child's confidence and self esteem every time he opens his mouth. Op, he really needs to know this must never happen again.

This is bullying. Teens have enough to deal with.

What they really want when with their friends is boring parents who fade into the background and pretend they're not there but provide snacks and drinks, reassurance and lifts when needed 😁... Not some overgrown joker who can't leave them alone! Poor kid.

Not even going to go there on the homophobia as I think you know how unacceptable it is.

Yep prick on both counts

He's an unfunny, bullying, homophobic arsehole and you can bet your house he wouldn't laugh if someone did it to him.

@ShebaShimmyShake

He's an unfunny, bullying, homophobic arsehole and you can bet your house he wouldn't laugh if someone did it to him.

This!

Prick.

The use of "gay" as an insult needs to stop immediately. It is completely unacceptable.
The shit spray is horrible too - the whole evening in the tent will be ruined with the other boys laughing about your son's sleeping bag smelling of shit.
I'd be so angry about that I think I'd have to spray something of DH's

I'd be opened tempted to put itching powder or something in the joker's bed (assuming you don't have to sleep there). What goes around comes around.

If he won't change then you are faced with a choice.

^This.

What an absolute git!

It is bullying. It isn't "funny".

Your poor son is being humiliated in front of his friends.

Has your "D"H always been such a tw*t?

Using the spray is bad but saying he sounds gay is totally unacceptable. What an arsehole. I hope your son is OK and managed to enjoy his evening despite this.

Your son will never forget this.

If its not too late he needs a new tent and sleeping bag.

I wouldn't be surprised if your son wanted to move out as soon as he finishes school and never come back.

What an absolute tosser your husband is.

It's a particular prank doing the rounds on tiktok etc. Spraying it in cars with lots of passengers, on pillows before they go to bed. Doesn't excuse it but that might have been where he got the idea.

The outright bullying of your son for his voice breaking is abhorrent though.

Your H sounds like an attention-seeking bellend, Hope he left DS and his friends alone last night to enjoy their camp out.

What an utter, utter cunt.
The first time he said my son sounded gay I would have torn him a new one. The second time he'd be gone. Homophobic bullying is not something to be tolerated.

It's a particular prank doing the rounds on tiktok etc

Why do these sites always aim for the lowest common denominator?

Is there not enough misery and bullying in the world without encouraging more of it?

I hate social media.

God he sounds awful op. I'm sorry you have had to live with that. If he's not going to change I'd leave him tbh. I couldn't stand being around someone that petty and spiteful.

Minus 10 for sensitivity. Kids have found it tough being away from their normal lives.

Wow. Why are you with him? Your poor son.

You need to get angry enough to protect your son and leave this man.

Angry isn’t enough. Do something about it.

Your poor poor child.

@Billben

If he won't change then you are faced with a choice.

^This.

100% agree... so maybe, show him how it sucks. Wait until he is with his little buddies and do exactly the same thing to him. Spray him with shit spray and when he talks, interrupt with exactly what he says to your son. I would repeat any other of his ‘jokes’ too. When he licks off, just look at him blankly and say “what? It’s just a joke” To get my 3 year old nephew to stop mid tantrum, I do the grown up thing and copy what he is doing. It works 9 out of 10 times. If it works on an actual toddler, it might work on your fully grown one

I could, kind of, see the spray as a misjudged tone deaf prank.

But mocking your son’s breaking voice is just horrible. No possible joke there.

Protect your son.

@SchadenfreudePersonified

It's a particular prank doing the rounds on tiktok etc

Why do these sites always aim for the lowest common denominator?

Is there not enough misery and bullying in the world without encouraging more of it?

I hate social media.

It's not just SM though is it. There's a particular episode of the Inbetweeners where they all go camping, and one gets sick so they're all trapped in a tent throwing up. Would not surprise me one bit if that was in the back of his mind.

I'm not actually clear if he is the biological father? However, either way, this sort of behaviour is displaced aggression. It isn't 'fun'.

For your son's sake at least, get rid. The behaviour is testing boundaries, especially yours as a mother. It will get worse.