Shitty partner - ruining sleepover?

[bunsen]

'Dad' decides it would be funny to spray a shit scented spray all over sons sleeping bag and tent that he snd three friends are sleeping in tonight. They are 14. Have i lost a sense of humour or is this a shitty thing to do? Son and friends have not seen each other for six months snd just getting back into the swing of socialising ahead of starting back at school in two weeks.
Also his voice has broken recently and tonight his dad keeps saying he sounds 'gay'.
Am i super sensitive or is he just a complete prick?

My god. You have another son in a mans body!!

Is he Jays dad off the inbetweeners. He would do my head in.

I hope you tell your DP off in front of your son when he uses homophobic insults. You can't let your DS think you find that acceptable or he'll grow up using words like that himself. It's not great role modelling.

Wow- living with a man who is behaving like a 14 year old boy would make me drier than the sahara- how can you find someone like that attractive?

Yuck.

its the jokey stuff like ricky gervais where really its bullying masquerading as comedy

Ricky Gervais comes across as a smug wanker but I don't think even he would play 'pranks' or have a completely unsophisticated sense of humour. Your partner acts like a kid. If doing the spray thing is something on TiKTok, that's even more proof of his immaturity, doing what the other kids are doing.

As PP's said, talking to your son like that is absolutely beyond the pale. I would say you need to get your son out of this environment. If you give him a slap on the wrist for it, this sort of behaviour/talk won't stop for long, or it still doesn't make staying ok. He knows it's not ok, but did it anyway.

Did you post about your idiot husband yesterday, as I'm sure I saw something similar about an immature man, or is there more than one on the loose.

Absolutely horrible, I'd be making plans to leave this idiot.

He sounds like a fucking idiot. What are his good qualities?

He’s a nasty piece of work.

Told him it pisses me off and not to do it. He told me thats how he is and hes not changing

That's easy enough, then. He's told you he doesn't care about you enough to grow up, and he certainly doesn't care enough to treat your son properly. So there is absolutely no reason to stay with him. Start planning to walk away, now.

He’s a homophobic bastard. What the fuck is he doing bullying your son like he’s a badly brought up child himself?

Is this the tip of the iceberg, Bunsen?

I would hold onto that spray and douse all his clothes in it when he was next headed out to work or to an important event. I would also spray paint every single pair of his shoes with silver glitter spray before leaving him. See how he feels about stinking and others labelling him as gay!

If I was you, this would be the point I tell him to fuck of them fuck off some more. That’s disgusting behaviour, nasty, embarrassing, selfish, jyst vile. Your poor kid.

He sounds like a bully who thinks nothing of picking on children to boost his ego. He's told you he won't change and is probably arrogant enough to bank on you sticking around and accepting it.

It's one thing for an otherwise kind dad to play a silly prank with fart spray in the knowledge that everyone would find it funny, and another for a prick to deliberately sabotage a child's sleepover with friends and show themselves to be utterly homophobic.

The spray is embarrassing enough for your DS, but to make fun of him for something that he can't help, and something your partner has been through himself is awful. It's like a woman making fun of her dd for starting her period.

Is he your sons biological dad? (Not that it should matter, but may make it easier if you kick him out)

Sounds like he is trying to 'look cool' to your sons friends, through playing pranks and putting down your son. How embarrassing.

How difficult is it for you to ditch this arse?

I, too, wonder if he's the biological father because either way he seems to feel threatened by your son becoming a man and he's attempting to bring your son low and eventually drive him away.

If you don't chose your son, he will realise how abject that is when he has his own children (a crucial point of realisation) and he will likely cut you both off.

The teasing of his voice changing is horrible.

He's not changing, so it's up to you now. Just think hard, this is about the rest of you and your son's lives.

How horrible of him, show your son that his fathers behaviour isn’t acceptable by kicking the twat out.

Sounds like a right twat. I wouldn't tolerate this behaviour and would consider leaving him if it's how he is.

What a childish thing to do. I'd be concerned about the 'gay' comments too- that's not on.

He sounds absolutely vile tbh.

I’m amazed you have tolerated it as long as you have but for you have a responsibility to protect your kids from this

Get rid