Shitty partner - ruining sleepover?

[bunsen]

'Dad' decides it would be funny to spray a shit scented spray all over sons sleeping bag and tent that he snd three friends are sleeping in tonight. They are 14. Have i lost a sense of humour or is this a shitty thing to do? Son and friends have not seen each other for six months snd just getting back into the swing of socialising ahead of starting back at school in two weeks.
Also his voice has broken recently and tonight his dad keeps saying he sounds 'gay'.
Am i super sensitive or is he just a complete prick?

Sad wee man. Ah well, only 2 years until your boy can leave home, even if you don't.

You put dad in inverted commas, is he your sons dad or not?
He sounds like an arsehole. Pranks like that are bullying, not jokes. Mocking your sons voice and using Gay as an insult are reprehensible.

@bunsen
Your DH is being a total knob.
Spraying ''shit smelling spray'' over a lad's sleeping bag is pathetic.

Taking the piss out of your DS's breaking voice is just lame.

You are correct...It IS bullying.

Bullies love to say ''We woz only having' a larf''.

Not funny.

So what happened? How did the boys react?

Edit: Using ''Gay'' as an insult is deeply immature..
This 'man' sounds so utterly tedious.

I know a man like this...Relentlessly torments others, yet if someone 'fights back' he sulks.

Your DS shouldn't have to put up with it...And neither should you.

Is he his dad? Or is he your partner?
Regardless really he’s horrible
Your poor son

How utterly humiliating for your son. The 'Dad' was showing off. How immature.

Get rid. He’s horrible.

He sounds like a horrible bully and a total tosser to boot. Agree with the other poster who said Jay's Dad from the Inbetweeners.

Can you tell him that the only person he's embarrassing is himself and everyone thinks he's a bit of twat.

its the jokey stuff like ricky gervais where really its bullying masquerading as comedy

RG may not be your cup of tea but he’s no bully! He seems to be hated on MN by the ‘professionally offended about everything‘ brigade. Anyway, for comparing a comedy genius to a homophobic loser like your ‘partner’ YABU, but for everything else, YANBU. Your ‘partner’ is a dumb fuck.

Cover his pillow in shit spray just before he wants to go to bed. Bet he won't find it so funny then.

Doesn't sound like a nice man at all. Poor DS, being bullied by his own dad. That goes beyond just having a shit sense of humour.

Spray him in the face when the shit spray every time he is homophobic, maybe you can train him like a dog.

Or you could just leave him.

Not good. Maybe he thought he was being "one of the lads" and grossly misjudged the "joke." He needs to know he was out of line.

I was once told 'that's what I'm like, I'm not changing' and replied 'that's your decision, mine is that I can choose what I am willing to live with'. We aren't together now.

It is totally unacceptable to use gay as an insult.
Thst would be enough for me to LTB.
He sounds homophobic and trying to make a man of his DS, as he's frightened he's gay, masquerading as a stink joke.
You and your child(ren) are better off away from him as he has said he won't change.

He sounds like a immature knob

Itching powder in all his pants and socks?

I also think the gay ‘joke’ is completely out of order.

Shit spray on his shoes when he goes to work?

How did your son and his friends take it.?

He’s nasty, and yabu subjecting your child to his ‘jokes’ especially him calling him gay

He would be out the door tonight

Me and my friends did that once. Sprayed the friend's older brothers room with fart spray. We were children though.

I'd be more concerned about the homophobic comments tbh.

If you don’t leave your partner you are showing your son you put a bully before him.

This man is a bully. He either commits to a massive change in behaviour (unlikely) or he moves out. You can't make your child live with such a vile man.

You're with a man who thinks being gay is an insult/funny? Why?