The anger with you for being upset sounds familiar - and it a BIG red flag, Completely not ok.
The rationale for it, is that he is someone who cannot cope with criticism, even entirely justified, calm or constructive criticism. Your upset is preceived as criticism. He CANNOT be criticised, it makes him feel horrible and angry. So he will direct that anger into punishing you for making him feel bad. Is he vindictive in other ways?
He will believe he has the right to punish other people for making him feel bad. Possibly even for being present when he experiences his own, internally generated, frustrations.
He will never apologise or offer recompense, because he CANNOT admit to being wrong.
Unfortunately, I don't think people like this are truly capable of love, for another adult anyway, they might love their own child, because they are too self-centred and lack the empathy necessary to perceive other people as important in and for themselves, rather than only as satellites who service their interests.
Put your precious things away. Decide whether you want to live a poorer, blander life, without ever having nice things that matter to you out and useable in your home.
Break something of his if you feel like doing that experiment. (He will hate you for it and fail to make the connection with your actions, emotionally, so it won't 'work' as an educational act). He will remember it as you being exceptionally nasty, because you did it deliberately and it will undermine your case, as he will always have your malice to refer back to, to kill your argument.
Look after yourself. I suspect that, ultimately, he will not.