You haven't been told off. Sheesh.
Anyway if he won't do the work then YANBU. He doesn't get to make extra housework for you without your explicit consent. No one does that, it's just disrespectful.
So it may be that, shock horror, people will see you house not at its best, but you will be in one of the many perfectly decent hotels near Heathrow enjoying room service and a nice bubble bath.
Maybe pack up an overnight bag and keep it ready? Pack a book, charger, travel size face stuff, spare toothbrush, maybe a face mask, bath stuff (the hotel stuff will be like dish soap) and anything else you might need/want.
Then a cheery "Bye! Have fun! See you tomorrow" and off you go before he has time to answer. Phone off of course. His credit card also of course!
You'll get back to a mess so you'll not be able to cook for him because of course you will be busy. In fact you'll be too busy to do much at sll for him. I'm sure he's perfectly capable of ironing though. And he can make himself a sandwich for supper.
Then you simply look confused and said 'but I told you I didn't want to have overnight guests. It's too dangerous right now. I didn't want to spoil your fun so went to a hotel, I told you I would dont you remember? It was lovely too. Hope you enjoyed it!'
And I'd be looking at cleaners if you can bear to have someone there (not being facetious btw). Or just say to yourself that you would usually spend x time On housework so you won't go extra and until you catch up it's his stuff that suffers. His washing, cooked meals etc.
But you do sound very pissed off with him at the moment. If he's not pulling his weight he needs to start because it's shit to expect your wife to be your servant.