Husband invited work colleague and son to stay

[Delatron]

Just got back from holiday. Am knackered and have a mountain of washing to do. I’m working in the morning. DH has said his work colleague and son are flying back from a local airport and she’s asked if they can see us for dinner and stay over tomorrow. So one day’s notice. Then get up bloody early on Sunday to get their flight, wake us all up on the only day I get a lie in.

I mean how cheeky is this? DH has said yes. I’ve told him he can do all the beds/towels and cooking but I’m furious my chilled weekend has been taken away. He says he is just being kind and I’m so ‘hostile’.

Also the coronavirus risk? I’ve only had my parents overnight. Nobody else. We have no idea where they’ve been and whether they have been social distancing. They are not even close friends!

So am I being unfriendly and hostile?

Let him do everything. When they arrive explain you have to do something else/be somewhere else and disappear.

Whatever you do,don't get up early on sunday. Just say your goodbye's on Saturday night and say you will be sleeping in as you need to be fresh for Monday and leave him to it. He offered, his problem

@Delatron

He does keep saying in a cross voice ‘well I’ll just cancel them shall I and tell them they they can’t come?’

Then I’m the bad guy as he just wants to do something nice and I’m so horrible and hostile.

Not very much kindness left in his locker when it comes to his own wife is there?

He can handle everything then, if he wants to be kind he can be kind to them by hosting and be kind to you by not expecting you to do all the hosting duties.

I would be annoyed too OP, more so by his nice guy proclamations which scream of him wanting a pat on the back in public without being as nice in private!

Any chance you're just back from a holiday destination that requires you to quarantine?!

Thats really cheeky.As if you invite yourself to a colleagues home! Shes being tight so doesn't have to pay for dinner and a hotel

@Delatron

He does keep saying in a cross voice ‘well I’ll just cancel them shall I and tell them they they can’t come?’

Then I’m the bad guy as he just wants to do something nice and I’m so horrible and hostile.

I'd be happy to cop the bad guy tag under these circumstances. Tell him to cancel.

Make him do ALL the preparation and cleaning up after them. That is, make Their beds, then strip them and wash all the bed linen, dry it and put it away. And clean all the areas in which they stayed - the C-19 issue is still with us. Basically, he should do everything that you would normally do.

And lie in on Sunday.

Just say in fake sweet voice 'no it's fine but for my safety I'll be staying in a hotel. You can have a good catch up without me around.'

Yep I definitely won’t be getting up on Sunday. I’m such a light sleeper though they’ll wake me then the dog will bark.

I won’t surface though.

They know we’ve been to the U.K. on holiday!

That’s quite rude op. Will you really do that or is it online hyperbole?

Folks suggest shit on here they would never dream of doing themselves.

What’s rude @Bluntness100? Not getting up on the Sunday morning?

Can you visit your parents? Take the DC and you have less chance of catching something from them - although your DH might.
I would help with the bed linen and cooking ingredients tomorrow morning just to show him that I'm not leaving out of spite, but for social distancing.

I'd be furious! They would NOT be coming.

Expensive hotel OP. One with a jacuzzi bath perhaps and paid for by DH

Yes even if I leave for safety DH won’t be social distancing so if he picks something up the me and the kids will in time.

Personally I don't see the big issue. Just stay in bed 🤷 there's always next weekend.
It's always nice to be nice.

Parents live too far away.

Unless it’s very early, as in four or five am it’s rude not to get up and say goodbye to your guests.

Oh, I dunno. I'd probably say yes, because:

The more, the merrier

Lie-ins are over-rated, and I can think of nothing more boring than lying in bed

I CBA with Covid hysteria (though I see how some people can see it as a useful excuse not to do stuff)

As long as everyone mucks in a bit, I'd think it was fine.

Then I’m the bad guy as he just wants to do something nice and I’m so horrible and hostile.

Well, you kind of are, aren't you?!

@Delatron

He does keep saying in a cross voice ‘well I’ll just cancel them shall I and tell them they they can’t come?’

Then I’m the bad guy as he just wants to do something nice and I’m so horrible and hostile.

You need to learn to not let this bother you because he's actually putting you both at risk. They were supposed to quarantine for 2 weeks, not going out at all. He's being stupid.

and if they are in your home they are your guests as much as his, irrelevant of who did the inviting,

Gah I think it’s really rude to invite yourself round for dinner and an overnight stay 🤷🏼‍♀️

Their flight is quite early actually so that may be a non issue. But I’m the rude one round here!

I think you're being a bit unreasonable, and everyone here is egging you on. I'd be annoyed and disappointed too, but I'd allow myself a rant and then pull up my big girl pants and get on with it.
This is what your husband wants, it's his home too, support him like you'd want to be supported. Make a list together of what needs to be done (I always include 'an hour to pull myself together' ) before they arrive, and work together.

It's not rude really. It's quite a normal thing to do and usually people like to help others out.

Yes, you are rude.