To tell my friend I can't give her a lift?

[thevengabus]

I'm going out for a meal with my friend tomorrow.
It's about a 25 min drive away.
My friend doesn't drive.
I have to drive past her house but with this covid situation,it's probably not a good idea to give her a lift.
Aibu to tell her I can't give her a lift ?
And that she will need to get the bus or taxi

@LilaButterfly

I would feel more comfortable giving her a lift than having her sit next to me after taking a bus tbh.

Not sure this makes sense, as they wouldn't be contagious for maybe two days.

I do my driving lessons next to my instructor with a mask and hand san.

I was shielding and still am unofficially as I feel nothing has changed since August 1st.

My dd was offered a day out with friends which involved car sharing. I said no as the advice is to avoid car sharing.

I also wouldn't go to an indoor restaurant.

I don't think it's crazy, just that i don't think we should take unnecessary risks.

The more careful we are as individuals, the sooner we'll be out of this mess.

If you’re going for dinner then you’ll catch Covid from her anyway, even if you don’t share a car.

If you are that anxious about catching COVID that you don’t want o give you friend a loft, why are are you even contemplating meeting up with her for a meal. Makes no sense.

What is about about the blind following of the rules with no actual risk assessment? Masks. Open windows. Hand sanitiser. Don't make your poor friend catch a bus when you are driving past their house and travelling to the same place.

The restaurant plus the car is two risks, and two is always a bigger number than one.

The point is that if OP accepts the risk of sitting opposite friend without masks in a restaurant, it is totally illogical to decide that it's too risky to sit in a car with her. The reality for anyone meeting up with a friend in this way is that they almost certainly believe their friend doesn't pose any risk at all - and zero risk in the restaurant plus zero risk in the car adds up to zero risk.

@cherish123

You aren't actually allowed to give her a lift. She will have to make her own way. She should know this.

Not true. This isn't forbidden by law.

@Pobblebonk

The restaurant plus the car is two risks, and two is always a bigger number than one.

The point is that if OP accepts the risk of sitting opposite friend without masks in a restaurant, it is totally illogical to decide that it's too risky to sit in a car with her. The reality for anyone meeting up with a friend in this way is that they almost certainly believe their friend doesn't pose any risk at all - and zero risk in the restaurant plus zero risk in the car adds up to zero risk.

,,,, She probably assesses a very tiny risk for each, which is still tiny when added together, but is not zero

Personally, I found non-drivers needing lifts when we go somewhere are a pain, unless it's because of disability
but that's a different non-COVID issue

Sit her in the back seat behind you, window open, both with masks on. Sanitise the seat and touch points such as door handles and window levers/buttons before (for her) and after (for you.) No air con.

That's what we're doing for my mum, who has just come out of shielding.

Are you officially allowed to share a taxi with someone from another household or is it meant to only be people from the same household? If so then no different from car sharing.

I think this thread shows that people are not clear about all of the rules. I did not know driving lessons had restarted and genuinely don’t know the rules re taxis.

I wouldn’t go to an indoor restaurant but if op is, it makes no sense not to give her friend a lift and would probably spoil the friendship. I doubt they will be even 1m apart in a restaurant, maybe only 1/2 m across the table.

But why not go somewhere nearby you can walk to or get a takeaway in someone’s garden.

@BananaPop2020

For crying out loud, give her a lift. I can’t take much more of this Covid related BS.

Hahahahahaha Sounds like your just hanging on....!!!!