To tell my friend I can't give her a lift?

[thevengabus]

I'm going out for a meal with my friend tomorrow.
It's about a 25 min drive away.
My friend doesn't drive.
I have to drive past her house but with this covid situation,it's probably not a good idea to give her a lift.
Aibu to tell her I can't give her a lift ?
And that she will need to get the bus or taxi

@Laaalaaaa

You’re happy to sit at a table in a restaurant with her but you’re not happy to let her in your car? You do realise you won’t be 2 meters away from her in the restaurant? Christ I hope she cancels on you for being such a shit friend. Absolutely ridiculous.

Yep^

I started a similar thread a couple of weeks ago as I was in a similar position. I said no to my DFriends. Lift sharing is currently not recommended and is much more risky than the activity we were doing (meeting up outdoors). However, if you're eating indoors at a restaurant, presumably at a small table if it's just two of you, then maybe you'd be at as much risk in the restaurant as in the car.
If you do share the lift, perhaps ask DFriend to sit in the back opposite you, both wear masks and have the windows open.

It's bizarre that this virus has infected people's brain power without them even catching it.

Don't be tight give her a lift!

I think people are being really harsh. This is the guidance posted below - people should 'try not to' give lifts. So the guidance is more onerous regarding this than going out for a meal.

2.4Can I share a private vehicle with someone from another household?

You should try not to share a vehicle with those outside your household or social bubble. If you need to, try to:

share the transport with the same people each time
keep to small groups of people at any one time
Open windows for ventilation
Travel side by side or behind other people, rather than facing them,
where seating arrangements allow face away from each other
Consider seating arrangements to maximise distance between people in the vehicle
clean your car between journeys using standard cleaning products - make sure you clean door handles and other areas that people may touch
ask the driver and passengers to wear a face covering

The Department for Transport has provided specific guidance on using private vehicles. Please see theirguidance on private cars and other vehiclesfor more information on car sharing and traveling with people outside your household group.

You are meeting her for lunch but you won't give her a lift when you're driving past her house?

That's batshit

Why would you think it OK to sit across the table from her (when presumably she won't be wearing a mask) but not to sit in a car with her when you can both have masks?

If I was worried about giving her a lift I wouldn't be going anywhere indoors with her.

Far higher risk her taking a bus or taxi with random driver. If you are that worried, don't go out for dinner (I assume you are sharing a table sitting less than a metre from each other). Give her a lift!

“Allowed” Oh please. Use your common sense.

what is it that you think will happen if she gets in your car with a mask and sits in the back opposed to sitting opposite her with no mask on? Give her a lift!

Give her a lift and wear masks

As others have said... both wear masks.

You’ll be sitting no farther away, probably closer when you chew, unmasked, on your steak or whatever meal you order.

Fuck me, how can you not manage to think this through yourself OP??

Use your God given common sense and give her a lift!

Seriously, I wonder how many people on this forum manage to make it through the day without consulting a public forum.

I can’t imagine you’d be sat any further away from her at a restaurant than in your car!?
If you’re happy to meet her in a restaurant I think it’s a bit double standards to then not give her a lift there, ask her to wear a mask if you’re that bothered

If you're worried about Covid, why are you going my for dinner with friends anyway? That's against the recommenced advice. So either go and give your friend a lift because you're already not arsed about Covid . Or don't go, because honestly picking and choosing to follow guidelines as you fancy is just ridiculous.

You're at more risk from the meal (where neither of you can wear masks properly if you're going to eat) than from the car trip. Both of you can wear face coverings for the journey, and you can insist that she sit in the back of the car and on the left hand side, so that she's not ultra-close to you. I'm very Covid-nervous myself, but even I think that you're going to extremes here! If you really feel at super-high risk, either because you or a family member are extremely vulnerable, or because your town is a current hotspot, then it would be better to postpone an in-person meeting. Otherwise, the lift, if handled sensibly, isn't likely to be a great risk.

They'll be another thread along soon my friend wants to meet me at a restaurant but refuses to give me a lift even though she passed right by my house .

Sorry op I'm with the others on here .

If you are uncomfortable giving her a lift you shouldn’t be going to dinner with her .

@coffecak3 Covid kills brain cells and impedes independent thought.

I would give her a lift but only if she gargles with bleach first and covers herself in antibac. Full hazmats required. And no breathing.
Don't be mean.

Keep the window down, both wear a mask it'll be fine.

Just give her a lift - don't be so bloody miserable. You can both wear masks and take disinfectant to wipe down the surfaces in your car.

You'll be risking her future friendship, because you're being totally illogical.

Just give her a lift and open the windows if your that worried.

Why are you going out for lunch together if you think you can’t even share a car together?