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To tell my friend I can't give her a lift?

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thevengabus · 09/08/2020 16:33

I'm going out for a meal with my friend tomorrow.
It's about a 25 min drive away.
My friend doesn't drive.
I have to drive past her house but with this covid situation,it's probably not a good idea to give her a lift.
Aibu to tell her I can't give her a lift ?
And that she will need to get the bus or taxi

OP posts:
labyrinthloafer · 09/08/2020 18:04

@Nanny0gg

You're supposed to sit next to each other, either in the car or at the table.

Not behind

Diagonally behind is better than both in front. Where did you get that from?
echodot · 09/08/2020 18:04

@BananaPop2020

For crying out loud, give her a lift. I can’t take much more of this Covid related BS.
This
Wilko312 · 09/08/2020 18:05

[quote BananaPop2020]@mosquitofeast get over yourself and read the entire thread to see how many people feel the same way.

@Wilko312 I don’t call Covid BS. I referred to some of the related behaviour as BS. There is a difference.[/quote]
You mean the behaviour that if everyone in society adopted we would lessen the spread? That behaviour?

killerofmen · 09/08/2020 18:05

@labyrinthloafer you are my covid soulmate! Other people's perceptions of risk are astounding me atm.

islockdownoveryet · 09/08/2020 18:05

It's rude to all of the people and family members of those who have died to call covid BS. Have some respect.*
Oh do me a favour ,Hmm
No it isn't , the op is perfectly happy to go and meet her friend she's perfectly happy to go to a busy restaurant but not give her a lift , that's why people on here are like Hmm.
Nobody has to go out if they don't want to buy it's very hypocritical I mean if your worried about the risk you don't go and meet friends at all .

Wilko312 · 09/08/2020 18:09

@islockdownoveryet

* It's rude to all of the people and family members of those who have died to call covid BS. Have some respect.* Oh do me a favour ,Hmm No it isn't , the op is perfectly happy to go and meet her friend she's perfectly happy to go to a busy restaurant but not give her a lift , that's why people on here are like Hmm. Nobody has to go out if they don't want to buy it's very hypocritical I mean if your worried about the risk you don't go and meet friends at all .
I think you need to re-read you response..... to call covid BS is frankly rude to the people who have suffered as a result of it.

Do yourself a favour.

BTW the person who originally said that has now said they meant BS behaviour but funnily enough that wasn't what the actually said.

BananaPop2020 · 09/08/2020 18:09

@Wilko312 you are deliberately being obtuse. With reference to this particular post, if you can’t see the problem with the quite frankly nonsensical behaviour being discussed then there is no point responding to you further.

Pobblebonk · 09/08/2020 18:10

How big is a car? How many people? How big is a restaurant? How many people?

The size of the restaurant is largely irrelevant, what is relevant is the size of the table and the fact that you will be sitting opposite other people who aren't wearing masks. In this weather, the fact that the car is smaller is also irrelevant as it is perfectly practicable and indeed desirable to open windows.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 09/08/2020 18:10

[quote labyrinthloafer]@RichardMarxisinnocent

Yes, I think the 'plus' has rather got lost in the 1m+ guidance

p.s. my brother came to hazard when I was just seven... total flashback due to your name Grin[/quote]
Grin I was inspired to name change by a recent-ish thread all about what actually happened to Mary

labyrinthloafer · 09/08/2020 18:11

[quote killerofmen]@labyrinthloafer you are my covid soulmate! Other people's perceptions of risk are astounding me atm.[/quote]
Grin let's have Wine

I fear I am not making friends widely though? As I am basically the rain on your parade person.

Ilovesandwiches · 09/08/2020 18:12

I would definitely give her a lift

WeAllHaveWings · 09/08/2020 18:12

For crying out loud, give her a lift. I can’t take much more of this Covid related BS.

Everyone has different tolerance for levels of risk and really no one should be castigated for being more risk adverse or asking questions in relation to the guidance around this virus, if anything people like them are helping those who are less risk adverse by reducing that risk.

Everyone should be encouraged to ask questions and think about what they are doing and whether they can easily or reasonably reduce the risk for themselves and others while doing it. If you don't like it, keep off the threads on that topic.

Dazzedandconfused · 09/08/2020 18:12

Give her a lift! You are driving past her house and will be sat together in a restaurant for over an hour so the car journey isnt going to make much difference apart from saving her the time and stress of getting public transport

Wilko312 · 09/08/2020 18:15

[quote BananaPop2020]@Wilko312 you are deliberately being obtuse. With reference to this particular post, if you can’t see the problem with the quite frankly nonsensical behaviour being discussed then there is no point responding to you further.[/quote]
I can see the point of the post, I believe the OP should give her friend a lift with both of them using masks and the window open. However rather than you give her advice you told her you were sick of 'this covid related BS'. You then responded to me for calling you out by saying you meant 'behaviour' but you didn't say that which is why I responded the way I did. You can't call someone obtuse but then change your tune halfway through.

labyrinthloafer · 09/08/2020 18:18

@Pobblebonk

How big is a car? How many people? How big is a restaurant? How many people?

The size of the restaurant is largely irrelevant, what is relevant is the size of the table and the fact that you will be sitting opposite other people who aren't wearing masks. In this weather, the fact that the car is smaller is also irrelevant as it is perfectly practicable and indeed desirable to open windows.

Aaarrgghhh my head has exploded!

The size of the room (and it's ventilation) is relevant imo.

Put a 2m X 2m table in a small room or a big room and it is different. The amount of air, clean and exhaled, in the box is a factor. It isn't the biggest factor but it is a factor. The same table outside is where I would sit.

But stay two fucking metres apart is rule numero uno WHICH YOU CANT DO IN A CAR. Sorry for shouting.

Pobblebonk · 09/08/2020 18:20

But stay two fucking metres apart is rule numero uno WHICH YOU CANT DO IN A CAR. Sorry for shouting.

No, current advice is one metre. And it does rather depend on the car, doesn't it?

BananaPop2020 · 09/08/2020 18:21

@Wilko312, Yes, I am sick of the Covid related BS and I stand by that comment. It is ruining lives, destroying the economy and causing division. If you choose to take issue with the wording of my post, that is entirely up to you. Have a nice afternoon.

UntamedWisteria · 09/08/2020 18:22

Give her a lift.

Open the windows in the car.

Wear face masks.

Hand sanitiser.

It's really not that hard. She'll be safer in your car than on the bus.

gavisconismyfriend · 09/08/2020 18:24

Why not go for a meal somewhere more local that you can both walk to?

labyrinthloafer · 09/08/2020 18:25

@Pobblebonk

But stay two fucking metres apart is rule numero uno WHICH YOU CANT DO IN A CAR. Sorry for shouting.

No, current advice is one metre. And it does rather depend on the car, doesn't it?

I wish I had a car with 2m between my head and the driver's head - what are you driving?

I can usually touch the driver's head (not that I will do that, I'm not weird)

It is not advised to be only 1m apart unless you can't maintain 2m. It is better to be 2m.

Waveysnail · 09/08/2020 18:27

If your that worried - get her to sit in the back on opposite side with face mask on.

My manager shared car with someone diagnosed covid the next day yet she tested clear

Pobblebonk · 09/08/2020 18:27

How many restaurant tables are two metres wide?

SnuggyBuggy · 09/08/2020 18:30

Wouldn't it be easier to just meet somewhere local for a meal or are you living in the arse end of nowhere?

Wilko312 · 09/08/2020 18:30

[quote BananaPop2020]@Wilko312, Yes, I am sick of the Covid related BS and I stand by that comment. It is ruining lives, destroying the economy and causing division. If you choose to take issue with the wording of my post, that is entirely up to you. Have a nice afternoon.[/quote]
Yes covid is ruining lives, especially to the ones who get it.

The wording of your post was rude to the people affected by covid. Have some conviction about what you said.

Good day to you.

BananaPop2020 · 09/08/2020 18:33

@Wilko312 good day indeed.

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