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My friend has stopped paying for things ..aibu to mention it?

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berryberry44 · 08/08/2020 07:34

My friend will ask me to get things from town whilst I'm up (just stupid things like shampoo or a candle etc ) but never gives me the money.
Yesterday I dropped off around £10 worth of things and she took the bag and didn't mention paying.
Then we went out for lunch and I said il get the taxi there and you pay back.
She said no problem,il give you the money for back and you can use your Uber account.
Then she gave me half the taxi fare(I don't know how she thought that was correct)
Then popped in Superdrug and I had a few things,she hands me those and says "can you pay for these and il give you money,I hate paying with my card"
I said no,I said it gets too confusing.
Can we just pay for our own things.
Aibu to say that ?
Do I mention that she never pays ?

OP posts:
MRSsqueak · 11/08/2020 13:45

oh and also OP if she blows up and gets confrontational.... then match her.... go back at her. people like her tend to be all mouth and they soon shut up when you challenge their aggressive behaviour
if you loose this "friend" it will be no big loss. but i think she will back down if you tackle it head on

MRSsqueak · 11/08/2020 13:55

lose rather Blush

Localocal · 12/08/2020 12:31

Ask her if she is having financial problems?

NC4todayx · 12/08/2020 14:02

but you can't say anything to her or she fly's off the handle.

Well isn't that convenient if it works to shut you down OP.
She's not a friend. She's using you and you are allowing her to.

The angry outbursts? That's how people with personality disorders control other people, to subdue them. She's using anger to control you. What are you getting out of this "friendship"?

Porridgeoat · 13/08/2020 07:41

Just let her fly off the hook. That’s her choice to act badly. She still needs to know

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