To get my almost 15 year old condoms

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He is sexually active as he has told me.

Dad says I’m encouraging but I rather he be safe even if I am encouraging it by getting them for him.

Pandacub7
I’d be really concerned if the girl is 13 or only just turned 14

RTFT. The girl is in the same year at school. So unless she has her birthday in the next 3 weeks, rather than in the last 49 weeks, she is older than the OP's DS.

@InTheWings I read the thread so I know they’re in the same year group. If he’s nearly 15 he could either be the youngest in his year having his birthday this month (Year 10) or the oldest in his year (Year 9), with his birthday in the Autumn, so he’s starting Year 10 in September.

@yelyah22 Exactly

It's interesting to see the reaction of some here stating that teenagers having sex are unacceptable etc I was sexually active from age 13 onwards and I wasn't wild, far from it. That was over 20yrs ago. It seems realistic to expect teenagers of 13/14/15 to be having sex nowadays. Best to educate rather than judge.

I think by providing condoms you are condoning it. And condoms split.

Yanbu

It's great he was able to tell you about this, do not break his trust and tell this girls parents

Get the condoms and also have a firmer chat about how condoms can fail and for him to ask if his partner is also on birth control

For those uneducated twits on here, the home office has stated in their guidance on this issue there is no appetite to prosecute or arrest teenagers having consensual sex when under 16 if they are of a similar age

Between 10-20% of teens are recorded to be sexually active before the age of 15

It's not uncommon, or something the OPs child or anyone else's child should be ashamed of

GET THE CONDOMS

You won't stop it - nothing on Gods earth would stop a teen boy from having sex if he's already active so you wouldn't be "encouraging it."

Not buying condoms is not the opposite of encouraging, it's just burying your head in the sand!
Your DH's solution of bury your head in the sand will just end with unplanned pregnancies or STIs!

@june2007

I think by providing condoms you are condoning it. And condoms split.

So what's your solution? Because you won't stop him being sexually active.

Mum - you aren't allowed sex yet
Extremely hormonal horny teenager - oh ok mum then I won't 🙄

Or is it more likely that he will do it behind parents back anyway and run out of contraception altogether 🤔

Please don't be so naive

I mean - no? I wasn’t having sex at 14 and nor were any of my friends, yelyah. I don’t think your friends are statistical outliers but I do think what is acceptable varies between friendship groups and is affected by a range of things. Quite odd to be incredulous that some people were amongst the majority of people they knew and were also virgins at 14/15/16.

To those people it does feel uncomfortable because 14 is so very very young. Years away from being responsible enough to drive a car or vote. Not really a reason to be ‘gobsmacked’, is it? Just different experiences informing different viewpoints.

I really don't think its unusual for 14/15 year olds to be having sex. Definitely common at my school in the mid 90s. Most people I knew were Y10/11 when they lost their virginity, many as young as Y9 doing lots of other stuff even if they didn't have sex.

No teen is not going to have sex just because their mum said their they shouldn't.

Well if you do allow access/give condoms also explain about the high failure rate, the need for spermicide, making sure she is on the pill as well.what would he do if they failed. How many girsl/guys has he slep with and has he always used protection and does he know about std,s. I think offering condoms and saying go ahead is giving a very simplified message.

It’s really not that unusual, or confined to low achieving students to be having sex at that age.
I teach, as well as having dc.
One of my dc was sexually active at that age, girl friend same age. They were slipping out of school at lunchtime and at it in the nearby woods. He went on to graduate in the top 10% for medicine from a top university, I understand she has similarly been academically successful. As a late dear friend said to me at the time, “ well you won’t put that back in the box, so yes supply condoms”
A couple of kids I taught a few years ago were always late to p5 after lunch, plenty of snide comments from the other kids, but yes they were nipping back to her house ( parents at work) over lunchtime for a cheeky shag. She went on to be head girl and also do medicine, he went to Oxbridge.
Plenty of other cases, none of them involving coercion, low achievement or lax parenting.( of course there are cases including all of the above but it isn’t a given)
It is at the younger age of the normal bell curve of distribution, but some of the responses on this thread are ridiculously extreme.
The police will not prosecute 2 consensual kids of the same age, if one party is 18 plus then that is a totally different matter.