Friend taking p*** or am I being over sensitive?

[democrazy]

We own some land across the road from our house, invested in a small yurt and have a semi permanent type summer glamping set up, fire pit, pizza oven etc. Friend text me to ask if she can use the site to celebrate her birthday (it's a big one) with a few close friends (about 10-15), I mistook the message as inviting DH and I as well, which she replied saying she was embarrassed but really she just wanted her closest friends and I wouldn't be invited. This is fine as I wouldn't have considered myself in that circle - I'd say we're friends but not super close, but we are good friends with a number of the people who would be going. But I thought it a bit cheeky that she basically wants to use our extended garden to have a small party but not invite us. We've used the space for other friends and family celebrations, but we've always been part of them. I've said yes becuase I'd feel mean if
didn't, but equally feeling a little put out, though not sure if it's my embarassment at assuming I was invited or my feeling put out that they want to use the space without inviting us. P.s. I know this is a very first world issue and really not of great importance, just sense checking myself!

[MollyAtTheFolly]

This thread is gold - the OP did brilliantly of course but I'm loving all the people who are continuing to post advice and the responses to them

[Wetwashing00]

Maybe she’s holding a sex festival/orgy where everyone will be sucking MDMA out of each other’s arsehole and that was her way of saying she doesn’t like you that way.

If this is not the case, you need to tell her she’s taking the piss by not inviting you. How can you be close enough to ‘borrow’ Your land but not close enough to invite you to a party? I’d be dropping her as a friend aswell.

[Wetwashing00]

Before I get attacked for not RTFT!!!!
I did, but the CF reply was so short I must’ve missed it.

[LSRW]

@Wetwashing00

Before I get attacked for not RTFT!!!!
I did, but the CF reply was so short I must’ve missed it.

Press the “See all” on the OP post. It’s number 9 out of 11. It’s short short

[Jojofjo44]

Definite CF. Withdraw your acceptance stating that you looked at insurance to cover yourselves and it's far too expensive to allow a party on the site without being invited yourselves. If they are cheeky enough not to offer payment, i can guarantee that you will be left with a massive clean up, and/or damage that you will be liable for.

[Feelingsupersonic1]

If you feel awkward about it could you use Covid as a get out ? Say you have changed your mind due to risk of having X amount of people coming to use your property?

[BlogTheBlogger]

@Jojofjo44 and @Feelingsupersonic1

I bow to your determination to keep advice going in the face of severe opposition

[BigBadVoodooHat]

Are people doing it deliberately now?!

[PickwickThePlockingDodo]

Omg @Jojofjo44 why didn't anyone think of that? All these pages and over 550 responses, thank goodness you're here to impart your
wisdom

Anyone else?

[honeygirlz]

Are people doing it deliberately now?! grin

If they are they could at least make it funny or outlandish

Nudist colony clamping with only face masks as permitted apparel?

[Motoko]

I think MN need to make that "See all OP's posts" button much larger, and put it at the top of the OP.

[honeygirlz]

*glamping not clamping! Wouldn’t want my boobs clamped.

[CorianderLord]

That's v rude. I'd be invoicing her

[Jojofjo44]

:) :) ;) ;)

I don't have the see all button on my phone so have to scroll through all.

that's a long pee break :))))))

[Oli001]

insist on a contract for any damage -she pays in full - if you're not there she will not care ...

[Cadent]

@Jojofjo44

And yet you have time to come back and see responses to your own post?

[Jojofjo44]

@cadent which takes seconds :)

(hides phone under desk)

[Cadent]

@Jojofjo44 and yet you think everyone else should read your posts?

[DukeOfEarlGrey]

I don’t need normally get too riled up about stuff on here but this one is pretty spectacular. The ‘ok’ is so passive aggressive it beggars belief and she was the one who was out of line in the first place! OP, I agree with others that whilst you shouldn’t waste your energy getting into conflict about this you should recognise that this woman doesn’t respect you one bit and phase her out without any drama. The net result will be the same as she isn’t a real friend anyway.

[Babydollminx]

I would charge her for it, she wants to use you for a party venue. That's not a friend it's a piss take.

[Bib1234]

Ok? She said ok? Noooooooo

Btw still trending as it was the top one on the email yesterday 😂

[kyles101]

😂 I love that this is still going!!! Just giving it a little bump, someone must surely be able to come up with a solution to this conundrum?

[MulticolourMophead]

@honeygirlz

Are people doing it deliberately now?! grin

If they are they could at least make it funny or outlandish

Nudist colony clamping with only face masks as permitted apparel?

The clamping sounds... interesting

[crosstalk]

Hope the CF has gone away as the OP has. But I would suggest the OP looks into her insurance properly even with real friends coming. And loos?

[cameocat]

@Jojofjo44 if you swipe left and press the filter option on your phone you can read all of the OP's posts.