Friend taking p*** or am I being over sensitive?

[democrazy]

We own some land across the road from our house, invested in a small yurt and have a semi permanent type summer glamping set up, fire pit, pizza oven etc. Friend text me to ask if she can use the site to celebrate her birthday (it's a big one) with a few close friends (about 10-15), I mistook the message as inviting DH and I as well, which she replied saying she was embarrassed but really she just wanted her closest friends and I wouldn't be invited. This is fine as I wouldn't have considered myself in that circle - I'd say we're friends but not super close, but we are good friends with a number of the people who would be going. But I thought it a bit cheeky that she basically wants to use our extended garden to have a small party but not invite us. We've used the space for other friends and family celebrations, but we've always been part of them. I've said yes becuase I'd feel mean if
didn't, but equally feeling a little put out, though not sure if it's my embarassment at assuming I was invited or my feeling put out that they want to use the space without inviting us. P.s. I know this is a very first world issue and really not of great importance, just sense checking myself!

[not2impressed]

🤔 I'm so disappointed no one suggested op allow the party to go ahead and then go and rearrange cf entire house so the bedrooms are in the living room and vice versa. It won't have any benefit to op but cf would lose her mind.

[PickwickThePlockingDodo]

FIN.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

But
But
But
I just want to give my OPINION!

[VacMan]

@honeygirlz

R.I.P.

[honeygirlz]

R.I.P.

[VacMan]

Thread closed.

[VacMan]

End.

[PickwickThePlockingDodo]

The OP has asked for an opinion so we post one. End of.

But your opinion is pointless because it had all been sorted days ago.
It makes no sense why you, and others that don't RTFT, are on a chat forum when you are not actually chatting/interacting you just read the OP and give an answer. What's the point? 


Yes @rslsys that's a bloody good idea

[rslsys]

Maybe we should just spam this post until it reaches 1000 messages . .

[myrtleWilson]

But I don't get felicis why you would want to offer an outdated opinion?

In this instance it isn't going to cause any material hurt - but in other threads it could - not reading the OP's update & opining anyway could miss salient and sensitive information - why would you risk hurting someone in that way.

OP; "I'm so happy & excited - I'm getting married next month"
MN: "congratualtions......." x 100
OP "We've had to postpone the wedding, it feels right as my partner's mom has died unexpectedly.
Non reading MN: Congratulations!!!! SO excited for you...

[Clymene]

What a total waste of effort @FelicisNox

[FelicisNox]

If you haven't agreed she can use it for free I would email her with a bill or if already agreed it's free I would send her a bill for "breakages" and make it hefty.

If you're not invited, fine. But a free glamping extravaganza, why?

YANBU so slap her with a bill and if she says she thought it was free just explain it's only free to close friends and family.

She's a CF. Plain and simple.

[Ginfordinner]

I don't use the app. I use the mobile website, and the see all the OP's posts works on there.

[Notwiththeseknees]

Oops! I'm sleep deprived

[Notwiththeseknees]

@nanbread

Or tell her you have had a paid hire enquiry for the same date since so that has to take priority of course

That is exactly what I would do.

[NeiceyKnows]

Very damn cheeky! You need to charge her!

[KickAssAngel]

I'm on the Android app and there's no option for seeing the OP posts. Maybe I should download a newer version, but none of the 3 dots gives any option like that.

[saraclara]

Yes there is. Check the funnel shaped icon or the three dots at the top. I don't have the app, but people have explained elsewhere, where the 'see all OP's posts' option is on the app.

[MyFriendGiraffrey]

Those of you suggesting that posters should click on the "see all" button to view all of OP's posts, and therefore see the resolution, can I just point out that there is no "see all" on the Android app.

[cameocat]

@Jojofjo44 if you swipe left and press the filter option on your phone you can read all of the OP's posts.

[crosstalk]

Hope the CF has gone away as the OP has. But I would suggest the OP looks into her insurance properly even with real friends coming. And loos?

[MulticolourMophead]

@honeygirlz

Are people doing it deliberately now?! grin

If they are they could at least make it funny or outlandish

Nudist colony clamping with only face masks as permitted apparel?

The clamping sounds... interesting

[kyles101]

😂 I love that this is still going!!! Just giving it a little bump, someone must surely be able to come up with a solution to this conundrum?