To think weddings should have one maid of honour and the bridesmaids should be young children

[LaureBerthaud]

Like Kate Middleton and I did for our weddings.

Less cost, fuss and stress and the photographs look better.

And I know it's their wedding, their choice...

Another item to add to the tacky/common thread. How fun!!

I don’t think there should be humans at all as attendants. Trained black labs are far prettier and look sweet with roses on their collars.

There aren't six of them either!

What a bizarre thread.

And I have three best friends. I couldn't, and wouldn't, pick just one of them.

@DigOutThoseLemonHandWipes

There aren't six of them either!

Poor 7th child who's not on the photos but what a lovely day for them to be picked for a royal wedding. I think royal Kate missed a trick

@OdaMaeBrown

What a bizarre thread.

And I have three best friends. I couldn't, and wouldn't, pick just one of them.

This has been clarified earlier Oda. You don't, you have to pick one else it doesn't count as best, because the rules of being 7 and have a bff apparently continue onto adulthood. Pick a favourite and tell the others

I had my four best friends. Having to choose one friend and then have a gaggle of small people wiping their nose on my dress? No, ta.

Ps. I have a DD, I don't hate kids, but nah.

I was never a bridesmaid. So I didn't have any at my wedding. I didn't have at the time any nieces or friends with children. My sister was one of my witnesses tho.

So glad I live somewhere I could choose who's at my wedding. There was one dc in my family when I got married. My 6 month old nephew. He came to the wedding but definitely wouldn't have made as good a bridesmaid as my sister did!

Some brides absolutely pick people to be their bridesmaids who look good on the wedding photos. My dsis had a few friends to pick from and picked the prettiest and slimmest. She admitted to me that as the dresses she had picked for the bridesmaids were off the shoulder and snug fitting, that she had discounted two friends who were overweight as she thought the dresses would look awful on them. Unfortunately people can be quite shallow when it comes to their weddings.

My chief bridesmaid doubled as a bodyguard and bouncer, keeping warring families in check and stopping me becoming overwhelmed. Honestly I couldn't have coped without her. The small bridesmaid on the other hand hid under a table and refused to be in any photos...

@Thisismytimetoshine - I did!!! My wedding, my rules.

I wish I could go back in time and do my whole wedding again now that someone off the Internet has told me how wedding should be done ....... I feel ridiculous having my two sisters and my best friend....... and my daughter and nieces too ( it was an amazing day although I'm sure you'd have hated it)

Get a life

[quote luckylavender]@Thisismytimetoshine - I did!!! My wedding, my rules. [/quote]

Personally I think it's odd when people have lots of adult bridesmaids (even odder when they have groomsmen American style, what's wrong with ushers???) but it's personal preference. If dp and I marry I suspect we will end up with lots though, our adults daughters, all or none situation!

I find it bizarre that your decision about bridesmaids would be based on what the photos would look like, especially when you seem keen on clones.
The photos should even be a factor in the decision.

I'm from Canada where traditionally, the closest friends of the bride are bridesmaids. Young girls (if there are any in the family) would be flower girls.

Different cultures have different traditions.

They just look better IMVHO than assorted grown women who are different sizes, suit different hairstyles, make-up

Surely most people choose their bridal party on the basis of whom they're closest to, rather than who will look best in the photos?

Probably, though there may be reasons for exceptions I would think are reasonable.

Ha, you would have hated my wedding!

5 adult bridesmaids, all totally different shapes, sizes and styles. They all wore whatever they wanted in in our chosen colours, and looked fabulous. The groom, best man and my DF did not have matching suits, and my dogs were part of the wedding party (Ddog 1 was ring bearer!)

No official photos, just a lot of snapshots of us all having a great time.

No children in immediate family, so would’ve had to hire some from somewhere. If there isn’t already an agency that does that maybe you should set one up @LaureBerthaud 😆 Just so we can all get married photogenically...

We didn't know any young girls to be bridesmaids. Maybe I should have press ganged some instead of having my two closest friends (no bridesmaids dresses) and DNeph who was 6 and walked down the aisle in front of me with a bubble gun - his idea and we thought it was cute.

We were more bothered about the day, people having a good time and being married than what people looked like in the photos (which have barely been looked at since in any case).

I realise it's cultural differences but I always find it odd that American weddings always seem to have about 10 bridesmaids and groomsmen ranged along a staircase. I can only assume dresses are much cheaper out there as there's no way we could have afforded 10 dresses at over £200 each.

@RaraRachael

I realise it's cultural differences but I always find it odd that American weddings always seem to have about 10 bridesmaids and groomsmen ranged along a staircase. I can only assume dresses are much cheaper out there as there's no way we could have afforded 10 dresses at over £200 each.

As far as I’m aware, I think in America the bridesmaids and groomsmen tend to pay for their own dresses/suits.