To think that you shouldn't buy presents for all of your children?

[Aqua2468]

I've seen this quite a lot on Facebook, it's a child's birthday and they're sitting there with a pile of presents and next to them their siblings sit with 1-3 presents each.

I've seen this from younger siblings and also seen it in households with older siblings.

I don't understand the problem with just allowing whoever's birthday it is to get presents and why do they have to buy for the other DC when it's not their birthday?

'I had a birthday week when I was 40 grin'

Just to make clear:I certainly don't think that spreading the celebrations over a week makes someone a 'birthday princess' in itself. The sort of thing that I'm thinking of is people sulking or having tantrums because they consider their gifts as insufficient or not to their taste or because the gifts don't arrive on the day itself (at least a birthday week may remove that bone of contention!); making a big fuss if someone declines an invitation to the celebration, regardless of the reason; judging another person's friendship solely in terms of how much effort they are seen as making to honour the BIRTHDAY, and ignoring everything else they may or may not have done for the person; and/or using the birthday as emotional blackmail for unrelated demands: 'But you have to do this for me- how can you be so selfish when it's my BIIIIIRTHDAY!' Having a birthday week instead of one day just extends the length of time when someone can engage in birthday-zilla behaviour, if they're that way inclined already; it doesn't cause the attitude..

I certainly don't think that most children who are encouraged to treat their birthday as their One Special Day are going to grow up to be birthday-zillas, any more than I think that children who get a small gift on a sibling's birthday (assuming that this is a family custom, and not appeasement of a tantrum) are all going to grow up to be spoilt brats who can't delay gratification. But it is my impression that the former is a little more likely than the latter.

@Thisismytimetoshine

If your kids are only allowed one day out of a year to shine or to feel important it’s a pretty poor shit show. Do you think the kids who are allowed to celebrate their birthday without their siblings getting in on the act are shoved in a cupboard and ignored for the rest of the year? Your post is so ridiculous there's no real argument to be had, you've missed the point so completely.

I was being sarcastic to counterattack all the posts about grabby bratty sulky narcissistic children that receive a little gift too...