AIBU or are grandparents being ridiculous?

[Thesaltandthesea]

First world issue. I am very hot and very pregnant and have been feeling very unreasonable all day.

DD8 has a wetsuit she bought with her own pocket money. She keeps it at my mum's house because they’ve taken her sea swimming a few times recently. She wants to go sea swimming tonight with her two best friends (and adults, all competent swimmers). She phoned my mum to check they were in so we could go pick it up along with her bodyboard. My mum was like “yeah that’s fine” and then her husband shouted in the background “no it’s not fine she needs to keep it here”. Cue floods of tears from DD and my mum hanging up and refusing to answer the phone.

1. I’m having to deal with the fallout of an upset DD who has been looking forward to seeing her friends for the first time in months all day
2. I need to explain to DD's friend's mums that her grandparents won't let her have her wetsuit
3. We cannot find anywhere locally with a wetsuit in stock (not that I feel we should be replacing it - no 8 year old needs 2 wetsuits ffs!)
4. I’m convinced my mums husband is very controlling. Not saying my mum is in anyway blameless but this isn’t the first time something like this has happened.

So, am I being unreasonable to be really pissed off about this or are they being hideously unfair?

Don’t leave the ball in your mothers court, she’s shit, her choice in males is shit and she’s choosing to damage your kids and her own kids by dragging the into toxic theatrics and tedious drivel. Never make your kids have to endure her and her current lover, out of some weird obligation, keep them away from emotional abusers, and see the woman and her trash bloke in your own time if you feel the need. Send your siblings screenshots of her pathetic drivel and do not engage. Look at the Stately Homes threads here, for those of us burdened with trash for ‘parents’, it’s absolute bliss once you finally discard them, honestly

Your family seems to be engaged in triangular communication, always a sign of problems.

@Thesaltandthesea I can completely see why you sent that message and l think all needed to be said. Her husbands thoughts and demands are not normal

I've just read the bit about hom wanting money from you for having a grandchild sleep over! What's the going rate? I have 4 for a couple of nights, I should be quids in!

Op did you have a good relationship with your mum before she married this man?

I WISH there was a thumbs up for so many of the replies I see here. OP please get your daughter's suit and then cut off ties till your mom calls and see only her if that is what you would like, that husband of hers do not deserve to see your children.

OP my dd has broken her ankles 3 times in the space of a year.... twice on one side and once on the other (not both at the same time) and it’s because she’s active! She’s 6 and mountain bikes down some pretty gnarly stuff. So it’s inevitable.

What I’m getting at is that so e kids are more active than others (like your dd by the sounds of it) so are more likely to become injured