AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

[NotOdd]

Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

Btw I’m a long standing mner and have nc because I’m going to share this with bf

Nope - Christmas starts in December.
I have no invites and haven’t invited as yet. And no plans to do so anytime soon.

Sunday lunch is a chore and should be a day of rest!! Who needs that much prep and clearing when you have so little time off work

It's pretty unusual these days to have a Sunday roast, and even the supermarkets haven't put Christmas stuff out yet so it's probably a little early.

Which "backwards" part of the country do you come from?

We go to my mum’s every Sunday for a roast (obviously not if we’ve gone away or are staying with friends for a weekend or something, but probably 90% of sundays are spent this way).

Christmas however, I wouldn’t dream of planning at this stage. But I accept that’s probably because we have a small family and do the same thing every year!

I think it's a nice thing to do, but no we don't have Sunday lunch and I haven't given Christmas a thought.

Christmas?? Its july??
But yes we do have a roast most Sundays. Perhaps not as much in the summer.

No regular Sunday lunch here but I did when growing up. My kids don't really like them. One is vegetarian and the other two don't eat potatoes. I will get asked about Christmas soon and I'll likely want to punch the person asking me. But I don't think you are weird or backward just different.

I havent had a sunday roast lunch at home for about 20 years and it wasnt really a thing then. Sundays are for going out and about. I think when shops opened on a Sunday, this sort of thing died out. After all, who wants to stay in all day just to have lunch? Christmass prep starts in December.

To me you're odd, Sunday dinner doesn't really happen in this house. Sometimes we might have a roast, but not necessarily on a Sunday, and if we remember there might be a nice meal at the weekend, but Sunday tea is just as likely to be a lentil curry. I've always been confused by people who see Sunday dinner/ fish and chips on Friday etc as non-negotiable events. We've also never planned Christmas this far in advance, it's only July! (I'm from oop North too if that's what he meant by a "backward part of the country" )

We don’t have a Sunday roast regularly... maybe about once every 2 months. We’re usually out and about on a Sunday.
IL’s have one without fail though.
Absolutely not to Christmas plans being firmed up in July. That is madness .

Only people I know who are thinking about Christmas now are families where international movements happen so they get the cheaper tickets.

Christmas? Fig me. I haven't even figured out this week yet.
We don't do Sunday special meals.

Where is a backward part of country?

And no idea about backwards parts of the country... I’m from the Midlands, DH part southern, part welsh, part European. So we have a fair few areas covered between us and neither have regular Sunday roasts or plan Christmas in July.

I love a Sunday roast, it is so easy to cook and gives us left overs for Monday night tea as well. We do it every week too!

Christmas is half and half, I know what I am doing but will wait for confirmation if any family are joining us. However, my sisters and I have just started the family Christmas present Google spreadsheet

Sorry, I don’t know anyone who has a roast on Sunday as a family event even vaguely regularly. As an occasional thing, yes, but not a default.

And whilst there might be discussions about Christmas now we wouldn’t be setting anything in stone either.

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Only people I know who are thinking about Christmas now are families where international movements happen so they get the cheaper tickets.

True. In laws (in Spain) made some vague murmurings about coming over for Christmas the other day.

Christmas doesn’t cross my mind until December, and we eat what we fancy on a Sunday (and every other day). It doesn’t mean that you’re ‘odd’ - maybe just a bit set in your ways.

How have you got time and headspace to start thinking of Christmas now?

We never have a roast for lunch on a Sunday, sometimes we have one for our evening meal but not necessarily on a Sunday. And I usually start buying Christmas presents in September but we don't make Christmas plans until late November/early December.

We don’t have a Sunday roast - we’re usually out and about.
We have a meat and two veg meal on a Monday night.

Christ as hasn’t been discussed at all but to be fair we always go to my mums so there is no discussion to be had.

I love a Sunday roast but not every week.

Christmas chat in July would drive me NUTS! How many people are you inviting for dinner that you need to firm up plans 6 months in advance?

Also interested in which part of the country he considers 'backward'

We regularly have a Sunday roast, just because we all enjoy it as for Christmas, that's forbidden to be spoken about before mid November, I cannot abide a 5 month build up to one day.

He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country

Well, this is rude. I suppose he lives an endlessly sophisticated life and hails from a cosmopolitan city, rather than the rest of us who chew turnips six days a week in our rural backwater holes and look forward to a roast on Sunday?

I would also suggest that he isn't thinking about Christmas because he doesn't organise anything for it, and simply turns up to gatherings where the Christmas fairies have done everything? Just a guess.

We have started having regular Sunday roasts in lockdown and intend to carry it on as we really enjoy it. We did have them quite often when I was a child, or would go to our grandparents for it.

I am a planner for Christmas and would be starting to make plans soon. Coronavirus has thrown this year into a bit of disarray though, and I don’t know if we’ll be in a position to host our usual events so have held off for now. But normally I’m with you!

We have a Sunday roast, so do all my family and most of my friends. When I lived in London it was the same, now I live up North and have noticed no difference.

We know where we'll be on Christmas day because we alternate between my parents and PIL. Most families with DC do similar in my experience.