AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

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Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

I like a roast on a Sunday and have bought nearly all my Christmas presents

I always do a Sunday roast because I feel that the family has had a proper meal that way and I like one meal per week to be an "occasion". I also think it's an efficient way to feed a family with the leftovers being turned into something else during the week. I do know that I'm unusual though.

Christmas won't be discussed until after Oct HT, which is still quite early.

Agree with Sunday roast comment but I dont think about Christmas until around October.

Sunday roast every week where possible !

• They’re just the best
• They provide leftover meal the next day
• They smell amazing
• My dogs love me for it
• They take time to prepare so I have to hang around not doing anything else (drinking wine)

In terms of Xmas yes you’re odd. It’s one day and overrated. I would rather have beans on toast on my own

OP- if you have a roast every week...why do you need to plan Christmas now, as it won't be out of the ordinary?

You're not odd, btw, lots of families have roast dinner every week. We have a roast almost every week, because it's easy and there's no actual cooking required! I put it in the oven, then I can spend the afternoon playing with the children while it cooks, and just pop in every now and then to turn the potatoes. We almost always have it in the evening rather than lunchtime.

As for "chavvy" @NC10101? People that use that term have no class, so I know which if rather be seen as!

Sunday roast in winter most weeks rarely in summer. No idea on Christmas plans yet but i did start making a list of stuff dc may like

Silly man - if he doesn't like it he doesn't have to eat it!

If that is all he can find to criticise you about he is a very lucky man indeed!

When my children were smaller we had a Sunday ritual - delicious Sunday roast lunch with hand made pudding (usually with custard - yum!) then for tea I would make bread rolls and a sponge cake which we would eat in front of the fire in the winter whilst watching Antiques Road Show.

It is amazing how much these rituals meant to them - they are now adult and talk fondly of how much they looked forward to us all being together doing the same things each week. I am just amazed I found the energy to do it all after a week at work!

You stick to your guns!

Never have a Sunday roast and christmas is usually planned in November/December unless family are visiting from overseas/across the country.

Personally I don’t really like a Sunday roast.we might have one once every 6weeks if that.
It’s not a faff I just think it’s a heavy meal and my kids aren’t interested.

As for Christmas I’ve idea on what to do/ decorate but that won’t actually start till November. Nor will invites be sort till then esp considering we may have another covid issue.

It’s not odd but it’s definitely not so common now.

I haven’t eaten a Sunday roast in years. Yes, it was common to have them back in the 70’s when I grew up, but not so much these days. It’s excessive for one thing.

I enjoy eating them but can’t be bothered to cook it just for me because no-one else in my family would eat it. Christmas dinner is chips and whatever for DS and maybe a curry for DH and myself as DH is veggie but not that interested in food.

I probably start thinking about Christmas present shopping in October. I hate Christmas/present shopping and would do anything to get out of it.

But a roast is one of the simplest things to make. Peel the veges, whack everything in the oven, turn after 45 mins, then half hrly. Done in two hours with very little effort. I do roasts for a weekend evening meal regularly.

Went out with one guy who would only eat marinated roasts. They're nice but after years with him I can't face a marinated roast yet. They're not hard either, I just love normal roast with gravy (which he hated).

Growing up we had a Sunday roast most weeks.

Occasionally now but I think the set in stone ritual of a Sunday roast every single week is quite old fashioned nowadays, not that there's anything wrong with that.

We have a roast maybe once every few weeks, probably more in the winter. the C word has not even been mentioned in this house yet and won't be for quite some time (until DM starts the conversation, likely Oct/Nov ish), even then I hate discussing Christmas months in advance just in case DH and I fancy going away, so I will do my best to avoid actually agreeing to anything!!

We had Sunday lunch every week without fail in the 70s and 80s. Looking back my poor mum was often stuck in the kitchen while we were enjoying the nice weather or my dad was reading the Sunday papers. So I see it as quite outdated because of that, I suppose, the woman slaving away in the kitchen while everyone else does what they want.

My kids and I like a Sunday roast and if I can drink wine while I'm cooking it I don't mind being stuck in the kitchen! But there always seems to be a lot of cleaning up and I hate scrubbing the roasting pans. DH doesn't like a roast, says it's boring (but he doesn't have gravy - WTF?!). I think he had 3 a week growing up, his mum is a plain meat and 2 veg cook so he is just sick of them now, so we don't have them very often. We are usually visiting family locally on Sunday morning so am not here to cook a roast lunch, so if we do it it has to be in the evening and clean up is a faff late on when we're all trying to get sorted ready for work and school next day.

I agree that it's often older working class families who cook a Sunday lunch without fail.

As for making Christmas plans. This is a bit early even for me, OP!! Surely unless you're having to make special travel arrangements and organise leave from work as part of that there is no need to even think about it now? My family are all local so no-one would be staying overnight, so we just literally need to have a discussion sometime in November about who is going to whose for Christmas day then order enough food accordingly.

I’m from a backward part of the country too - London - and we have a Sunday roast whenever we can fit it into the schedule (on average twice a month). I think it’s a normal family (and invited friends) thing to do. I also come from a big family so normally we decide by Easter who will be hosting Christmas, Boxing Day, etc. so we can plan ahead for numbers of guests staying or visiting for the day. Sadly this year it’s all up in the air because some of the family are shielding.

Your BF sounds a little odd and unsociable.

And to pps and their snobbery, if you met me, you would think me very much middle class ... have a lovely home-baked

If adult D.C. are around then Sunday dinner will be a roast or something special. If it’s just us it’s likely to be cheese on toast (we love cheese on toast).

Christmas here is pretty routine. We’ve had the same family members come along for years That being said we don’t actually confirm plans until December and it’s always a lottery whether or not certain in-laws will be able to get cheap standby tickets from the US (they normally do). But it’s no biggy at Christmas. There’s always loads of food and it’s no bother to peel a few extra potatoes.

Well, it's definitely way too early to think about Christmas, but we tend to have a roast dinner .most Sundays. I don't find them that much work to be honest, but if we have other plans or it's a hot day, then I'm not too fussed about missing it.

Everyone where I live does the Sunday roast 😁 and my own friends and family have already had the who-is-going-where-for-Christmas discussion. That’s the way it has always been ☺️

Christmas starts 1st January in this house! We love a Sunday roast too, we must be from the backward part of the country too OP!

Most sundays we have a roast dinner and normally invite the in laws and my dad round. During lockdown we haven’t really bothered as it’s a lot of prep and washing up for one meal when it’s just us 4.
I don’t know a solitary person that has plans for Christmas in July. Unless it is people that always alternate as a long standing agreement.
I love Christmas and I love planning and hosting but I refuse to start until at least October.

We never have a roast and don't think about Christmas till December,

I moved out of my family home 36 years ago and have not had a traditional Sunday roast since then. I've always lived with someone who works 12 hour shifts, so normal Sunday's just don't exist for us

My Mum has dragged us out for a Sunday lunch but we now refuse as we just can't eat a roast at 1-2 o'clock

I'd say you're in the minority. Can't remember the last time we had a Sunday dinner and definitely not thinking about Christmas in July!

This would be extremely ‘odd’ (not saying you are odd) for me / family / friends. I don’t know anyone who has a roast dinner on Sunday other than extremely rarely.
As for Christmas plans aren’t usually made until late October/nov ish.
This year I’m not even thinking of Christmas - so much uncertainty and fully understand some may want to be away if travel is possible. Travel or gathering in U.K. May be difficult etc. Wouldn’t dream of tying anyone down this year (as long as older family members are sorted out) with such early plans.
However if this is normal in your family your dp doesn’t need to belittle you about it !

Nope - Christmas starts in December.

NO NO NO. You have to start boiling the spouts in March!