AIBU to think it’s not me who’s ‘odd’

[NotOdd]

Apparently (according to bf) I’m odd, out of touch and not like “most people” because I think Sunday roast lunch as a regular standard default family event is normal and that about now is the time to start firming up Christmas plans in terms of guests etc.

Bf says he knows no one who regularly has a Sunday roast lunch or anyone who thinks about Christmas “this early”. He thinks this is because I come from a “backward” part of the country 🙄

I am genuinely confused because literally everyone I know (bf and his family aside) would have a roast Sunday lunch (not set in stone, other things may happen instead ie days out, bbq in the summer etc) and everyone I know either has, or nearly has, their Christmas plans settled. When I say ‘everyone’ I mean my whole family, my EXH whole family (going by knowing them for 20 years) and all my friends.

AIBU for thinking it’s not me who’s the ‘odd’ one?

Only ever have a Sunday roast if we go for a carvery! It's way too much hassle really, aside from Christmas Dinners we never do a roast especially not in the hot weather.

As for the Sunday lunch, sorry but to me people who always have a ‘roast’ on Sunday, to me, have always been lower-class/‘chavvy’ (sorry to use that term)

Yeah, but you're not sorry, are you, because if you were why would you have pressed post rather than found a different term?

With this kind of thing it's a bit like marmite.
Some will agree, others won't.
Personally I do a Sunday dinner maybe once a month. I enjoy cooking, but honestly it's so much faff, especially when Sundays are a pj and chill day in our house.
Christmas I don't even start thinking about until at least September.

There is no need to baste meat at all. Chicken you cook in a roasting bag so the steam keeps the meat moist. Pork is quite fatty anyway so why would you want to add extra. Beef comes with a layer of fat on the outside So if cooked slowly it bashes itself. Lamb I rub the skin with salt and pepper and drizzle with olive oil before it goes in the oven.

As to pandering to people wanting any extras then no they get what I cook so roast potatoes, roast parsnips, carrots, peas sometimes yorkies and gravy.
But clearly I must be a lower class chav.

Growing up, we had a roast pretty much every Sunday and most often with my grandparents (either at their house or our house).

I still love a Sunday roast but wouldn't let it get in the way of other plans.

Re Christmas, I plan early too (just in terms of basic arrangements - who will host this year) but I can think about it until September. Once those plans are made I don't like to think about Christmas properly until December.

I think a Sunday roast is a normal tradition for many families.
I haven't given Christmas any thoughts this year stupid virus.
We use to go for a monthly sunday roast in the local but again it's been month's now.

@Iwalkinmyclothing

As for the Sunday lunch, sorry but to me people who always have a ‘roast’ on Sunday, to me, have always been lower-class/‘chavvy’ (sorry to use that term)

Yeah, but you're not sorry, are you, because if you were why would you have pressed post rather than found a different term?

I’m perplexed as to what is the acceptable Sunday lunch/dinner?

No Sunday roast here. Sundays our day to do family activities. Christmas is for October time

Sunday lunch we never have but Christmas I have bought 2 presents so far but I have 4 children from 13/1 so the presents range in prices big time...

YABU to think that everyone has Sunday roast (I've had one about 5 times in my life) and that Christmas should be planned in July.

He is being VVVVU and a complete arse to say that you're from a backwards part of the country.

A Sunday roast has literally never been a fixture of my life. None of my grandparents did one either. Tbh, I’d be thoroughly bored at the thought of pretty much the same meal every Sunday, just because it’s Sunday. Plus it does take a long time to cook (even if it’s just in the oven) which limits what else I can do with my day.

As for discussing Christmas plans in July... 😂😂. No. Absolutely no one I speak to is doing that. It’s far, far too early for that kind of thing. Although I think you’ll find a disproportionate number of MNers who’ve not only planned out Christmas but have finished shopping and wrapped stuff already, and who will spend the coming months posting on the Christmas boards about ‘twitching’.

As for the Sunday lunch, sorry but to me people who always have a ‘roast’ on Sunday, to me, have always been lower-class/‘chavvy’ (sorry to use that term)

What a stupid thing to say and speaks volumes about you as a person for that attitude

OP we don't always have Sunday roast but there's nothing wrong with it at all. Christmas planning in July is way too early IMO though

Yip, would find someone weird that organised Christmas by July.

And I would think a regular Sunday roast was something from my grandparents era. Do not know anyone who would do that now.

We have a roast most Sundays but served in the evenings. DH makes it most weeks but I do it occasionally. I'm on team it's not a huge faff. Meat goes in the oven, 10 minutes prep to peel & par boil potatoes for roasting (boiled/mashed potatoes do not belong on a roast - the clue is in the name). Veg go on the steam for 20 minutes. We don't baste the meat but always roast it covered over liquid so it steams as it cooks.
No "hosting" involved just us and the DC.
Christmas not even thought about until November.

@AlviesMam

I have a roast every Sunday!! I love it! And yes I'm planning Christmas right now.

This.

Ah you're from Yorkshire!! Can't wait for my roast beef dinner on Sunday. 21 weeks 'til Christmas, eeeek

I think you’re both odd in that you both think there is only one way to do things. People are different and have different customs, don’t you realise that? We have a roast on a Sunday fairly regularly, but I won’t be deciding anything to do for Christmas until about November. Just accept that people are not all the same.

The older generation of our family (my mum - 82, my DHs parents - 70s, 2 sets of my DDs boyfriend's parents - mid 60s) all seem to still have their roast dinner every sunday. Even if it's just for the one or two of them.

I like to do an occasional 'everyone over for an all the trimmings sunday roast' but not regularly by any means. Maybe once a month in winter? It's quite £££ and 2 hours cooking and then the clearing up smack in the middle of every sunday? no ta!

Perhaps it's a time thing? Because apart from anything else the grown up kids are often busy or at work and me and DH are renovating and extending the house at the moment and sat and sun are the days we really push to get stuff done. No time to cook for ages and then sit about stuffed full

We have a Sunday roast most Sundays apart from when the weather is really hot - but even then it will be the sort of meal that takes time to prepare, rather than the more simple food we'd eat on weekdays.

But, I would not be thinking about Christmas in July. That's crazy talk.

No Sunday roast but Christmas is being sorted as we speak! I've even started LISTS!

Just spoke to my sister about Christmas as we need to decide where we are going so one side can book their travel.

Your bf sounds like an arsehole. I'd not include him in any Christmas plans.

Nope to both.
I know two couples that have a Sunday roast each week - one in their early 80s, the other early 90s. Literally noone else.

I've never had a Sunday Roast in my life - I'm weird about food though and dislike hot food during the day and would hate to have a big stodgy meal in the middle of the day. But if that's something you like and you've always done then why not - it definitely doesn't make me think you're odd or weird, if that's what your family does and you enjoy it then that's great.

Re. Christmas - part of the reason I don't really like Christmas (there, I said it) is because of all the ridiculous long drawn out run up to it - months and months of planning (and looking at tacky Christmas shit in the shops for months) just for one day. But again, if you're someone who loves Christmas and enjoys all the run-up and the planning then go for it.

FWIW I'm in Scotland and I don't think Sunday Roast is such a big thing up here, I actually don't know anyone who does that here.

If you enjoy your weekly Sunday Roasts and Christmas planning then who cares what anyone else thinks.

Because I work shifts, we only have a Sunday roast once a month.

I'm a staunch atheist and don't give a fig about Christmas. I am a reluctant participant. Any involvement is to keep my father in law (who expects certain things to happen) and my daughter happy. I do the bare minimum Ican get away with.

As a child we often had a Sunday roast at lunchtime wwhich we called dinner, especially when I was very young, but as I got older and us kids were all out doing things or working (we had weekend jobs) it became more rare. It’s a lovely rarity now, maybe once every three months.

Christmas - we have made a vague suggestion as a family that it is mum and dad’s turn since we did the last two years, but location has not been set in stone and certainly not number of guests! Nov/Dec is fine for that.