Circumcision Conversation

[curiousierandcouriser]

Don’t really have anyone to talk about this IRL so posting to get other perspectives. I’m not the most articulate in debates so sometimes have trouble getting my points across.

Anyway, in a nutshell we have a DS (school age) and are again discussing circumcision. My OH is from a culture that promotes this while I am hesitant to expose DS to the unnecessary risk and pain as I don’t see any clear benefit. My OH (quite rightly) has said that the longer we wait, the worse the recovery is and is pushing for it.

Does anyone have any resources / facts / recommended sites that we can use to help this discussion? We both love and want what’s best for our son, just have differing ideas on this topic.

unless there is a medical need dont do it - your DS can make the decision for himself when hes older

If he doesn't need it done for medical reasons, don't do it. He can always have it done privately when he is older and can actually consent to it.

Let your DS decide when DH can put to him his reasoning

It's for him to decide when he's older and no one else. It should be illegal.

Unless there is a clear medical need, why would you submit your child to unnecessary surgery, pain and risk?

Leave it for your ds to make his own decision.

Why not wait until your son is old enough to decide for himself if he wants to have his foreskin cut off? He could make the choice on his 18th birthday. It’s his body, after all.

Surely, if his culture promotes it, it would've been done at a very early age? I see little benefit to having it done now where keeping it clean to allow it to heal would be difficult, and the pain would probably stick in his memory.

Your husband does not have the right to mutilate his son’s genitals.

Circumcision is nobody’s but your sons choice to make.

I think its a bit late now if he is school age.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5296634/

You are about to be called a potential child abuser and a mutilator by a lot of posters.

Mn is not a good place to get advice on circumcision.

I’m from a culture where it is sadly normal, I was circumcised as a baby, I’ve since had two corrective surgeries. I don’t have a huge deal of sensation in my penis (never have).

Circumcision in children should strictly be based on medical need. If your son wants it doing he can have it done as an adult when he is able to fully consent.

It's barbaric if not done for medical reasons, it's a practice that belongs in the stone age and needs outlawing

My DS had one carried out when he was 17yrs under a local for medical reasons only.

I'm very against the mutilation of childrens genitals. Would never do it unless medically necessary.

I think it's a bit late now, this is really the type of thing that should have been discussed and put to bed before he was born.
You can't just start lopping off parts, you need to wait until he can decide on his own now.

@QueenofmyPrinces

Your husband does not have the right to mutilate his son’s genitals.

Circumcision is nobody’s but your sons choice to make.

THIS times a million

It’s bad enough that you would consider getting it done at all for non medical reasons, let alone at school age!

Try googling for circumcision deaths and ask why would any loving parent want to take that risk.

Unless for medical reasons which I believe are very rare I would absolutely not consent to having part of my child's body cut off.

Son had to have it done in yr2. For medical reasons!! I felt so guilty, we spoke about it a lot before and after. He had been in pain before hand for a long time.
I still feel guilty. We have spoken about it lots since.
Please don't do it unless he needs it

My DH was circumcised a couple of years ago. Had a minor issue and circumcision was an option but not strictly necessary. He is delighted with it (as am I)

However, I think your son should make his own decisions when older. Reminds me of going to Turkey and seeing the 10-11 year old boys all having circumcisions and having a ceremony and putting a brave face on it!!

Don't do it - awful to put your son through that at school age (or ever IMHO) unless it's an absolute medical neccessity

His penis, his decision - he can always have it done after he is 18

Why on earth would you cut a part of your son’s penis off unless medically necessary? (And yes, I come from a culture where it is normal/expected).

It should be illegal except for medical need.

Don’t do it!

why would you even be considering it?! my son had to have one aged 11 for medical reasons and even then we tried everything else possible before using circumcision as a last resort. to put your son through an operation and recovery for ‘cultural reasons’ is beyond ridiculous and borderline cruelty imo.