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KatieAlcock · 24/07/2020 19:43

I've just come to update you on my case against Girlguiding, where they expelled me for raising safeguarding concerns and for asking why we had to believe in inner gender identity to be a leader.
Girlguiding have spent AT LEAST £35,000 and probably more like £100,000 of the subs you pay for your daughter to go to Rainbows, Brownies or Guides, on defending a case against me, a committed leader who wants to make sure girls are safe and leaders have freedom of expression.

Full text of my update in the next post so as not to bore you to death!

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Picass0L1ne · 24/07/2020 20:20

What injuries would need clothes removed? 🤔

EmpressLangClegSpartacus · 24/07/2020 20:21

Scouts are openly mixed sex & there are proper safeguarding measures in place.

Guides are doing it under the radar & saying that boys who identify as girls can share tents with girls. And parents don’t get told about it.

You must see the difference?

GoshHashana · 24/07/2020 20:21

@AnneOfQueenSables

They are aligned but many more people believe in science than gender critical feminism. I guess there must be a legal reason but it's similar to Maya's case and I'm still unclear why the legal teams think gc feminism is a stronger argument than science. It seems to move it from facts (science) to belief (feminism).
Gender critical feminists BELIEVE in science. Biology. Material reality.
Picass0L1ne · 24/07/2020 20:23

Could not give a stuff.

whattimeisitrightnow · 24/07/2020 20:23

Yes, comparing to scouts or school trips is silly. As PP stated the parents in those scenarios are fully aware of who is going on those trips - they might not be with GG.

alreadytaken · 24/07/2020 20:23

Girl Guides now insist that any questioning of their transgender policy means you cannot be a leader. That policy allows self-identification, although they dont publicise this. So they are no longer what they were set up to be, an organisation for women.

I couldnt send a girl to guides and feel more people would feel like that if they knew about the thought policing.

PaperTed · 24/07/2020 20:23

@Annabanana1234

So you’re a bigot that wouldn’t stop spouting her anti trans bullshit so they told you to do one? You then took umbrage and sued? Or have I got it wrong?
You’ve got it wrong, deliberately no doubt.
sunrainwind · 24/07/2020 20:24

I'm with the GG on this.

LastTrainEast · 24/07/2020 20:24

[quote mummyoneboy19]@IAmReportingYouForBBQing

Literally know a female leader who does not identify as female.

Do you have any accurate figures for the number of men identifying as women within the organisation? Who may have been in any of the scenarios you portray?[/quote]
Maybe head office haven't found out yet so be careful not to identify the person you're referring to.

Best way to get figures is to ask GG, but they may well be reluctant to say given that whole thing about not telling parents their daughter would be forced to share a tent with a boy.

Boomclaps · 24/07/2020 20:24

@KatieAlcock

It isn't to do with leaders, but the sex/gender of the children participating,

Leaders who have a gender identity of "woman" are allowed to join but leaders who don't, aren't. So basically that's all women who don't subscribe to "women should conform to gender stereotypes and I'm OK with that".

If you try to debate the issue, other leaders are encouraged to shop you. If you own up to not thinking everyone has an inner gender essence type aura, out you go. To many of us it's rather like insisting you believe in astrology or auras if you want to be a leader.

And, of course, it's a safeguarding issue.

Wait, so GG say that only women can be leaders? Or anyone who ID’s as women can be leaders?
underneaththeash · 24/07/2020 20:24

@EmpressLangClegSpartacus - it is impossible. Hopefully the governments new ruling will make us less easy to change gender identity a d therefore it won’t be a safeguarding issue.

GG is a great organisation, which is poorly lead.

HavelockVetinari · 24/07/2020 20:25

[quote IAmReportingYouForBBQing]@mummyoneboy19

If you knew ANYTHING about the case you would take back what you said.

GG was set up for females so they had a safe but fun space without Males. But now anybody can join if they "feel" female. But actual females can't if they done feel female. That means guides etc now has Male leaders and Male children. Do you want Males being allowed into our daughters showers? Tents? They already allow teenage boys to do this, and adult MEN are "supervising". I do not want teen boys in my daughters tent or bathrooms. And GG Have decided that parents don't even get notified if there is a Male going away in the trip. That breaches safe guarding in every possible way. [/quote]
This with bells on!

Lifeisgenerallyfun · 24/07/2020 20:25

Well done OP for standing up for yourself. It’s time to stand up and say no to bullies who attempt to shame and harass you into certain beliefs. In truth it’s no different to a catholic inquisition of the late Middle Ages, repent or die.

LokiOdinson · 24/07/2020 20:25

I've seen plenty of people here say that they can absolutely 100% tell a trans woman from a non-trans woman. So what's the issue, if you can already tell if a young girl/helper for a trip is trans and therefore can pull your kid from the trip if you think all trans people and men are molesters?

nocoolnamesleft · 24/07/2020 20:26

Safeguarding is not an optional extra.

EmpressLangClegSpartacus · 24/07/2020 20:26

Anyone who IDs as women can be leaders. Where that leaves a woman who knows her sex is female but rejects the concept of gender, I’m not sure.

Smallsteps88 · 24/07/2020 20:26

Best of luck OP! You are absolutely doing the right thing. Changes to safeguarding of children should always stand up to questioning. If they can’t they aren’t appropriate changes and shouldn’t be made.

HavelockVetinari · 24/07/2020 20:26

GG can fuck right off if they expect to allow an adult man to supervise my teenage niece in the shower. What a shower of shite.

I really hope you win, Katie, I admire your courage and have of course donated and will continue to do so.

LastTrainEast · 24/07/2020 20:27

@Picass0L1ne

I agree with their stance too.

Hoards of men go on overnight school trips with girls,who gives a shit if men are on guiding trips.Confused

and sleep in their tent? And tell everyone not to tell their parents? This is normal now is it?
KatieAlcock · 24/07/2020 20:27

anyone who ID’s as women can be leaders?
This. And identifying as a woman is compulsory if you want to be a leader. So if you own up to not believing in gender identity, out you go.

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slipperywhensparticus · 24/07/2020 20:28

@Picass0L1ne

I agree with their stance too.

Hoards of men go on overnight school trips with girls,who gives a shit if men are on guiding trips.Confused

But we know there are men on the trips GG was making it a secret you weren't allowed to be told if a "fully functioning penis" would be sharing the same intimate spaces with your child my daughter was molested as a child (nothing to do with GG) but if she had gone on a "girls only" camp and found a penis owner was sharing she would have cut herself to shreds

the secrets and lies do the damage

mummyoneboy19 · 24/07/2020 20:28

@LastTrainEast

Thanks for your concern, but it’s not really an issue - it’s known, they’re a great leader and all is fine :)

I think there’s an awful lot of panic over trans people being involved in GG. A lot of the comments here seem to insinuate that those identifying as female are actually all predators pretending to be women in order to gain access to children.

Aside from it being statistically unlikely (and no amount of whataboutery will make me think otherwise) people need to remember that you will not have just one leader on any event - child to adult ratios exist! And it’s even less likely that all leaders on an event will be trans... and nigh on impossible that they’re all donning wigs to spy on girls in tents.

dolorsit · 24/07/2020 20:28

Hoards of men go on overnight school trips with girls,who gives a shit if men are on guiding trips.*

And there will be safeguarding procedures in place to protect the safety, privacy and dignity of those girls (part of which will likely involve having a female adult present)

Because guides are all "transwomen are women" they do not see the need for safeguarding procedures.

KatieAlcock · 24/07/2020 20:29

Where that leaves a woman who knows her sex is female but rejects the concept of gender, I’m not sure.
Out.

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WatchoutfortheROUS · 24/07/2020 20:30

Well done Katie. I took my DC out of GG because of this issue. It was meant to be a female only organisation. Changing that would be one thing, but to do it on the basis of self ID alone and not even telling parents, nope.