How does this text make you judge my recently ended relationship?

[swervedmrnasty]

Dear Swerved

It is important for me that you know the effects you had on my self esteem during our relationship

1. Kissing a squaddie in a bar and getting an ex boyfriend undressed when staying at his place while I was looking after my grieving kids in 2017

1. Going to the pub in 2018 with no knickers on whilst I was working 400m away, getting chatted up by an ex con and coming home with their number

1. Calling me a ‘cunt’ last Christmas in front of all the children

1. Calling me a ‘cunt’ after the skiing holiday

That accumulation is when I eventually gave up on us: I hope you learn something from me pointing this out.

Regards

Mr Nasty (or is he.... hence AIBU?)

And can categorically say I would never undress/ put to bed another adult

Really, @Jojobar? Even if, say, they were ill? And OP didn't undress the adult in question, she simply removed jeans with vomit on as an entirely sensible precaution.

I agree with vodkacranberry.

And jojo I’d totally strip a mate of his pukey jeans and roll him into bed. Wouldn’t think of it as anything other than being a pal. I’m not that attractive though, just very average really...so perhaps it’s ok for me?

I'd be tempted to reply:

Dear Mr Nasty

As you know and I know, nos. 1 and 2 are nonsense, whilst 3 and 4 were entirely merited. Therefore any damage to your self-esteem is entirely self-induced. Your text makes me more glad than ever that I dumped you.

Honestly I'm slim attractive and look young for my age. And can categorically say I would never undress/put to bed another adult Eh? Have you been at the wacky baccy too? What a funny comment!

I mean if you're slim and attractive you have every right not to help a drunk friend out of their sick covered jeans after you've helped them home. Sod it leave your friend lying in their hallway. You don't want to get your lovely hands soiled.

OP, I believe you. I’ve read all your posts and I think you’ve been honest in what you’ve said. Apart from your appearance, I think you must have something good going on to get chatted up twice so please don’t put yourself down!
The only thing I feel you did wrong was use the C bomb (I’m sorry I hate that word).
Your Ex sounds awful and I think you are well rid of him. As others have said not replying will drive him crazy and is the best way to deal with him. (I only wish I could be the same!)
Anyone of importance will not believe his nonsense if he starts going around slating you. If you feel you need to, talk it through with your family and friends so they understand what he was like (if they don’t already know) you will also need the support of your loved ones at this time.
Give yourself time to recover from this and then move on. You’ve done the right thing in ditching him. You will feel better soon.

Something about this post feels 'off' - is this a story meant to get everyone on their high horse?!

Its an old relationship. Move on

Sorry to be late returning to this thread, pub invitation accepted! Only if I start talking about ex I'll bore everyone to sleep and ruin the evening. Just bring a little sign saying "KEEP IT LIGHT" and hold it up every now and then when I stray on dangerous subjects.

I'm stout, square jawed and in my 60s, short hair, no make-up, haven't worn a skirt since 2009 or dressed up smartly since my last birthday but one, but I got propositioned twice on Tuesday. It's not a boast. Ever heard the ghastly phrase "Every hole's a goal"? Far too many men live by that philosophy. That's why it's not even flattering. I know it doesn't mean I'm strangely attractive; it means I'm female and (preferably but not necessarily) breathing. I really wouldn't read too much into it - as indeed the OP didn't.