To be annoyed the cleaner travelled abroad while we paid her not to clean?

[MaroonMacaron]

NC for this.

First of all, I know that I can’t ban anyone from travelling but I am annoyed and wondering if I have the right to be.

Our cleaner stopped coming at the beginning of lockdown. We continued to pay her weekly, I know some clients paid a proportion, some nothing at all. She was very grateful, said it was a huge help as she was skint.

As soon as lockdown lifted, she got on the plane to visit family in her home country (on the list with no need to quarantine).

All this time we’ve been super careful, not seen any grandparents, very little travel locally, let alone abroad (dh’s family is from Sweden and we’d love to visit but we are giving it more time). As I said, I know I can’t ban someone from travelling but then she’s clearly not that skint if she can afford plane tickets. I also think she has increased the risk to herself, and everyone she works for, by travelling at this time. I guess it doesn’t sit right with me that the money i was thinking was helping her through lockdown was actually funding her travelling.

YABU - she can spend her money any way she likes
YANBU - I would be annoyed as well

What a rotten attitude!

Just to add, sorry if I came across as harsh, but if you are worried about her bringing infection into your home, then remember that flying requires masks and planes have been pretty empty lately, also most (all?) European Countries currently have lower rates than we do, so it's actually safer than going out and about here.

I guess it doesn’t sit right with me that the money i was thinking was helping her through lockdown was actually funding her travelling.

Wow.

Keep the servants in their place, huh?

YABU. Did you only pay her on the basis that she was skint, or was it because you recognise that her job doesn't carry the benefits or security of other more traditional contracts? Should furloughed people have to account for every penny they have spent?

You chose to pay her, which I think was right, and at that point you lose the right to say how she spends that money. You don't even know what here situation has been anyway or who paid her fare.

I think you were right to pay her, and you were not paying her not to clean, you were paying to cover a period of involuntary absence.

You have no right be annoyed. She's your cleaner. You dont own her. You didn't have to pay her throughout lockdown but you chose to, which is a decent thing to do but you have no right to have an opinion on how she uses her money.

@Sunnydayshereatlast

What did you want her to spend the money on?

Hair shirts, religious tracts, mops and Dettol.

What a wanker. You don't get to dictate anything to a cleaner other than what you want cleaning.

We've paid our cleaner while she was off. She could have done a fucking Arctic trek for all I know/care. So long as she comes back I'm happy.

YABU

She’s not gone gambling in Vegas, she’s gone to visit family. Someone there could be ill or very elderly, for all you know. She might not have paid for the flight tickets herself, and even if she did, flights to Europe are pretty cheap.

You can’t dictate how she spends her wages. She could have frittered it on booze and fags during lockdown and you’d never have known to be able to complain about it. I’d rather the money was spent seeing family.

The only aspect I’d be concerned about would be virus exposure to my family and therefore wouldn’t ask her to visit for two weeks after returning to the U.K.

It is 89/11 against the OP.
But it is worrying that 11% agree!!!!!

OP, you disgust me. What an odious twat you are. YABU.

@Noextremes2017

It is 89/11 against the OP. But it is worrying that 11% agree!!!!!

It would be interesting to hear from some of the 11%. Maybe there's something obvious the rest are missing.

YBVVVU

This is a great wind up isn't it. Of course YABU

You could ask her not to come for 2 weeks and not pay her.

I have opposite problem with my cleaner. She does not have any underlying health issues. She could not come from March 20th until end of May. But she did not come on June. I text her to find out when she was coming back and she told me end of September. She has not left house since lock down and is to frightened to leave house even now. I waited until beginning of July but have now got a new cleaner.

Reckon this is a drop and run troll?

She is your cleaner.

You don't own her.
You don't know who paid for tickets.
It wouldn't surprise me if the entire return trip cost less than £60.
She went to visit family, not for a jolly to see the sights.

Jog on, with your momentually entitled bullshit.

HTH.

YABU

I’ve no idea what my cleaner has been up to the last few months and it’s none of my business. You paying her and her decisions on what she does in the time are totally separate and not relevant to each other.

My work never gave me permission as to the places I'm allowed to go when I was on furlough, did I miss that?

Yeah op she should have spent the hours she was meant to be at yours videoing herself sitting in an empty room to send to you as proof she wasn't having any enjoyment at your expense. How dare she spend her wages you give her without your approval

Do some people actually think like this? Really? FFS.

Wow. You nosey thing.

I suppose you made the choice to continue to pay her, I wouldn't to be fair. Clean your own house esp if your working from home and saving time on commute etc. Or get a new cleaner

Jog on, with your momentually entitled bullshit.

to someone who paid a lot more than they had to as a gesture of good will, it's uncalled for.

The cleaner said she was skint, she isn't , not a big deal, just find a new cleaner.

@sirfredfredgeorge I couldn't agree more: I'm honestly astounded that you had the brass neck to even think this, let alone post it for all to see, OP! Who on earth do you think you are? Some kind of bountiful overlord? You paid her what you judged to be fair and proportionate. At that point, the money was hers to do with as she chose. She is doing nothing illegal which is where your right to have an opinion ends, and you really need to recognise her as an independent person who you pay for a valued service, rather than your serf.