As an Aussie am struggling with the hysteria over a sunburn. The description of the child sitting with a cold compress & a paracetamol like she’s just been through a war did make me chuckle. This would be an event you’re not likely to repeat as it’s uncomfortable, but unless she is nauseous & vomiting (is proper sunstroke which this does not sound like) it wouldn’t ruin a fun a day of archery.
Having your hair burnt on a bbq is not “coming to harm” - she singed her hair, have you never leant too close to a candle and singed your hair?
You sound really precious. I’m surprised you haven’t encouraged your redhead/pale skinned daughter to develop a good skincare routine which involves a daily sunscreen - she should be wearing a sunscreen daily, regardless of the season and reapply it during the day. This would go a long way, if she can understand she has to take care of her pale skin to protect it.
The OP keeps clapping back, which makes me think she just wants to rant about the ex husband but didn’t actually want to be told she was being unreasonable.
Am pretty shocked that at age 14 they are still being babied this way. Some people who are booksmart do lack common sense, but the solution is to guide them to becoming responsible, not blaming everyone else around him.
If a 14 year old doesn’t want to wear their hat & they refuse, at what point is it ok to say “ok up to you, don’t come crying to me when your sunburn stings!” And let them deal with it?
The only way we learn is through consequence. It’s a disservice to this teen to not place blame squarely on her shoulders, so she will remember her sunblock in future.
As it stands, she still doesn’t have to remember because it’s mummy & daddy’s responsibility to remind her.