Boys with long hair?

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I just want to know why people are so against toddler boys or just boys in general having long hair?? I always thought it was cute but I've heard so many rude comments about it lately. It seems to really bother people?

I look forward to the day when children have long hair and it's no surprise any more. I'm sure it may be equally difficult to have a girl with short hair.

@ukgift2016 haha wow. You're so wrong. What an idiotic comment. You're very sad indeed. Bless

My 3 year old son has long hair and the only person who has ever said anything negative about it is my DM and that was only when it was in the inbetween growing stage, she was the same with my DD at the same stage. My husband also has long hair, we spend a fortune on hair bubbles 🙈

Boys with long hair can look gorgeous. So can girls with very short hair. My husband has long hair. And he’s at the top of his profession on a rather splendid salary. Providing, like girls, it’s tied up for things like science practicals, gym etc., what’s the issue?

It’s 2021. Are we still judging each other on appearance? By some of these comments, it’s very clear some people do. That’s pretty tragic, isn’t it?

The associating it with gay is baffling to me. Who knows a gay man with long hair?! I've never met one.

My ds18 has shoulder length curls, it looks gorgeous. He gets a lot of female attention

Probably jealous. Boys always get the best hair!

@HikeForward

Shmithecat2

I agree he’s pretty, but to me he looks like a girl. Especially with his hair in a feminine high bun (lovely style but traditionally very feminine).

If he’s ok with being mistaken for a girl that’s fine, but any hint of bullying or him feeling out of place and I’d be gently encouraging him towards a shorter cut. If he gets frustrated with being mistaken for a girl I wouldn’t pretend his hair isn’t the cause of it.

It’s different on men as their body shape, facial features, facial hair etc all indicate they are male.

Interesting take on it - cut his hair because some kids have been brought up thinking it's ok to bully other kids when their hairstyle doesn't fit a stereotype? Yeah, no. I'd rather encourage my son to keep his hair as long as he wants for as long as he wants. If he said to me tonight he wants it cut short, I'd do it happily. I certainly wouldn't encourage him to do anything that might prove that bullies are right . DS is also a good 6 inches taller than most of his classroom peers. I'm pretty sure the bullies will find someone else with less formidable presence to pick on.

This helped with some of the more ignorant amongst them.

@Iminaglasscaseofemotion

maybe not to your face. My son has long hair and i thought everyone in the family liked it, always said how shiny it was etc, then i overheard my sister saying to my mam that isnt it about time she cut his hair, shes not doing him any favours (he was 7), i went mad and when i asked her about it, she told me some of the smaller kids in the family were slagging him and calling him a girl, and he didnt want to tell me, i was gutted, straight down to barbers to get his hair cut and he was delighted, so i often think now did i keep it long for me or for him.

Did you never ask him how he wanted his hair cut?

asked him lots of time and he always said, no its grand, im happy with it, until i stopped asking and then i found out kids slagging him, so when i said to him do you want to cut your hair, he said i thought i wasnt allowed, so i was devastated when i heard that, and thats when we went to barbers, and he cut a short haircut, I much prefer it this way now and he does too.

I love little boys with long hair.

In my experience, those who have something to say about it are usually older or if younger a bit dim and the kind to also complain if you put a little boy in eg a baby pink polo shirt and claim he'll turn out gay.

And yes, both of these things happened with my liitle one (and interactions with elderly people & divs).

I definitely think it’s a class thing. On here most people seem to love long hair on boys but thing girls should have their hair kept shorter and ‘more practical’ .

Personally I think people with girls tend to keep their hair trimmed and tied up in neat and attractive styles. Most boys with long hair (I’m talking pre-teens) tend to be a straggly mess, even though their DM’s (very rarely is is dads) imagine they have ‘beautiful ringlets’.

I wouldn't let my boys grow their hair long but am not really interested in what other people do - each to their own. Personally I think shorter hair looks more groomed and certainly for older boys, more professional, but that's just my choice. Others can make their choices

@Sunsetsaddict80

Probably jealous. Boys always get the best hair!

No they don't, what utter crap.

Of course I just smile and nod and would never dream of saying anything about someone’s hair.

What irritates me about boys with long hair is that it's never bloody tied back. Our school says hair (no specification re girl/boy) should be off face and, if long, tied back, particularly on PE days. The girls all obligingly follow the rules, including DD who would LOVE to wear her hair loose or just off her face to school. But all the boys with longer hair seem to come to school with it just flying around their face and for whatever reason, that seems to be fine.

It's really starting to piss me off at the moment as for whatever reason, boys with longer hair seem to be prevalent among children who are back at school with DS so I can't escape it.

Stereotyping, innit? There was a thread on here a few months back pretty much the opposite - basically suggesting girls/women shouldn't have short hair as it was unattractive/unfeminine. Must admit, as someone who's had short hair since about the age of 8, I was a bit , not realising I have been unfeminine and unattractive for most of my life.

My own hair is currently shoulder length due to laziness/covid and I hate it - it takes far more to keep it looking clean and tidy than it does when it's short - quick bash with a brush when I get out of the shower and don't worry about it for the rest of the day. I tried following the same regime now it's longer and tbh I look like the wicked witch of the west by about 9am.

Hair length shouldn't be about what sex you are, but about personal preference.

Caveat: all hair looks awful if it's not clean and brushed.

Long hair on little boys screams making a statement.

@Crystalclair

Long hair on little boys screams making a statement.

And what statement is that? That I allow my child autonomy regarding his body? I'm pretty happy with that.

It's not to my taste, as long as my kids are young enough that I make the decisions they won't be having it. However as they get older and develop their own sense of style they can do what they want, still doesn't mean I like it but as a parent the job is to be supportive. Also wouldn't comment on another kid/person doing it, just wouldn't do it myself.

I hope that works out for you, but my youngest expressed strong preferences style-wise (leggings over any other leg wear and pink and purple in favour of any other colours) before he even had a full head of hair, poor bald little thing that he was!

BoyTree we may share a son!

@Coronapool

The associating it with gay is baffling to me. Who knows a gay man with long hair?! I've never met one.

Good point. Me neither.

@Crystalclair enlighten me. What 'statement' am I trying to make?

I would never pass comment to anyone on their hair, each to their own. Lots of these photos of boys ‘gorgeous long hair’ however, are just normal heads of hair and wouldn’t pass comment if they were on girls heads!

I love long hair on little boys.

I watched Vikings recently and the little boys all have long gorgeous hair.

DH had loose curls as a little boy and his mum used to french braid them them at the top with a paduan plait at the bottom.

Why shouldn't boys be allowed to express themselves the same as girls?