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len1234 · 2020-07-19T19:10:16+00:00

I just want to know why people are so against toddler boys or just boys in general having long hair?? I always thought it was cute but I've heard so many rude comments about it lately. It seems to really bother people?

fairycakes1234 · 21/01/2021 12:25

@Somethingorotherorother

All the boys in our family have shoulder length hair and I've never heard anyone say anything about it.

maybe not to your face. My son has long hair and i thought everyone in the family liked it, always said how shiny it was etc, then i overheard my sister saying to my mam that isnt it about time she cut his hair, shes not doing him any favours (he was 7), i went mad and when i asked her about it, she told me some of the smaller kids in the family were slagging him and calling him a girl, and he didnt want to tell me, i was gutted, straight down to barbers to get his hair cut and he was delighted, so i often think now did i keep it long for me or for him.

Taylrse · 21/01/2021 12:27

Boys can have long hair and girls can have short hair. It doesn't matter. I see alot of boys with long hair.

The only thing is with very young children it can be hard to tell if they are a boy or girl because they haven't grown into their facial features yet.

midgebabe · 21/01/2021 12:30

But since with children it should not matter if they are a boy or a girl, that's hardly a problem

Frozenintime · 21/01/2021 12:31

Most will have long hair by the time the barbers open

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 21/01/2021 12:32

I don't think any children look good with long straggly hair.
See lots of boys with long hair with it flapping around their face looking tangled and knotted. For some reason people don't tie boys hair up as much as girls.
I feel the same about girls with long hair. Very rarely see a girl with short hair. Infact I've never seen a little girl with short hair, but they do tend to have it tied back more often. Looks much neater.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 21/01/2021 12:35

maybe not to your face. My son has long hair and i thought everyone in the family liked it, always said how shiny it was etc, then i overheard my sister saying to my mam that isnt it about time she cut his hair, shes not doing him any favours (he was 7), i went mad and when i asked her about it, she told me some of the smaller kids in the family were slagging him and calling him a girl, and he didnt want to tell me, i was gutted, straight down to barbers to get his hair cut and he was delighted, so i often think now did i keep it long for me or for him.

Did you never ask him how he wanted his hair cut?

CharlotteRose90 · 21/01/2021 12:39

I know 2 friends with boys that had long blonde hair. They used to get called a girl or when people asked about the boys having long hair and whether it was religious. Also in primary school they both wanted to have the hair down which causes an issue as girls have to tye theirs up . Eventually both of them had the boys hair cut and to be honest it looks so much better. Some people can pull it off and some can’t. I think you have to listen to what the child wants and also look what’s happening around them.!

Atrixie · 21/01/2021 12:43

I just think long hair on little boys looks horrible and not at all cute. I kept both my boys hair short as I like it neat and tidy which quite frankly, long hair isn't. My DD had very thin hair and I kept it in a cute bob with a side parting and a clip because she also looked a mess with long hair. She's now a teen with long scruffy hair and I'd still prefer it short.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 21/01/2021 12:46

@BritWifeinUSA

My husband has waist-length hair in beautiful condition. No one ever thinks he looks like a woman so why would people assume that children with long hair are girls?

Presumably because your husband is built like a man and has beethrough puberty. It's much ahrder to tell with young children and adolescents because they haven't fully developed so their bodies don't really have a defined male or female shape.

HikeForward · 21/01/2021 12:48

Shmithecat2

I agree he’s pretty, but to me he looks like a girl. Especially with his hair in a feminine high bun (lovely style but traditionally very feminine).

If he’s ok with being mistaken for a girl that’s fine, but any hint of bullying or him feeling out of place and I’d be gently encouraging him towards a shorter cut. If he gets frustrated with being mistaken for a girl I wouldn’t pretend his hair isn’t the cause of it.

It’s different on men as their body shape, facial features, facial hair etc all indicate they are male.

HikeForward · 21/01/2021 12:55

Most will have long hair by the time the barbers open

Not if their parents give them a trim at home.

Most of my friends have purchased hair cutting scissors and thinning scissors, or clippers for boys. I cut DD’s hair myself (after watching YouTube tutorials about how to layer a bob) it’s not difficult. I still want her to look neat and not be pushing hair out of her eyes, or suffering tangles and knots. She has very thick hair so it needs regular upkeep.

JaninaDuszejko · 21/01/2021 13:01

Hair seems to be the main gender marker in children for strangers, DD1 has a fabulous asymmetric pixie (and has the heart shaped face and big blue eyes to look gorgeous with it) and despite being 13 people still assume she is male purely because of the short hair. Her hair has been short for 3 years and she's been challenged in toilets and had teachers argue with her about whether she is female or not (the one who did that was very apologetic when she realised she was wrong).

WatchWatch · 21/01/2021 13:05

I often think now did i keep it long for me or for him.

Did you never ask him?

DS has bob length hair currently. He's deliberately growing it to look "like a princess" but every time DH is booking his barbers appointment we ask DS if he wants to go. I personally like it long (now he's out of the Bill Bailey phase), but I don't try and influence how he has it. Unless he isn't prepared for it to be brushed, it is his hair and he can do as he likes.

WatchWatch · 21/01/2021 13:09

any hint of bullying

Depends what you consider bullying. DS is going through a bit of an Elsa stage, including insisting wearing the Elsa dress to school on own clothes day (it's allowed and we had 3 before Christmas). A classmate said he looked like a girl, DS said "no, I look like a boy in an Elsa dress". He knows dresses are predominately worn by girls, and occasionally laments that and challenges it. Fair play to him, but you could consider that a "hint of bullying" except DS is fine with it. If he wasn't he wouldn't have asked to wear it again next own clothes day.

PlumsAreNotTheOnlyFruit · 21/01/2021 13:12

My son had beautiful long blond hair as a three year old. But people kept mistaking him for a girl and other children asked if he was a boy or a girl. So I cut it short as I thought it might cause him confusion.

Also now having read all the stuff on here about the Tavistock I would be loathe to do anything that might lead to my child being labelled as Trans.

In principle I have no objection whatsoever to boys having long hair. But my son wasn't bothered either way and I was concerned it might be disadvantageous to him.

HoppingPavlova · 21/01/2021 13:12

One of my boys has very long hair, has had all through teens and into 20’s.

He gets mistaken for a girl from behind quite often. To be fair his build is pretty much like a female model except broader shoulders - over 6’ but incredibly thin/lithe. It’s hysterical to see guys from behind say ‘excuse me love’ if trying to get through/pass and have my son turn around with a full beard and say ‘eh’.

Does play a very masculine sport and gets a fair bit of sledging there though but the reality is if it’s not that it would just be something else as they all sledge each other.

LST · 21/01/2021 13:27

Both my sons have longish hair. DS1 who is 9 has a mop at the minute of loose curls. But his dad shaved it all off in about June. DS2 who is 7 hasn't had his hair cut since Feb last year. Its now shoulder length. He wants to grow it like his grandads whose hair is half way down his back. My sons doesnt look 'horrible' (what a vile thing to say about a child) or 'unkempt' or like a girl. I don't really give a shit what people think if I am honest.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 21/01/2021 13:28

I dont know anyone that cares and know several people with boys with long hair.

I personally dont like long hair on children when it:

isnt brushed and kept neat
is made a fuss of/complimented constantly and child encourage to preen/be bothered about appearance
gets in the child's way and isnt tied up as appropriate.

toomanydoghairs · 21/01/2021 13:29

My DS has shoulder length curly blonde hair- quite surfer style. This is how he likes it- he has had it shorter in the past but didn't like it and couldn't wait for it to grow again. Lots of people call him 'her' when we are out and about but he doesn't seem to care (he usually just says something like 'actually I'm a boy'). In all other ways he dresses and looks just like most boys of his age.
On one occasion a few of the children in his class started making fun of him for having 'girls hair' but the teacher dealt with it really well and it was short lived. Quite frustratingly though, the headteacher quizzed me about whether the long hair was his choice or mine and why he wanted it that way (I was in seeing her for entirely unrelated reasons). The gist of the conversation was that children were likely to make fun of a boy with long hair so unless there was some deep reason for having it we should really make him have it cut.

ukgift2016 · 21/01/2021 13:32

Pretty sure the mothers who keep their sons hair long always wanted a girl...very sad.

The boys look silly.

Rosebel · 21/01/2021 13:33

@ukgift2016

Pretty sure the mothers who keep their sons hair long always wanted a girl...very sad.

The boys look silly.

No. I have two daughters with long hair. So you are totally wrong there.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 21/01/2021 13:37

I do find it a bit amusing when people come on threads like this to tell everyone about how long and gorgeous their husbands hair is, but also have to let everyone know that he's the apitomy of manliness in every other way, with his massive 6ft 7, body builder frame, covered in tatoos with a beard 😂.
Also, no boy just has regular long hair. They all have gorgeous, thick, golden curly locks. Yeah, it's just regular hair.

MedusasBadHairDay · 21/01/2021 13:44

@WatchWatch

I often think now did i keep it long for me or for him.

Did you never ask him?

DS has bob length hair currently. He's deliberately growing it to look "like a princess" but every time DH is booking his barbers appointment we ask DS if he wants to go. I personally like it long (now he's out of the Bill Bailey phase), but I don't try and influence how he has it. Unless he isn't prepared for it to be brushed, it is his hair and he can do as he likes.

We do the similar, with both kids. If it's hair cutting time we give them the option of just trimming their hair or cutting more off. Currently both DD and DS insist on just having a trim. We leave the decision down to them, and they both know to brush their hair daily. DS's hair isn't quite long enough to tie back, so it does get in his eyes a bit and we do remind him it can be shorter if it's annoying him, but he's said he's happy to put up with it until he can tie it back.

scrivette · 21/01/2021 13:47

I have a girl with long hair and DS' both have long hair so it's not long because I wanted a girl.

I like long hair on boys and I actually think that DA1's suits him better shorter, but it's up to him.

WatchWatch · 21/01/2021 13:47

@ukgift2016

Pretty sure the mothers who keep their sons hair long always wanted a girl...very sad.

The boys look silly.

I have one of each. So nope.