To ask how much would your happiness change if from tomorrow your DH/DP were no longer in your life?

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If tomorrow your DH/DP were no longer in your life (no specific circumstances behind this), aside from the initial shock, would you be significantly happier or unhappier?

Does your DH/DP contribute to your level of happiness/unhappiness significantly or are they just a small factor?

my answer is very different now than it it was 20min ago. Jokes aside.

I think I would be both. Happier and unhappier. I know I'm strong enough to move on. I'd be extremely unhappy cause we have a lovely time and I'm struggling to imagine what my life would be without him. But it would also make my life easier. Our relationship has some complications and requires big changes (moving, changing jobs, discussing kids, where to raise them etc.) So it would also make my life easier and take some huge stressors from me.

I don't think my life would change that much to be honest! My DH is particularly useless, so I'd still be doing everything, just without an extra person!

I fell out of love with him a while ago and I'm hoping to seperate soon, so my answer is coloured by that!

I'd be sad for the kids but I'd feel free

Just seeing the thread title makes my heart contract. Because I have lost my DH - many years ago now and I will never be over it. I'm deeply grateful for having had him but I miss him nearly every day.

Me and DH are mid divorce. I realised I was happier when he wasn't there and I'd get jealous when friends used to tell me their DH was their best friend.

Utterly devastated if it were forever.

However, if he was very suddenly summoned away for a few weeks with no way to get out of it, I'd be delighted

He was meant to be away with work right now but it was cancelled because of covid (even though he could actually have gone now that travel restrictions are easing). I was gutted, having this week to myself would've been perfect.

I'd have wanted him back though

I'd be significantly unhappier, my heart would be broken and I'm not sure I'd ever get over that.

With my ex-husband I used to daydream about that happening in the last 2 years of our marriage - knowing I'd be significantly happier without him is what made me know it was the right decision to end it.

Unhappier and I have no idea how I'd cope. I would, as you have to but I don't know how I'd do it.

If he left me, I’d be devastated, shocked and angry.
If however something happened to him, I’m not sure I’d see any further purpose to life.

I'd be devestated,I've told my DH I want to be the one that goes first,I know you don't really get a choice in the matter but I'm 7 years older than my DH and I've been disabled and seriously ill since our youngest DD12 was a year old.

Before I met my DH I'd been engaged twice and married once and both of those relationships were abusive in different ways and my DH had been in an abusive marriage as well(we were both the victims in our previous relationships)and our relationship is everything positive that was missing from our previous relationships,we both make each other very very happy,there's no one I'd rather spend time with.

Why do you ask?!

Devastated.