To ask how much would your happiness change if from tomorrow your DH/DP were no longer in your life?

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If tomorrow your DH/DP were no longer in your life (no specific circumstances behind this), aside from the initial shock, would you be significantly happier or unhappier?

Does your DH/DP contribute to your level of happiness/unhappiness significantly or are they just a small factor?

I’d be devastated but I’d survive.

Its my biggest fear. . I would be beyond devastated. We are best friends, I love him so much and our lives are intertwined.

So free!! I fantasise about it tbh.

I’m pretty independent I’d be fine. He’s not the person I married 40 years ago.

I don't think I'd ever get over it tbh. Been with him for 26 years and life without him would be bleak.

I honestly think I would die.

I would be utterly broke by it. I can’t really imagine ever being truly happy again. I certainly wouldn’t want another relationship. I have 2 DDs but they’ll soon be moving out. I guess I might set up hone with my parents who are starting to need more support.
I would be really quite rich. It wouldn’t make me happy though.

Very very sad and devastated. Been together 30 odd years.

I would be absolutely devastated and my life would never be the same again. He is my best friend as well as my DP and he makes everything better just by being here.

I know I would have answered this very differently 5 years ago. I was married to an awful man and it got to the point where I was hoping he would crash his car on the way home. For those people who reply to this thread feeling that way then I hope my post gives you strength to leave and that there is hope and a better life on the other side. Xx

I'd be devastated, absolutely shattered.

I'd have to pick up and carry on for the DC but I can't picture ever having another relationship.

I would be utterly and totally destroyed. There are no words (other than those words!). It took me 44 years to find my soulmate. I was happy before I met my DH but he has brought so much joy, love and devotion to my life, I will never meet anyone else that comes close to him.

Devastated We've been married over 30 years and he's never let me down. He's one of the most honourable people I've ever met.

It devastated me. I've got on with my life but don't think ill ever get over not being with him in truth

Devastated, he is my favourite person, he makes me laugh and we love each other despite our annoying traits, he is a good dad and a good person. He makes me feel safe and like someone always has my back.

@TSSDNCOP

Thinking of you. Know how hard this situation can be, take every day as it comes and don't put too much pressure on yourself to be the 'perfect partner'. Sending love and hugs 🥰

I would be utterly bereft and don't know how I would cope tbh. I would have to, because I would have ds to look after. But I think I would really really struggle.

He is my Rory Pond.

I’d be heart broken he’s my best friend when he doesn’t get on my nerves.

@Slothmomma
It devastated me. I've got on with my life but don't think ill ever get over not being with him in truth

@39TSSDNCOP I am so sorry. I don't really know what to say but sending very unmumsnetty hugs and hoping you find peace as soon as you can

@CrocodileFondue

So free!! I fantasise about it tbh.

Me too! My life would be considerably happier without him. I’m disappointed every time I wake up next to the miserable bastard.

I’m separating from OH - but I’ve survived before and I’ll survive again.

One day I’d like to be with someone that I feel that I’d hate to lose. However I’ll always know that I can survive and it would not ‘devastate’ me - but someone I’d miss terribly. I’d like that.

I am a mixture of jealous but also happy that many posters do seem to have that kind of love with their partners, where they would miss them not because they depend on them as crutches, but because they have such a good friendship, lover and partner.

Me too! My life would be considerably happier without him.
I’m disappointed every time I wake up next to the miserable bastard. I don’t understand why you’d stay?

I’d be ecstatic, would get my life back. Would be saying a happy goodbye to the miserable twat.

@IceCreamSummer20 because my DC wouldn’t be happier.

I would be nothing without him. I'd have to find a way to cope, we have a daughter, but I would be a shell. I've never loved anyone like I love him. God knows I didn't get a good example of masculinity growing up, but he is everything a man should be and more.