To ask how much would your happiness change if from tomorrow your DH/DP were no longer in your life?

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If tomorrow your DH/DP were no longer in your life (no specific circumstances behind this), aside from the initial shock, would you be significantly happier or unhappier?

Does your DH/DP contribute to your level of happiness/unhappiness significantly or are they just a small factor?

I would be completely devastated, I miss the bugger when he works night shift never mind if I didn't have him around at all!

He's the best person I know and contributes greatly to my life and general happiness. Obviously over time I would probably be fine but I would much rather have him around than not.

StopGo I’m so sorry to read this, there is no right way to grieve and it ebbs and flows in very unexpected ways. I hope you can reach out in real life to people.

I personally hate the thought, we have been together for 22 years and I’m not massively keen on men overall, I find them immensely irritating and that’s being kind. So when I say I wouldn’t bother with a man again most people don’t believe me but I was never bothered about settling down in the first place.

So sorry for your loss @StopGo

@Valkadin I can absolutely relate to what you say. I won't bother with a man again.
I'm also very grateful for the RL and the virtual support I've had on here.

I think I’d be a bit lost as I’ve been with him since I was 17 (45 now). However, things are a bit boring and sometimes I feel limited in how much I can change as he is set in his ways, so I’d also have a bit more freedom.

I'd be ok. I know I can parent alone and run a house alone.
But I don't want to be without him.
And Ds would be devastated just as I was when I lost my Df age 10.
It quite possibly ruined my life.

Massively struggling. He supports me so much in every way.

@hopingtobedally

It's funny how so many of the men you ladies on here say you couldn't live without are statistically having an affair

It's funny how jealous you sound

@Analcolico I know loads of people with kids who would be utterly devastated / broken if their DH's died.

I would be upset and my dc would be devastated, but practically and financially I would be fine. I'm young enough that if that happened i would hopefully find happiness again. I'm with my dh because I want to be, I don't need to be.

I would be very unhappy. He's by far the kindest and best partner I've ever had, was in an abusive marriage before him. He also gave us our gorgeous son. Surely if people think they would be happier without, they should just leave?

I am reading some of these replies and not relating to the thinking. My husband died, but I don't feel like a shell of a person, or so devastated I can't live, or like there's no point, or like I'd want to die.

Just as well with children to bring up.

My husband was my soulmate, but I'm a person in my own right. He loved life and I know he's be very cross if I wasn't getting at least some enjoyment out of it. Today is a beautiful sunny day, he would have loved living today, if I don't love living today then it's a waste.

Everyone is different and it definitely is devastating to lose a partner, especially young, but I just wanted to give a different perspective.

I would be absolutely heartbroken to lose my DH in any circumstances. We have a 2.5yr old and another baby on the way. We were childhood sweethearts and then were apart for over 15yrs. I feel like we've just started our lives together.

I would be totally devastated!!!

I'd hate it if he was no longer here but would love it if he could just go back to the office

It would be awful; practically, because I'd be raising the DC alone, emotionally, because we get on ever so well and I'd struggle without his love, support and encouragement.

I'd be devastated. We've been married 30 years.
He's everything to me. I'm not complete without him

Words can't adequately describe how utterly devastated I would be. DH and I have been together 18 years a.d married for 13. He's my best friend and the one person I can completely rely on regardless of the circumstances.

Significantly unhappier. I'd feel like the ground had gone from under my feet, at least for a while. I'd bounce back though, because on the whole I'm a tough old boot. And there would be some things about him I definitely wouldn't miss...

Devastated. Would never marry again. We are exquisitely happy together.

I would be very sad, he is genuinely my best friend. But I also know I'd be okay eventually, I am independent-minded and financially self-sufficient. We had a scare a number of years ago when DH had a life-threatening accident and we didn't know if he was going to make it. That was much earlier in our relationship, before we lived together, so our dynamic was very different then.

I'd be completely lost and miserable.

I’d miss him but I’d probably be happier!

I didn't read the whole thread, but it's so nice to see how many people truly love and enjoy their partner. I can't even imagine such a thing. (Single forever here)

dh and i have been likened to queen victoria and albert in our perpetual honeymoon status and being totaly loved up, we've been happily married nearly 20 years.
if anything happened to him i know i wouldn't want another man in my life.