To ask how much would your happiness change if from tomorrow your DH/DP were no longer in your life?

[DoubleBass9]

If tomorrow your DH/DP were no longer in your life (no specific circumstances behind this), aside from the initial shock, would you be significantly happier or unhappier?

Does your DH/DP contribute to your level of happiness/unhappiness significantly or are they just a small factor?

Happier I reckon. But financially worse off.

I’d be the happiest I’ve been in four years. I can’t tell you how relieved i would be. I’m planning to leave him, just waiting for my new home to be ready. He completely and utterly destroyed every aspect of my life. That’s karma for you.

I feel sick at the very thought. I’d be totally bereft if anything happened to my life partner.

80% decrease. He is my best friend and team mate.

I'd be devastated. I love him, he's my best friend lover everything. I'd have to cope somehow but I would be devastated.

@Analcolico no, we tried but I just had lots of miscarriages. Thankfully we've moved on and are very happy again, but a different trajectory from the one we wantd originally.

I suspect I'd be happier...

I’d be hurting massively for my DS age 6 who loves his Daddy and I’d find it weird him not being there because he‘a been my partner for 20 years since I was 22. Would I be heartbroken or devastated? Sadly not. I don’t feel that way anymore. I think we’ve run our course

First husband - I'd have been bloody delighted. What a Dementor. He lives yet, to suck the soul from another woman (although she was OW and very smug after a full on play for him, so she fucking deserves it)
Current DH - very, very sad indeed. However, I know I would cope. No kids. House would be paid off. I know I would survive.
I'm either very cold hearted, super sensible or it's the ASD. Or a mixture. DH enhances my happiness but it is not contingent on him.

Free and happy

I would be happier, but the DC would be devastated, especially my oldest daughter who seems to idolise him for some reason and constantly trying to please him (but never succeeding because he is a selfish twat).

I"d be extremely sad. I've been with him for nearly 16 years. Nearly half our lives. Sure, when it comes to housework, he's more useless as our 10 month old daughter. But I still wouldn't want to be without him. He's clever, funny, and an amazing Dad to our daughter.

[quote Oxyiz]@Analcolico no, we tried but I just had lots of miscarriages. Thankfully we've moved on and are very happy again, but a different trajectory from the one we wantd originally.[/quote]
I'm sorry that you had to go through this, Oxy, and I'm glad you have found happiness now.

I asked because your post made me wonder if there is a difference between the way people with children feel about their partner and the way people without children feel. I love my current partner to bits. However, if he were suddenly not in my life, I would be very, very upset, but I would get through it. If one of my children were suddenly not in my life, the only thing that would stop me taking my own life through sheer agony would be the continued existence in my life of my other children. I would get over the loss of anyone other than my children.

I'd be devastated. But most of all, it would change everything not just for me but for our (adopted) DDs (11 and 8). It would be traumatising for them and devastating for me.

But it's something that any of us could face without warning. My FIL died in a car accident as a healthy 64 year old. My MIL never saw that coming and took years to come to terms with her loss. Our life changed completely, too, for a while, as my MIL relied on him for everything as my BIL and SIL has recently had a baby and had 3 DC of 3 and under, so they weren't able to do nearly as much.

Mine would disappear. He’s my light.

Honestly I’d be devastated. We’ve been together since we were kids, married for 10 years and he’s my best friend. Our marriage isn’t perfect, we have our moments and our arguments every now and again like most couples, but my life would be hollow without him and i expect that my dc would feel the same.

It's funny how so many of the men you ladies on here say you couldn't live without are statistically having an affair

@hopingtobedally

It's funny how so many of the men you ladies on here say you couldn't live without are statistically having an affair

It’s not a random sample. So maybe not.

I think I would be utterly bereft without him. However, whether I managed to get over it would depend upon whether he'd died or left me.

I know that, really, we should derive happiness from within but my happiness is bound up with the health and happiness of those I love.

"It's funny how so many of the men you ladies on here say you couldn't live without are statistically having an affair"
Thanks for that. Give us the statistics then.

@hopingtobedally

It's funny how so many of the men you ladies on here say you couldn't live without are statistically having an affair

I'm calling bollocks on this one

I lost my DH of 30 years eight weeks a go, mid lock down. I am utterly devastated and heart broken.Outwardly I'm function fine but inwardly I am broken.
Someone mentioned up thread about the life insurance, when the cheque came it felt like blood money. The lady in the bank had to help me bank it as I was a blubbering mess.
To all of you have been or will face this issue may I share with you unlimited and

Happier

Very sorry you lost your DH, stopgo.