I know I’m not being unfair, but should I tell her to piss off?

[Playmysong]

I have a apple tree in my garden, which has a reasonable crop. Neighbour 1 asks for and does get apples (last year stripped it when I was on holiday). This year I have expressly told her not to come in my garden as we have been shielding. She has asked twice and I have given her apples, though not as many as she would have liked (she lives alone so wants them to make pies for other people). I have also given neighbour 2 apples as well this year, which I don’t think neighbour 1 was happy about.

Yesterday a friend of my daughter stopped to speak and I asked her if she wanted some apples for her mum. She said yes please, so I picked a bag for her to take. However, my son in law was standing outside my gate whilst this was happening, and afterwards told me that neighbour 1 had been standing at her door listening and wasn’t looking very happy!

Neighbour 1 and I have a ‘fragile’ relationship and there have been a number of issues between us, but on the whole it has been okay for last few years. I’m pretty sure she will say something to me about the apples. My dh thinks I should apologise to her to keep the peace, however I think that if she acts entitled I should just tell her to piss of! Who is right?

I think I’ve been watching too much Community.

Haha, we've been binging on that too! On season 6 now. Love the characters. I reckon the NDN would be Chang!

Or Leonard!

@StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes

My apple tree has loads of apples on it, some are big enough to pick. Its a russet

Mmm. Russets are my favourite type of apple, and the type that appears in shops the least.

From google
the average main flowering time for Egremont Russet in the UK is the last week of April to the first week of May. Fruit will be ready for harvesting in the third week of September. not that OP has russets but don’t waste yours picking them early.

I was thinking it was cherries too but the OP said the birds don't eat them. The cherry tree that overhangs our garden is always picked clean by the birds.

However, if it is cherries the neighbours is extra cheeky baking pies with free fruit because they are so expensive to buy.

Just curious, does she give you pies to thank you for your apples?

Anyone else picturing zombie husband keying her car?

I wouldn't give her any more cherries. She can buy her own from now on.

Your tree, your apples end of

Tell her to sod off.

Suggest some good variety that maybe she could grow. It’s not difficult, stuck up old cow. I would give her precisely a kick up the chuff

She is totally unreasonable.

However, it really is the pits living next door to someone you are at war with.

In your shoes I would leave a small bag of fruit with a note saying you thought she’d like one last bag before you strip the tree and make jam/pies/icecream with the remainder of the fruit. Then she knows not to expect any more.

Apologise??? Is that a joke?

Why on EARTH would you say sorry for doing what you want with your own apples???

Your husband is way out on this one, @Playmysong. Saying sorry is one of the dumbest things I’ve heard lately - you’d be playing directly into her entitlement. DON’T. DO. IT.

Apologise?? What for? Picking your own apples? Don't be so daft

Very odd. Start charging and donate to charity .I do that with my pear tree, proceeds going to a different cause each season. And my pears don't come cheap ha ha

Tell her to sod off they are your apples grown in your garden you will give them too whom you like. Tell her your considering starting to charge for them by weight anyway if she complains. I would also point out she pinched the whole bloody lot last year so it's safe to say she's had her share of freebies.

Tell her to piss off!

Not only would she never be getting another 'apple' from me, I'd also buy lots more fruit trees/bushes, all different kinds and not give her any of those either

She’s a cheeky mare I wouldn’t give her any

I'm going for gooseberries or cherries.

Although OP said she gave the other neighbour 2 so I can't think of anything that is substantial enough apart from apples to just give 2 of...

OP I think you'd be outed already with your other posts telling us the correct fruit wouldn't make a blind bit of difference

Man alive. This is why I want to live on an island without people!

She took a 1 metre strip off your garden and the fragile relationship is your fault???? Outrageous. People go to court over less than that.
She stripped your tree whilst you were away and begrudges you giving YOUR apples to others? and then stands in the garden giving out dirty looks untill your DH thinks YOU should apologise?

This is classic give her and inch and she'll take a mile.
Good neighbours don't do this.
Never apologise to this woman - for anything.
Stand up to her and make your DH have your back. You don't have to be rude, just tell her what is acceptable and what's not.

What a weirdo! Why does she feel she’s so entitled to your apples? Why is she so obsessed? Tell her that they’re yours and you don’t understand why she feels entitled to them. It’s not her tree. I’d actually call her weird to her face (or pull a ‘weirded out’ face), but that’s me This thread is too strange haha.