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I know I’m not being unfair, but should I tell her to piss off?

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Playmysong · 16/07/2020 06:42

I have a apple tree in my garden, which has a reasonable crop. Neighbour 1 asks for and does get apples (last year stripped it when I was on holiday). This year I have expressly told her not to come in my garden as we have been shielding. She has asked twice and I have given her apples, though not as many as she would have liked (she lives alone so wants them to make pies for other people). I have also given neighbour 2 apples as well this year, which I don’t think neighbour 1 was happy about.

Yesterday a friend of my daughter stopped to speak and I asked her if she wanted some apples for her mum. She said yes please, so I picked a bag for her to take. However, my son in law was standing outside my gate whilst this was happening, and afterwards told me that neighbour 1 had been standing at her door listening and wasn’t looking very happy!

Neighbour 1 and I have a ‘fragile’ relationship and there have been a number of issues between us, but on the whole it has been okay for last few years. I’m pretty sure she will say something to me about the apples. My dh thinks I should apologise to her to keep the peace, however I think that if she acts entitled I should just tell her to piss of! Who is right?

OP posts:
TheFuckingDogs · 18/07/2020 15:31

How are your apples ready this early?! Do you live abroad?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 18/07/2020 15:36
Shock
wildone84 · 18/07/2020 15:37

@MarieIVanArkleStinks

Re this: could you buy her her own apple tree?

You're suggesting the OP rewards theft by buying the thief a duplicate of the item she's stolen? And that after trying to help herself liberally to a portion of the OP's garden? In my universe punitive measures are applicable to thieves, not a cosy little reward system.

This #BeKind mantra can just shove off back into whatever hole it came from. There's a difference between being kind (when called for) or making yourself into a complete mug. I'm all for taking on and accepting my own responsibilities but like hell would I take on other people's. Or ceding over my property to them when they decide they'd like a slice of it. They'll be deciding she had 'mental health issues' and therefore had a right to it next.

FO, NDN.

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This

Jocundest · 18/07/2020 15:55

How are your apples ready this early?! Do you live abroad?

And cancel the cheque while you're at it!!!

StillCoughingandLaughing · 18/07/2020 15:56

How are your apples ready this early?! Do you live abroad?

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD FUCKING READ

MiddleClassProblem · 18/07/2020 17:12

@StillCoughingandLaughing

How are your apples ready this early?! Do you live abroad?

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD FUCKING READ

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