To not be bothered about DC friends calling me by my first name when they come over?

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AIBU to think this and what do your DC’s friends call you? DH heard the friends today and he says he thinks they are “rude” and it should be “Mrs” or “Mr. “ WIBU?

It really depends on how a person introduces themself.
Our NDN is Mrs XXX the opposite NDN is john the DC pick it up no problem.
If the DC's pals parents expected a formal title they'd do it but think the parents were really silly.

my sons friends always called me by my first name...he is 33 now, all the kids in the family call me by my name, not auntie and my step-grandson has the choice to call me gran or my name and my grandson will have that choice to when he starts talking

When they were smaller my children's friends called me "Mini-misrule's Mummy" because they didn't know my name (I did think that was quite sweet) but now they call me by my first name. Most of them went to nursery and were used to calling adults by their names.

It’s not 1920

Ds friends call me by my name when young it was EnthusiasmIsDisturbed Jnr Mummy which I found endearing

I can remember when young calling my neighbours by their first names and my mum still addressing them as Mr and Mrs (apparently I asked them what their real names were)

One of my friends her parents are in their 80’s I call them Mr and Mrs I just wouldn’t call them by their first names I don’t know why

Ds calls close friends Aunty/Uncle

He sounds like a right old fart.

Bahahaha really

How old is your husband?????

My friends kids call me my name. Because that's my name. No one calls me Mrs. Yeahnahmum. Ever. In life. Because we are in living in 2020 and not the 80s

I have an elderly neighbour who introduced herself to me as Mrs Clarke.

I've lived here for 15 years and I still don't know what her first name is.
I don't like the implication that I won't be polite and/or respectful to her.

I once had a letter incorrectly addressed to me as 'Dr Meanstreak' and she was over here like greased lightening!
She was so excited to live next door (but one) to a doctor.

To be honest anyone who introduces themselves like that with a title, is a bit naff. Age immaterial

About 20 years ago i had a boss who introduced himself as Mr X and woe betide you if you called him by his first name.

I sort-of understood why he did it, but what kind of rapport can you truly have with someone if you can't be equals on such a basic level?

He was a solicitor and I would have to frequently warn counsel's clerks not to call him by his first name. That would have gone down like a lead balloon.

Some of my son's friends have known me since they were born. It would have been super weird, when they were learning to talk, to be teaching them to call me Mrs ChickBilly, so they call me by my first name! I would find it stiff and unwelcoming if my kids were expected to call their friends' parents mr. and mrs, but I'm sure they'd do it and completely fail to make the connection that it was about since arbitrary view of 'respect'.

Using any kind of title for the parents of friends would have been odd even 20 years ago when I was still young enough to go on play dates.
My nana used to make me call her friends ‘Uncle’ and ‘Auntie’ but she’s nearly 90 now..?

Ey? Is he from the 1950s?

DC's friends won't even know my surname as it's different to theres. Your husband is over the top. You aren't a teacher and it's not 1950!

I remember when I was a kid, my friends would say "Do's Mum". "Can I have a drink, Do's Mum?" I think she was happy for anything that wasn't that 😂

But no, no one ever called my mum Mrs Surname. And I can't think why they would. Your DH must just be very traditional.

First names all the way here. Seems very much the norm these days.

When I was little my Mum was the only one who wanted to be called by her first name though.

Does he seriously think he’s doing the world a favour by not making your children’s friends address him by his military title?

My title is ‘Professor’. I am unsuccessfully trying to imagine a world in which I would be expecting my eight year old’s mates to use that.

First names here, you husband sounds at best rather old fashioned

Re your update that's even worse. I don't know a single person who uses their professional title outside of the work place (at my old job even the professor was affectionately known as 'prof' rather than professor Green) 25 years ago I had nicknames for many of my friends parents and we'd always have a bit of banter. I can't imagine being so rigid.

DS1 is only 4 so I'm still "DSs mummy" to his friends, friends older kids call me "Camomila" though, and I'm "auntie" to DHs cousins/family friends kids (family from the Philippines)

I once had a date with someone who had 'Mr. John Smith'
printed on his business cards....
So irredeemably naff. He really thought he was 'smart' as well...

He’s BU. I’ve always told DS friends to call me “Ederson” rather than “Mrs Ederson”, even when they were much younger. As long as they are polite I’m not bothered.

Heavens, the DC’s friends have always called me Wendy or Wen since they could talk. The surname’s a mouthful anyway, so Wen’s easier.

Yes he says they should call you Mrs / Mr until invited to use first names.

I don’t think that’s too unreasonable, it’s what I used to do when I was a child in the 90s/early 00s? Or sometimes I’d ask my friend beforehand “does your mum like being called Mrs Smith or can I call her by her first name?”. It doesn’t sound like he actually intends to ever let them use first names though?!

One of my best friends at primary school had older, quite conservative parents. They were lovely, but they very much expected to be referred to as Mr and Mrs X. Which is fine, but they also made their daughter call my parents Mr and Mrs Y, even though my parents had made it quite clear that they didn’t like being called Mr and Mrs Y and would rather be called by their first names. I think that is rude, personally.

Isn't it quite an Americanism to call friends parents mr and mrs? I always called my friends parents by their first name when I was a child (I'm now 33).