To not be bothered about DC friends calling me by my first name when they come over?

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AIBU to think this and what do your DC’s friends call you? DH heard the friends today and he says he thinks they are “rude” and it should be “Mrs” or “Mr. “ WIBU?

It's not you, it's him that's off. He sounds a bit old fashioned.

I tell everyone to call me by my nickname. The only time this doesn't happen is when I'm in the school in my capacity as chair of the (secondary) PTA, as all the children refer to adults as Mr or Miss and it maintains consistency.

I can only hear Kathy Burke now!

All the children that come over either call me by my name, a nickname or the ones that are a bit shy "DD's name mum".

I'd find it really weird if they called me Miss/Mrs/Ms whatever.

Don’t know any child who says anything but the persons actual name never occurred to me to ask my kids to call them anything but their actual name. All their friends call me by my name and I would find it strange if they didn’t.

Your husband is very strange

I’ve always been Fin, or sometimes Fin’s Mum. I’m in my fifties and when I was little it was usually Aunty whoever or first name.

They either call me my name or "DCs mum". Doesn't matter how many times I tell one lad my name he still calls me "DCs mum". I never called my Mum's friends anything other than their names either. No Auntie so and so or Mrs Someone. And my friends mum's were called by their names or some had nicknames.

Crikey have we gone back to the 20th Century? My DS is nearly 24 and all his friends called me by my first name right from primary age. It wasn't something i told them to do - it's just the norm.

YANBU -always introduce myself as [firstname] so they know that is how I prefer to be addressed.

To be honest, they do usually call me “Mrs x” but that’s more if they’re not sure what my actual name is!

Anyway, looks like he’s 95% U, so it’s not me.

He’s not 76 no - he’s 50! He can be a quite formal at times which is all well and good, but doesn’t always translate.

I remember 30 years ago calling my friend's Mum "Mrs" and she found it hilarious that I was so formal and told me to use her first name. Now, all my son's friends call me by my first name & he calls their parents by their first names (And in one case their nickname)

Agree with all the other posters saying when we were young (I'm in my 50s) you called your parents' friends 'Auntie Sue' or whatever.

My own friends' parents were 'Mr and Mrs Morris'.

My DCs friends have always called me by my Christian name.

It would be archaic to expect otherwise.

I would never have called a friends parent by their first name as a child, and I still call some of my mums friends Mrs X now (or Auntie X for closer friends).

My children are small (oldest in reception) so their friends mostly call me MiniSoundsystem's Mum. But when they're older I won't have an issue with them calling me by my name!

My children called our friends by first names 40 years ago; and their children now do the same.

His house? That's a telling comment. It's entirely up to you what you choose to be called

I know a lot of kids as I worked in several schools locally. I also run one of the local playscheme/holiday clubs. The only friends of my DC who call me "Mrs X" are ones who know me through working in their school.

When he was little DS used to call friends parents [Friends name's] mummy or [Friends name's] daddy.

Now he calls them by their Christian name and his friends call me by mine.

Very odd he’s only fifty, I’d expect that of someone over eighty.

I’d also assume he’s not very successful in life so needs to try to command respect elsewhere. Sorry op. I’m fifty one and wouldn’t have kids call me mrs blunt. I don’t need it. I can command respect without it.

Definitely first name! A couple of my dd’s friends have called me ‘Mrs surname’ but I’ve always said straightaway that they can call me by my first name. I strongly dislike most formality though.

Wow bet they can't wait to visit again.
Your DH is a dictator.

When he says 'not in my house' does he mean to control what they call you, or what they call him? They can call you whatever you want .. and to be honest, the though t of a partner wanting kids to call me 'mrs', miss etc makes me feel cold.

Is your DH elderly?
My eldest son is early thirties and I remember being a bit taken aback the first time one of his friends called me magic rather than Mrs Surname probably in about 1996/97, nowadays everyone is on a first name basis. When I was a child all grown ups were called Mr / Mrs Soandso Or Auntie / Uncle First name I managed to adapt your DH should be able to adapt as well.

Your name is your name -why should anybody call you anything else? Is your husband from the 19th. century?

I love it when DD's friends call me by my first name!

Makes a change from the constant mummmmyyyyyyyyyyy.

Your husband is odd.

Blimey, what year does your husband think it is?

I'd laugh if any of my kids' friend had ever called us Mrs or Mr xxx.

No if he goes into dictator- mode i just tell him and he does apologise. I think he just had a different upbringing to me because he was in a boarding school from a young age and this kind of thing, but he does mean well. Also he’s very “black and white” and he doesn’t really care what people think, which is fine, but a bit tiring.

Op why are you living in HIS house?

ds is five so I'm very much "Harry's Mommy" but will definately be Sleeping not Mrs StandingUp when he's older. Mrs StandingUp is fine if they don't know my first name. I tend to tell "Harry" "say thabk you to Annie's Mama". "thank you Annie's Mama" but that's cos 5 he's and that makes more sense to him.

My close friends rather than school mums are Aunty X