To not be bothered about DC friends calling me by my first name when they come over?

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AIBU to think this and what do your DC’s friends call you? DH heard the friends today and he says he thinks they are “rude” and it should be “Mrs” or “Mr. “ WIBU?

I did think DH was probably slightly OTT, but not 95% U, to be honest. He’s most certainly not a reverend . Oh my god. It’s a military title but he never uses it as it’s hardly relevant these days.

My kids would call someone Mr or Mrs, until asked to do otherwise. Now I’m thinking maybe people think they’re weird. I don’t know!

You would be amazed how many patients when asked "How would you like me to address you" reply with Mr or Mrs or Reverend!
Many of them are quite young as well.

I am in my 40s and still call my school friends mums and dads by Mrs and Mr when I see them! 😂

My parents friends were Aunty this or Uncle that if close friends.

My kids friends call me by my first name, doesn't make me feel quite so old! 😂

I’m in my 30s and I still call my friends mums by their last names or Aunty!

Oh no, if they called me Mrs Stripyoss, I'd think they were talking about my MIL! I use a shortening of my name in day to day life, so they all call me that. I don't think life is as formal nowadays.

My children's friends always called me Mrs ..... ,until invited to do otherswise, because I was a teacher, even though I'd never taught in any of their schools! They thought it was odd apparently.
When our children were starting school, at the same time as their friends, we had to sit them all down and tell them that in school they had to say Mr......, as their Daddys worked in their school, even though they usually used Chrsitian names. This led to one of them referring to her Daddy as Mr....... even at home!

I'm in my mid 60s, my daughters in their mid 30s. It was absolutely normal when they were kids, for friends' parents to be called by their first name. I wouldn't have expected anything else from their friends. And even when they were pre-schoolers all the children called their mum's friends by their first name.

Your DH must have been the product of a very strict upbringing.

Times have definitely moved on- I've noticed in the 'Alfie' books that "Mrs McNally" from my day is "firstname McNally" in more recent stories.

I grew up using Mr and Mrs for friends parents, but my children call adults by first names and I'm happy to be addressed by mine too. Either that or "DCname's mum" when they can't remember my name (guess that's a bonus with mr and mrs, fewer names to remember!!)

My dc's friends all call me by my first name and always have. I'd find it odd if they didn't. I grew up in the 70s though and all parents were strictly Mrs and Mr It made it very difficult to start calling adults by their first name at college.

Where's your husband from? The 1940's

We had loads of "Aunties" when I was a child, I had no idea who my actual relatives were

Because my father was the youngest of a large family, lots of my cousins were almost his age and I was brought up calling them Aunt/Uncle. When we were getting married we wanted only Aunts/Uncles and above, my mother reeled of a list of 'Aunts and Uncles', I had to draw up a family tree to get their true relationship!

My father used to use Aunt for anyone more than about 10 years older and when I had my own children I refused to do it, only the real ones were Aunt etc, caused real ructions with him. As for calling every friend of the parents Aunt/Uncle I think that's so stupid, I've never done it.

He is being ridiculous. When I was younger I always called my friends parents by their first name and my daughter's friends call me by my first name. I don't understand why it's rude tbh. Far worse things they could call him.

Call me old fashioned, but it would have to be Mrs PhoneLock for me.

The majority of my friend's DC call me by my first name, a few say Auntie first name. I'm not worried either way. My 3yo has decided to call me by my first name too, which took some getting used to, but I would be horrified to be called Mrs lastname by his pals. I'd feel about 105!

We used a mix of mrs x and just first name back in the 80s. I’ve introduced my ds to all the adults he knows as firstname and don’t know anyone who answers to mrs x unless they work in a school.

Courtesy would surely suggest that you call people by their preferred term of address. If he prefers a more formal form, that is his right.

Same here Minty and I think it's adorable too.

Bless their little cotton socks.

Is your husband from the Victorian era?

That's very old fashioned.
It was more normal when I was a child but I am 55...

Call me old fashioned, but it would have to be Mrs PhoneLock for me.

NP if you tell my dc to call you that I’ll support it. But using a first name is still not rude

It was more normal when I was a child but I am 55...

Interestingly DF who is 75 was there when I was discussing this with dd1 and he was 🙄 at the idea of there being anything wrong with children just addressing adults by their erm names 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes even then it was a bit. ..formal and something the 'nice' children did....
We got round it by not calling them anything....

I either get called DD's Mum or by my name, doesn't bother me in the slightest as long as they're polite 😉

@Destroyedpeople yeah I remember that too. Just utterly bizarre. You didn’t dare use their first name but if you used Mrs x they’d look at you gone out 🤦🏻‍♀️. So awkward.

Don't think I've ever called parents of friends mr and Mrs Always first names.