To not be bothered about DC friends calling me by my first name when they come over?

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AIBU to think this and what do your DC’s friends call you? DH heard the friends today and he says he thinks they are “rude” and it should be “Mrs” or “Mr. “ WIBU?

First names are usual among my 13 yos friends and their parents. I prefer it to Mrs.

My son's friends always called me and husband by first names, he did their parents. It's not rude at all.

Your husband thinks he's flexible letting your daughters boyfriend call him Mr when he has another title (I presume doctor?)???

Your husband just sounds like a snob now to be honest.

I found that when they were little (under eightish) they would call me “Jimmy’s mum” After that they used my first name. However ds’s piano teacher is in his 70’s and I don’t like hearing the children call him by his first name. I insist ds says Mr X.

He said he’s never heard anything like it in his life

😂😂😂

Rude imo is oi bitch. I also tell the DC to use adults full names properly and not to abbreviate unless they are told to. But tbh if anyone has an issue with dc calling them by their name it’s them with the issue.

Children’s friends, and children in the family always called me by my first name, as do my own children - they started doing it to get a laugh when young and heard their friends using my name - after they realised it didn’t bother me they decided they preferred it and kept it up, except when they’re upset or need something and it’s mum again:-)

DD’s boyfriend calls him “Mr,” (he’s 17). DH has another title, but thinks he’s being very flexi in not expecting that from the boyfriend!

😬 I suspect he may well have a wide vocabulary of what he calls your husband when he’s not around to hear.

As a child I called family friends Aunty &Uncle - I think it's nice (and unlike another poster I knew which were actually Aunty & uncle & which were honorary A & U

I don't think I EVER called any adult their first name until I was a teenager and even then it was only adults I met on a more 'adult' footing - like people I babysat for.

Friends parents I never really needed to use a name, I just spoke to them 🤷🏻‍♀️If I was speaking about them it was 'Sarah's Mum' etc

I have never had any objection to kids calling me 'incredible' though. Though many have called me 'Aunty incredible'.

Except my God daughters, though sadly. It was what their mum & I wanted but her sister had a complete tantrum over it 🙄.

I HATE being called Mrs by anyone. Ever. Anytime.

I used to have to call my friends parents aunty so-and-so and I hated it, only did it for those that were family friends in case it got back to my parents. I'd never enforce it now, itd feel weird unless its too simplify a different blood relation i.e. my kids call my uncle Jack, uncle Jack because grand uncle is weird!!

Most of dc’s friend call me either aunty Jaani or just Jaani. One did call Mrs Jaani once but I told him straight away to just call me by my first name. There’s not formality in my home, especially with kids.

I grew up in the 70s too and it was quite normal to call all adults either Auntie/Uncle or Mr/Mrs. However, it wouldn't occur to me now to expect my childrens' friends to call me that now!

My neighbour (then in his mid 60s) introduced me to his grandson as 'Mrs Vestibule' - I was about 40 and it felt weird! I then realised they probably thought I was being a bit rude by allowing my young DCs to call then by their first name, rather than Mr and Mrs NDN .

Your husband is being ridiculous expecting his nearly adult daughter's boyfriend to call him Mr Hoohaaa. If they ever get married, is he then magnanimously going to allow him to call him by his first name, or will he expect to call him Dad - another custom which I believe died out in the 1970s.

Omg he wants your kids friends to call you Mr and Mrs 😂😂 I've only ever heard that on tv. I'm probably quite common though.

When I was a teen it was normal to call people Mr/Mrs x or auntie.

My Sons friends use my first name thank goodness.

The 1950s are calling, they want your DH back! I wouldn’t want to be called MrsAllThe in my own home
I don’t need that level of formality with many people, let alone children who’ve come round to play

When i Was younger I used to call my friends mum and dad mr and Mrs whatever but when I got to about 15/16 years asked me to call them by their first name, I found it strange at first name,
My children’s friends all call me by my first name, I’d feel strange being called Mrs 2pinkginsplease, that would make me feel old!

Only if you are Mrs Patterson with a son called Kevin and his friend is called Perry.

not in my house - tell him it's OK in your house? Bizarre attitude. Is he a doctor? (the other title).

The only place I've ever been this formal was visiting friends in the American South and meeting their parents and grandparents. It was very stifled.

As a child in the 70's and 80's most parents when you called them Mr or Mrs X would say oh no call me Jane. I wonder if it may be a class thing? I was privately educated and probably considered middle class but don't know if that makes a difference. Just wondering if it was how your dh was brought up.

Your husband just sounds like a snob now to be honest

I'm going to swap out the s for a k...

All of my daughter’s friends call me by my name.
That said, in the US (generally the south) kids tend to call their elders Miss. So my friend in the US’s kids call me Miss Letty which I think is very sweet.

Even in the 80s I called my friend's mums Pat, Wendy, Janet etc!

Insisting on kids calling all adults Mr or Mrs is a throw back to the 50s/60s

How old is your DH??

At nursery I was called DSsMum or Nigeria (lord knows where that came from).

Is he from the Victorian times?

I would be mortified if I was called by full name

When I was a child it would be unheard of to call a friend's parents anything other than Mr & Mrs but that was in the 1950s. I have read that some children call their teachers by their first name these days. It would have been unimaginable back then. Times change.

He sounds odd!