To let DS carry on and get food poisoning so he learns a lesson

[Learnthelesson]

DS (nearly 20) is, quite frankly a know it all.

He speaks to me as though I’m thick, argues black is white and is the most condescending, high and mighty little knob at times.

He’s got a habit of not being around at mealtimes or just not eating when our meal times are ready. That’s fine, I usually plate it up and he eats it later.

Last night I made fajitas and beef jalapeño kebabs on skewers. He was out so came home and reheated the plate of food in the microwave and then took it up to his room. He didn’t eat any of it (gaming) and so left it in his warmish bedroom all night. He brought it downstairs this morning and put it in the fridge with a view to reheat again for tea.

I’ve told him that it can’t be reheated again - yes it can he said - you can reheat food twice. He argued black and blue and forbade me to throw it from the fridge. He’s just come downstairs to heat it up and now and I told him that he’s being silly but if he insists at least to make sure he heats it piping hot.

No, I don’t like it too hot as I then can’t eat it. Cue me telling him he’s at risk of food poisoning again. ‘I know - I did biology in school and anyway if you put the food in the fridge it kills the bacteria’. I tried to explain that all that does is suspend the bacteria and he just laughs in my face saying I’m talking shit.

I’ve let the fucker take it back up to his room hopefully sufficiently lukewarm.

Why are some kids utter assholes? AIBU to hope In a small way he gets the raging shits over the next 24 hours to teach him a Lesson?

[Cherrysoup]

probably time he got his own place so he can make all these mistakes without me even knowing.

Couldn’t agree more. How is he allowed to speak to you with such fucking disdain??

[Worstemailever]

Sorry, but am laughing so much at your post and the way that you describe him.

[MiniMum97]

Why on earth do you let him talk to you like that. It's completely unacceptable. I wouldn't be cooking him anything at all and my son wouldn't be living in my house if he spoke to me like that.

Why do you think it's ok for him to talk to you like you are an idiot? Do you have no self respect? What sort of son have you raised that his head is far up his own arse he thinks he's better than everyone else and can talk down to you?

Sorry for the harsh words but you really seem to be playing the way he speaks to you down. It's made me fucking angry on your behalf and I really think strong words are needed here.

[BrummyMum1]

Enrol him on a food hygiene course and make passing it a condition of living in your house.

[RednaxelasLunch]

The dynamic sounds really unhealthy. Stop cooking for him for a start.

[BlueJava]

hide the toilet rolls :)

[Worstemailever]

I would make him submit a essay on food hygiene and bacterium. Present him with a really complex scientific title to discuss!

[Happymum12345]

You warned him, apart from putting the food in the bin there wasn’t more you could do. Just don’t cook for him in future if he isn’t at home.

[Dragongirl10]

Not only would l not be cooking for him, l would be asking him to find a new place to live if l was spoken to like that. How rude.

[midlifecrash]

Is this the phase that Dominic Cummings never grew out of?

[stophuggingme]

I lived at home for two years when I was 21
I didn’t pay rent. I was also very respectful of my other and if she made me a meal I was grateful and ate it with her

My ex also forgot about a dressed crab he’d left overnight in the boot of our car when we were on holiday in an equatorial July. Upon realising this he retrieved it and ate it the next night and lived to tell the tale. Sadly.

[Worstemailever]

I'd leave an essay title pinned to the fridge for him. Something like "Explain the reproductive cycle of Gram-positive Clostridium perfringens pathogenic bacterium when left to colonise meat for 12 hours at room temperature and the impact of this upon the gut". Insist that he submits it by the deadline or faces expulsion from your institution.

[Worstemailever]

@midlifecrash

Brilliant!!

[Zhampagne]

lives here rent free although to be fair he offers to pay his way but we’ve told him to save hard so he can eventually get is own place (he saves nearly 1k a month).

Charge him rent. Put it in a savings account for him.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

"lives here rent free although to be fair he offers to pay his way but we’ve told him to save hard so he can eventually get is own place (he saves nearly 1k a month)."
And what if he decides you're talking shit about this too and decides to start pissing his money up the wall? You'll never get him out!

I'd start charging him rent and stashing it into a Know-It-All Son Moving Out Account. Just to make sure that the 'eventually' isn't too far away.

And stop cooking for him if he's not going to be there for mealtime. If he Knows It All then he knows how to cook for himself too.

[EugenesAxe]

I can't help thinking that the chilli will help stop any colonisation by bacteria - so you may be unlucky.

I did a food hygiene course and it did make me pay attention to my own food a bit more, to be honest. The problem with rice, pasta and all that kind of stuff, is that the bacteria that colonise it poison us with their waste products.... which will not change in any way whether frozen or heated to boiling. There is this temperature zone that is dangerous, and you have to get food through it quickly to limit the build up of bacteria, and thus poo.

I agree though that if he's so off kilter with regards his mealtimes, and frankly disrespectful not sitting down with you who has prepared it, then he should be getting his own stuff.

[user1473878824]

He sounds like a dick, sorry. He seems to be treating you like shit but... your his mum. Why have you and do you let him do this? I pity his future partners.

[pigsDOfly]

He sounds like a spoilt brat.

Of course he's saving loads and driving a nice car, he doesn't have to pay his way in life. And he speaks to you and treats you like a servant.

I bet you do all his washing and ironing as well.

God help any woman he ends up living with, that's going to be one for the future MN relationship pages.

[HoomanMoomin]

If he doesn’t get the shits, I’d be adding some MCT oil in his next couple of meals. It doesn’t have any flavour or colour, but makes you shit like no tomorrow. Might knock him down a peg or two.

[HoomanMoomin]

It’s not laxative btw. It’s actually quite good for you.

[SeaToSki]

Please hide the spare bog roll and leave a measly 2 squares on the roll currently in use 🤣

Also, start charging him rent (and put it in a savings account for him without telling him, if you have to). How is he going to learn how far his money will stretch when he has mortgage payments to account for if he is used to living rent free

[GrumpyHoonMain]

I think the solution here is to stop cooking for him.

[CrazyToast]

Sounds like your son could benefit from a bit of instructive hardship in his life. He's at home with a nice job, car , not paying his way, saving 1K a month? No wonder he thinks he has everything sorted in life, you are sheltering him and he doesnt even realise it. He needs to move out, pay his way, do his own chores and cooking and basically grow up. You think you're doing him a favour to make things so easy on him but you arent.