To send delivery men home and only pay half

[Rosebyanothername19]

We are partially moving house today and the delivery ment arrived at half 8 today ad agreed to do the first load. The idea was they take the first load with my husband while I put the baby down for a nap, meaning by the time they are back for the second load dc will be rested and in a good mood ready for the second load to be done.

All loaded in fine, dh sets off to the new house while delivery men are finishing off last few boxes. They decide they have more space so stomp upstairs (where I am trying to get dc down) and try to unlock the balcony door to get the furniture off there. It is awkward to open and stick so they start calling for me to ask why it won't open.

I unlatch the baby, go out and politely tell them to leave it and to leave the house as I'm trying to get the baby down. She is not great at sleeping when there is lots of noise going on but I had almost got her to sleep when they started stomping upstairs and she was very much woken up by the shouting!

It has just taken me another hour and lots of tears to get her to sleep and they are due back to do the second run.

So WIBU to send them home or am I cutting off my nose to spite my face and its not reasonable for the whole world to revolve around my my babys naps?

@irishbaby

Calm down love. OP has not mentioned having another baby or school runs- you’ve gone off on a random angry, pretty mad sounding tangent! And no I am not a first time mum.

And even if I was, who are are you patronise first time mums!

You can’t expect moving day where you have hired in removals company to revolve around nap time

Take her out for a drive or for a walk in the pram and let them get on with it

I know you’re tired and sleep deprivation is tough but it’s only one day

Good luck with all future life events if you are planning them to fit exactly to your baby's schedule. You have paid them to do a job. You are changing the goalposts and moving house is not exactly quiet. You could have fed baby and taken baby for a nap in the car. It is one day and one nap that you have created drama over.

Yep you've got "new baby' Syndrome' it exist to enable you to go 3 months without sleep and attack any wolves that threaten the baby. It puts your mind to sleep so you are fearless in tha face of danger.....but they ain't wolves they are working stiffs putting put on their families' table so let them do their job.....if you are brave or rich enough pay a grandparent to have the baby for the day and failing that theres always gin

YABVU. You sound like a spoilt child. You can't engage someone to do a job then send them away without pay because they get in your way/make too much noise.

YABU

It’s moving day your babies naps are going to be disrupted- you’re being ridiculous.

@OverTheRainbow88 no doubt a seasoned mum whose been doing it for years.

I'm sorry you've had a lot of unhelpful, harsh comments and patronising 'Oh, PFB, OP?

I can completely relate and sympathise to how frustrated you must have felt. I have a toddler who dosn't sleep well and if his routine and nap get compromised there's a knock on effect for a good day or so and it's not fun. Some children can't just be shoved in a pram or a carseat and magically nod off. I wish mine would!

Plus the stress of moving house would be hell so you're a trooper for not losing your absolute shit at the inconsiderate movers.

I hope you're settling in now

I haven’t read all the comments, but you’re certainly getting a lot of rude ones OP. That would’ve really annoyed me. My son wasn’t a good napper at all and your were clever to tone it between loads. I would’ve been super annoyed! It’s not like they made a noise by mistake. They explicitly went against instructions and messed things up for you! Hope your moving day goes well OP and that you’ll be very happy in your new house!

@MamaFirst

I think half of you are missing the point the delivery men - who op has EMPLOYED - was given an explicit instruction, which he arrogantly ignored. As the EMPLOYER, the op makes the rules and expectations. I'd be pissed off at them, but glad you tried to make the most of it to get the job done. Good luck with the rest of the move.

Yup totally agree with this ...

I really feel the need to comment here as if I didn’t know better I’d have thought I’d have written that post myself. I recognise the mother whose child doesn’t sleep well and your whole life revolves around those naps because you and your baby need them like your life depended on it. And you did everything you could to arrange it so the naps would work today. And the fact that someone else’s inconsideration buggered it up and you’ll be the one left to deal with a cranky baby and no time to yourself to pack/do whatever you needed for the move/have 5 mins so yourself seems so... unjust! I’ve been there. My DD didn’t sleep well for two years and i did not cope well with the lack of sleep and the lack of 5 minutes break it is the hardest thing I have ever had to cope with. I totally empathise with you. I’d have thought to cancel the delivery guys too. But yes, it’s probably right to just have to carry on and accept a crap day, even though it impacts on your whole rest of hour day and night. I’d have been fuming too that they didn’t keep it down and woke the baby as she was going off. But I have learned that this sort of thing happens all the time and no one cares less if you’re trying to get a baby to sleep. I’m sorry the world is like this. Good luck to you, hope the rest of the day went well xxx

@winniestone37

Yes; thank you, I am well seasoned human , enough so to realise a distressed sounding mum, who needs some support, rather than being verbally attacked by a bunch of randoms!

I think I would feel the same, van load or a house move, it's still stressful and if you have a child who needs that nap to get through the day, then I would feel annoyed too. Chances are the movers have kids and perhaps should have a little respect in that sense. I get they have a job to do but I think they were given clear instruction on this. I get it, you're stressed/tired and wanting dc to be fresh and happy later. Nothing wrong with feeling annoyed and sending them off, you're only human. I can relate and I'm sure it would be double as hard especially during a move/pandemic/solicitors /sellers etc on your mind during this time

And just to add, if breastfeeding it may not be as easy to just pop the dc in the pram, my DS hated the pram for naps for a while!

Oh did I upset the snowflakes?? You get on and make do, if everything revolves around baby then you will never get anything done. How is that going to help you in the long run?

If she stressed then she can ask DH for help, family friends. It was just us, so we had to do it all. No family to rally round, we got on with it, we did what needed doing. To make things easier, in long run.

She cant not pay them, just because they thought to help more as extra room in truck. Seriously.

Think you are sleep deprived and probably a first baby.... You will look back and wonder what on earth you were thinking! All been there, but do you need to move or not?!

@Rosebyanothername19

I understand about moving house and it being noisy, but we were only doing 2 loads and purposefully told them to leave the balcony stuff until the second load. We had brought everything downstairs that they were taking on the first load.

Everything would have been fine and worked perfectly if they hadn't come upstairs and shouted for me.

I understand that I'm being unreasonable to send them home but I think its unfair to say I'm being entitled. They were told not to do something, did it anyway once my husband had left and created a problem that wouldn't have happened if they did what we asked.

Completely get where your coming from, as an adult and someone who is paying for that service, it’s completely up to you how you want that service carried out. You took the time to plan it all, moved everything downstairs, explained to them to leave the balcony stuff, so yes it would have pissed me off too. It’s nobody’s business if you plan stuff around your child’s naps, that’s not what you’ve asked opinions on. Hope it went ok for you OP