To send delivery men home and only pay half

[Rosebyanothername19]

We are partially moving house today and the delivery ment arrived at half 8 today ad agreed to do the first load. The idea was they take the first load with my husband while I put the baby down for a nap, meaning by the time they are back for the second load dc will be rested and in a good mood ready for the second load to be done.

All loaded in fine, dh sets off to the new house while delivery men are finishing off last few boxes. They decide they have more space so stomp upstairs (where I am trying to get dc down) and try to unlock the balcony door to get the furniture off there. It is awkward to open and stick so they start calling for me to ask why it won't open.

I unlatch the baby, go out and politely tell them to leave it and to leave the house as I'm trying to get the baby down. She is not great at sleeping when there is lots of noise going on but I had almost got her to sleep when they started stomping upstairs and she was very much woken up by the shouting!

It has just taken me another hour and lots of tears to get her to sleep and they are due back to do the second run.

So WIBU to send them home or am I cutting off my nose to spite my face and its not reasonable for the whole world to revolve around my my babys naps?

Also, maybe try getting your baby to nap during the day in a noisy environment and then keep things super quiet at night. It teaches them the difference between night and day, means people don’t have to creep about in the day and may help the sleeping at night.

This ^

We always hoovered around sleeping babies, or had them with me in the kitchen when the washer was spinning or I was banging about cooking. They soon learn to sleep through anything.

Dear god woman. Your focus today is the move, not the baby.
One day out of routine won’t kill it.

And yes, I moved house with a 10 week old baby.

I'm amazed that in the middle of moving house and dealing with a baby, all of which you seem to find very hard work for some reason, you can still find time for a long internet rant! Maybe some time-management skills wouldn't go amiss.

I sympathise as my ds was an awful sleeper and a grumpy baby for most of his first 3 years as always tired. However, in this case the removal men didn't do anything wrong, they had extra space and tried to be more efficient by filling it. If baby falls asleep later then try and extend that nap but honestly one day out of routine isn't the end of the world.

It’s safer to have a well packed vehicle where the load is less likely to move. Did you plan the items for them based on a load of their vehicle or based on what wouldn’t disturb a baby? If they needed a couple more items to block up space at the back then this would make a lot of sense to take on the first load.

I’m going with the world doesn’t revolve around your baby, fancy having the arseache with people for doing a better job (Ie, being able to move more stuff more effectively) instead of just going “oh well computer says no” and leaving with an unful van? Best thing you can ever do is try to get your baby to sleep with a bit of noise!

I just think its idiotic, if you know someone is putting a baby to sleep, to decide to go upstairs bang on a door and then shout for the person putting the baby down to come and help. Stop! Take a deep breath.

You are moving house today.

You have hired workmen to work on a Sunday to move your possessions.

They want to get the job done.

You want to get the job done

Today is THE day to get the job done.

You and your baby will have to, of absolute necessity, fit in around the removals, or you simply won't move today!

You cannot micromanage removals, or any other workmen, once they have started a job. You will annoy them, they will annoy you, you will all be more stressed than you need be. So stop! Go outside, take the baby for a wlak, anything but stop pissing off the people who are working at your convenience!

They are moving you on a Sunday and you want them to be quiet around the nap times of your baby? Too funny - excellent thread though

YABVVU.

Must add that I am so impressed that during move you have time to post on MN. Even after around 10 moves I still hardly have time to make the removers a cup of tea.

YABU, but sympathies, OP. Moving house is bloody stressful and knackering, and I've never had to do it with a child. Good on you for coming back and saying that. YABVVR for that. Hope you get done what you needed to today, and enjoy the new house!

Oh get over yourself OP

It's never easy moving. Take it easy have lots of and maybe get a takeaway and hopefully in a day or two you can get a normal routine again. In the meantime don't pour pressure on yourself! It won't hurt your baby to be working around things. Second children do it every day
They're doing a job, being paid to get it done and if the van is completely full they're only doing their job.

This is one of those circumstances where it’s just tough and everyone works around the house move.

I can’t actually fathom the plan that you originally had to be honest: that you came up with it in the first place, or that you thought it was reasonable or would work!

Why would you want to drag it out and cut your nose off to spite your face 🤷🏻‍♀️
It’s moving day, my opinion is it’s mad to think it’s going to be anything that resembles normal including the babies nap, also very unfair to expect to pay half as your being very fickle

"I just think its idiotic, if you know someone is putting a baby to sleep, to decide to go upstairs bang on a door and then shout for the person putting the baby down to come and help."
I just think it's idiotic to organise for delivery men to clear your house of furniture and then expect them to be quiet enough for a tired/hungry baby to get off to sleep.

If you want them to leave then just tell them but expect to pay 100% because you have a contract with them and you are the one breaking its terms.

As nicely as possible op, get a grip. They do this for a living, they’re trying to be as efficient as possible. You stated a preference that the downstairs stuff be moved first, they’ve decided it would make more sense to shift the upstairs stuff in the first run. You’re moving house, I’m surprised that you’re even attempting any sort of routine at all today, let alone keeping to a rigid timetable where the men you’ve hired to help you move house have to stop so your baby can have a nap. It’s one day. Just let them do what they came to do and go home

Op the removal men don't give a toss about your baby and her nap they are just there to move your stuff!! It's hard and one of mi e was a demon without naps but some days you have to suck it up and write it off as a really shit and stressful day.

Good luck with the move.

Hilarious!

You're being really precious
Sorry op

Moving house and having a baby are really stressful OP. But you need to let the schedule go for one day and just accept that you’re probably going to have it rough for a day or two for the sake of getting moved. I appreciate that you are probably anxious and exhausted but this isn’t the removal men’s problem, they just need to get their job done. I think a better plan might have been to pop baby in a sling and just crack on. They tend to fall asleep eventually if you’re moving about.

Hilarious, really. Glad you've seen sense, OP.

You need to break the 'needs absolute silence' to sleep habit now. It might be painful to begin with since you've started it, but it will really impact your life if you don't. I had a friend that did something similar with her first, baby required it's own bed, pyjamas, and a designated time in the afternoon to sleep, and man did she soon regret that she'd done this. She could go nowhere in the afternoons for months on end because he wouldn't sleep anywhere else. Ever. She didn't make that mistake again!

I'm all for sticking to routine but I think moving day really does count as an exception. If DC's nap was so important it would probably have been better to not be in the house.