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To send delivery men home and only pay half

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Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 10:36

We are partially moving house today and the delivery ment arrived at half 8 today ad agreed to do the first load. The idea was they take the first load with my husband while I put the baby down for a nap, meaning by the time they are back for the second load dc will be rested and in a good mood ready for the second load to be done.

All loaded in fine, dh sets off to the new house while delivery men are finishing off last few boxes. They decide they have more space so stomp upstairs (where I am trying to get dc down) and try to unlock the balcony door to get the furniture off there. It is awkward to open and stick so they start calling for me to ask why it won't open.

I unlatch the baby, go out and politely tell them to leave it and to leave the house as I'm trying to get the baby down. She is not great at sleeping when there is lots of noise going on but I had almost got her to sleep when they started stomping upstairs and she was very much woken up by the shouting!

It has just taken me another hour and lots of tears to get her to sleep and they are due back to do the second run.

So WIBU to send them home or am I cutting off my nose to spite my face and its not reasonable for the whole world to revolve around my my babys naps?

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Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 19:03

@Nicknacky I agree that this morning I was overly annoyed, but now I'm more perturbed by people's harsh comments for the sake of £60 that would have been added onto next weeks bill! (Or just paid anyway today as I would have felt guilty!)

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SeasonFinale · 12/07/2020 19:05

They may have turned down work to fit your job in. Pay them in full for what you booked even if you cancel the second run.

cansu · 12/07/2020 20:14

Are you for real? You are moving house. Baby needs to fit around moving. It would be utterly ridiculous to send them away in a fit of pique because your baby's routine is upset!

Gooseygoosey12345 · 12/07/2020 20:30

It's a house move!! Imagine someone employing you to do something then them telling you not to do it, oh and you're not getting paid. Stop being ridiculous. If you refuse to see that you're in the wrong then why I ask the question? They're trying to get as much in one load which saves you time and money if you're paying per load, and you're getting arsey about it. It's insane!

Gooseygoosey12345 · 12/07/2020 20:31

It's a house move!! Imagine someone employing you to do something then them telling you not to do it, oh and you're not getting paid. Stop being ridiculous. If you refuse to see that you're in the wrong then why I ask the question? They're trying to get as much in one load which saves you time and money if you're paying per load, and you're getting arsey about it. It's insane!

Thisismytimetoshine · 12/07/2020 20:36

Expecting workmen to arrange their working day around your baby's nap is so bloody ridiculous it's hard to believe this is real.
You actually thought you could pay half the agreed rate??
Grow up, for Gods sake Confused

BackforGood · 12/07/2020 21:16

I do have to agree with absolutely EVERYONE else.

I can also speak as someone who moved house when my pfb was 3 weeks old.
What I therefore did, was remove me and my baby from the situation altogether. We went and sat at my Mum and Dad's for the morning. Let the people we had paid to do the job, actually do the job they were being paid to do, not get in their way.

You can't employ someone for a day then expect them to work around the fact you think your baby needs a sleep. If you've booked them, they have very likely turned down other work or other things they might be doing.

Y were BVVVVVU at the start, and even with little added bits of information, haven't made yourself any less so.

Thisismytimetoshine · 12/07/2020 21:37

I would just have thought that they should have more common sense.
Confused
They were doing the job they'd been engaged to do, the only one lacking common sense in this scenario is you.

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Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 21:46

I'm really not getting arsey at all! I've totally accepted that not everything can revolve around my DCs naps and suspected I was BU at the beginning of all this. But I was frustrated at the time but it all worked out OK in the end.

I find it slightly annoying that people are making it into something much bigger than it was. It was a couple of hours this morning, that was all. Not a full house move and not their entire livelihood.
With a 1 year old that struggles with sleep, missing a morning nap can basically ruin a whole day. For the first 9 months I basically got screamed at day and night until we found a routine that worked. So yes I get annoyed when it gets messed up, yes PFB and yes I'm working on it.

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CheshireDing · 12/07/2020 21:50

Why didn’t you just go out for a walk or on the car with DC whilst the removal men were there ?

Surely the child would have slept at some point if you went for a walk, play, picnic ?🤷‍♀️

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Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 21:53

@CheshireDing I would absolutely love it if that could happen!!! Fingers crossed we will get there, but not just yet unfortunately!

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Gooseygoosey12345 · 12/07/2020 22:57

If everybody behaved this way it would be their entire livelihood though. There's no excuse. Even if it messed up your entire day it's one day. You're stressing yourself out and your child will pick up on it, in turn making your life harder. Seriously, for your own benefit, learn to go with the flow a bit more (I'm not saying that rudely).

Stannisbaratheonsboxofmatches · 12/07/2020 23:00

I don’t think you should cancel as it’s far more bother than it’s worth, but it is annoying.

Did they know what the plan was an why?

Oscarsdaddy · 13/07/2020 17:46

Totally unreasonable

You are moving house yet don’t seem to want any upheaval or inconvenience to your life

LIZS · 13/07/2020 17:58

Yabu. If you wanted peace you could have gone on ahead with baby or waited until they had actually left. You cannot short pay just because they inconvenienced your dc!

FelicisNox · 13/07/2020 17:58

Is this a joke?

You need to pay them and stop being ridiculous. You're moving house FGS.

Just get on with it. If you've got time to post on here, you've got time to deal with your baby.

OverTheRainbow88 · 13/07/2020 18:01

OP has replied numerous times and explained herself, which she doesn’t need to do to a bunch of strangers.

I think it’s now time to leave her alone

Best of luck with your move @Rosebyanothername19

ToBBQorNotToBBQ · 13/07/2020 18:05

Definately YABU. I get it though.

WendyE · 13/07/2020 18:28

Sorry, definitely YABU.
Removal men don't have to revolve around your baby, that's your concern. Their concern is moving furniture etc, and that's what they are paid for.
Just get the job done, pay them in full, and move on. Tomorrow's another day.

HannaYeah · 13/07/2020 18:29

Big difference between actually moving and just paying someone to haul some things from point a to point b.

If you hire someone to do something they need to listen and do as you asked unless there is a safety issue preventing it.

It was not any inconvenience to these yahoos; OP and her DH told them there would be two loads and she was paying by the load. So doing it exactly as asked would have meant they got paid exactly as they expected and spent the amount of time anticipated to do the work.

It’s mental for a bunch of strange men to interrupt a nursing mother just because they can’t be bothered to listen! I grew up knowing you don’t bother a nursing mother, period, even if it’s a relative.

But obviously from the responses here both listening and reading are becoming lost arts.

Nicknacky · 13/07/2020 18:31

I was taught many things growing up, but never that a nursing mother must not be disturbed 😂😂

Thisismytimetoshine · 13/07/2020 18:36

Me neither... Weird.

irishbaby · 13/07/2020 18:47

I wont apologise to you for what I'm going to say, but you sound like those first time mums who get pregnant with a second then whine and moan about " how on earth will I manage the school run when baby be napping at that time "

Seriously, jump off the high horse, pay the tram who you employed. They do there job. Just because you cant settle ya baby to nap dont punish hard working people.

I have 4 DC, only started driving just before dd7 ( youngest) so walking, buses. Should I of told all of bus to be quiet if baby sleeping.

Mine would sleep through hooves, car revs, music loud, dogs barking, slamming doors.

You cant make no noise at all, or the get used to it. You want them used to noise, makes life easier.

School runs with a baby, get over it. Strap them up, and get going. Makes me laugh ppl moan about it. But you decided on more kids, so have to get baby used to it. Easier in long run.

I'm 36, I been there and done it, so bring on the comments, from probably first time mums who wish to blah blah blah

GROW UP AND PAY THE MOVERS

Sugartitties · 13/07/2020 18:58

batshit

Cockadoodledooo · 13/07/2020 19:11

I'd have gone to the new house with the baby while they were packing up. Even if your move was only partial today you could have taken chair/drinks/travel cot and set up camp there. Baby would have been rested by the time they arrived (or never if it's anything like my 2 were).