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To send delivery men home and only pay half

194 replies

Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 10:36

We are partially moving house today and the delivery ment arrived at half 8 today ad agreed to do the first load. The idea was they take the first load with my husband while I put the baby down for a nap, meaning by the time they are back for the second load dc will be rested and in a good mood ready for the second load to be done.

All loaded in fine, dh sets off to the new house while delivery men are finishing off last few boxes. They decide they have more space so stomp upstairs (where I am trying to get dc down) and try to unlock the balcony door to get the furniture off there. It is awkward to open and stick so they start calling for me to ask why it won't open.

I unlatch the baby, go out and politely tell them to leave it and to leave the house as I'm trying to get the baby down. She is not great at sleeping when there is lots of noise going on but I had almost got her to sleep when they started stomping upstairs and she was very much woken up by the shouting!

It has just taken me another hour and lots of tears to get her to sleep and they are due back to do the second run.

So WIBU to send them home or am I cutting off my nose to spite my face and its not reasonable for the whole world to revolve around my my babys naps?

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boomboom1234 · 12/07/2020 10:46

Omg. Precious first born much?!? Sorry OP don't mean to sound mean but it's very over the top to have planned everything down to such detail. You are moving house it's going to be crazy hectic. Baby might have a few crazy days and be fed up. You will be fine. Put baby in pram go for a walk, have a coffee and try to go with the flow.

Winterwoollies · 12/07/2020 10:47

Are you serious? You’re moving house today. They’re removal people doing the job they were engaged for. Why on earth should they try to do it pussyfooting around your baby?? Crikey.

Firstly, you NEED them to move for you.
Secondly, please don’t be one of those people that expects the world to stop for your precious child.
Thirdly, you absolutely cannot half pay them if you’re the one making changes.
Fourthly, get a grip and learn to be adaptable. Your baby won’t give a shit.

FartingNora · 12/07/2020 10:47

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rainbowunicorn · 12/07/2020 10:48

FFS stop being so bloody precious. You will have many occasions where the rest of the world won't be able to wait around to suit the needs of your child. You just have to get on with things and the baby will sleep when it needs to.
I really don't know how some people get through a day the way they carry on. Dont be ridiculous.

youhave4substitutes · 12/07/2020 10:48

😂 wow.

It's idiotic to try and put a baby down for a nap during a house move.

You told them to leave?!

Winterwoollies · 12/07/2020 10:49

Also, maybe try getting your baby to nap during the day in a noisy environment and then keep things super quiet at night. It teaches them the difference between night and day, means people don’t have to creep about in the day and may help the sleeping at night.

ihatelockdown · 12/07/2020 10:49

Are you serious? If I was there to do a job I couldn't give a hoot if a baby was trying to sleep! That's your problem

viques · 12/07/2020 10:49

Smoking house is incredibly stressful, as is having a baby who isn't a great nap taker.

What you have today is a perfect storm of the two. I think you need to keep telling yourself it's only one day, it's only one day. Concentrate on you and the baby, take her out for a stroll in the park, find a coffee shop, eat cake and leave all the physical and emotional heavy lifting of move to the people you are paying good money to and your OH.

When you are both in the new house make sure your first job is to make up the babies bed and your bed so that at the end of the day you both get a nights sleep.

Original poster
Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 10:49

Oh and paying half was because we pay per load and they would be doing 1 instead of 2. But last run they did 3 instead of 2, as they did an extra one. We could have added it back onto the final run next week so they wouldn't have completely lost out. I just wouldn't have a screaming baby for the rest of the day...

But yes, we will just carry on and hope for the best!

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Dollywilde · 12/07/2020 10:49

Moving house with a baby was always going to be a nightmare. Sorry OP, but this ones just going to have to be a ‘do what you can’ day. Let the movers get on with their job, stay as far from the madness as possible, you’ll have earned a glass of wine at the end of the day when you’re all moved in to your new house Wine

SarahBellam · 12/07/2020 10:49

Why didn’t you go over to the new house first? Surely you knew they’d be clanking around. Moving is not a quiet job.

viques · 12/07/2020 10:50

smoking house ????? Moving house.

Nicknacky · 12/07/2020 10:50

No, you would be creating extra work that they won’t have timed for. Just let them get on with it and stop being so daft.

crimsonlake · 12/07/2020 10:50

I have to be honest in that this is one of the strangest and entitled posts I have ever read. No the world does not stop turning because you have a baby.

BluebellForest836 · 12/07/2020 10:53

They are there to do a job. If they can fit more on the van then it makes sense to fill it. They haven’t done anything wrong.

LynetteScavo · 12/07/2020 10:54

Yabu not to get a removal company and get it done in one day if you're that precious. Or rent a van and do it yourself so you can work around the baby. Or go to a hotel room for the day so baby can nap undisturbed. Or let the baby nap in the car.

YABVU

I speak as some one who moved house 5 times with small children.

Charleyhorses · 12/07/2020 10:56

The quicker they do it, the sooner you will be settled in the new house. Put baby in pram and just go out!

Elouera · 12/07/2020 10:58

Too late now, but why didnt u and baby go to new house earlier and nap there? Or walk around the block or in a park? Or go to a friends house for a few hours? Or get baby ear muffs to block the noise?

Original poster
Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 11:04

I understand about moving house and it being noisy, but we were only doing 2 loads and purposefully told them to leave the balcony stuff until the second load. We had brought everything downstairs that they were taking on the first load.

Everything would have been fine and worked perfectly if they hadn't come upstairs and shouted for me.

I understand that I'm being unreasonable to send them home but I think its unfair to say I'm being entitled. They were told not to do something, did it anyway once my husband had left and created a problem that wouldn't have happened if they did what we asked.

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heartsonacake · 12/07/2020 11:04

Yep, YABU. The world does not revolve around your kids nap time, and the delivery drivers needed your attention so of course they had to come up to speak to you.

airbags · 12/07/2020 11:05

Surely this is a joke post?
If not you need a sense of reality and perspective - the world will not revolve around you being precious. Don't evolve into "that" parent.

Original poster
Rosebyanothername19 · 12/07/2020 11:08

I'm working on getting her to sleep in other places and noisy environments as it is very limiting, but so is a baby who screams most of the time if she hasn't slept.

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TheMerryWidow1 · 12/07/2020 11:08

Perhaps they were trying to get most of it done so they could go home to their families. I presume you don’t have anyone close by to mind baby? Enjoy yr new home.

Nicknacky · 12/07/2020 11:10

You are actually complaining that the delivery men were trying to do as much work as possible? Just stop and think how ridiculous that sounds.

airbags · 12/07/2020 11:11

So 100% say you're being unreasonable, 2 pages of messages and instead of taking it on the chin you're still taking the stance that they should have done as they were told? It's one day - get over it.